The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Rowingirl

Thanks ladies. I have some things planned; DH & I are going to a gig on Saturday and I'm meeting some friends next week. I'm back at work as well and things are really busy (but not stressful) so I occassionally forget about 2ww.

That's really exciting Derby; I really hope your EC goes well and they find a mature egg in each follie. It sounds like you'll be joining me next week .

star02

On a slightly differnt topic my husband has told his family about the upcoming treatment and they got onto the topic of babynames etc. I can't help but feel that this is all a bit too much, i.e. if doesn't work that this is setting him up for a bigger dissapointment. It's as if its a going to work and it may not. How do you handle others expectations and would it be rude to ask them not to discuss the matter.

time2deal

It's hard to stop them planning, it's a big deal for the family too. Plus I find people tend to think 'Oh, you are doing IVF - so that should sort that problem out. When will you be pregnant?'.

They don't seem to realise that IVF isn't a magic wand.

My SIL spoke to me a while back and said 'I found out the other day that IVF isn't guaranteed to work. Do you know that? Just so you don't think it will definitely work first time.' I smiled.

EVERYONE knows what I'm up to. It has its pros and cons. Although they don't know I'm doing it right now. I'll let them know afterwards. Don't need the extra stress.

I may be doing something foolish though. I need to get some damp work done at home, and they will be doing it all next week. From Tuesday to Saturday, possibly Sunday. I'll be stimming, and doing EC/ET during that time. Am I crazy? The only other option is to do it in the 2WW, which might be worse!

It's actually super busy next week, I suppose it will keep my mind off things.

time2deal

Yay for being excited Derby! We are all here for you. In fact - we expect you to wake up from the meds, grab your phone and update us before calling your mum. I presume DH will be with you, so you can tell him first.

Am I the only one who has a general for EC? It doesn't seem that common. I know Tea Lover does, as we share the love of a good drug cocktail.

RG I'll be very impressed if you make it to, and past, OTD. Not sure I'll be able too. Although - I probably will. There is nothing in the world worse than sitting watching the white space on a test stay white, so in some ways I'd rather just wait and hope until a blood test.

Vesper Are you still late? Still avoiding testing?

tea_lover

T2D, I only do ivf for the GA!

Wonder_Woman

Derby2 - that's so exciting that your EC is on Thursday!! Must seem very real now you have the appointment time and all. Will be thinking of you and checking for your updates. Will you have some time off after ET?

T2D - glad your scan went well, sounds like all is moving along nicely. I'm definitely hoping for a general for EC if we get that far, so fingers crossed its optional. As for the damp work, you might feel better knowing its out of the way and they won't be bothering you during 2ww?

PM - is there someone else you can see if FS goes on leave?

RG - good that you have something to take your mind off the 2ww at least a little bit of the time. Work has its uses eh?

SewIt - how did you find your conselling appointment? We had a couple but can't decide if its helping or not.

Thanks for all the luck today ladies! Scan went well despite being half hour late - ovaries were 'quiet' and lining nice and thin so starting stims tomorrow Trying not to get hopes up so keep telling myself if this cycle goes t*ts up at least I can drown my sorrows with cocktails at all the work christmas events :rotfl:

Wonder_Woman

star02 wrote: »

How do you handle others expectations and would it be rude to ask them not to discuss the matter.

As T2D said, I think people just hear 'IVF' and assume its a given that you will have quintuplets at the end of your first cycle.

Now that my manager knows work are already planning how they will cope without me in 9/10 months time. I just keep gently reminding them that things are by no means guaranteed and I'll most likely still be there.

I don't think it would be rude to explain that you don't want to talk about it too much as don't want to get hopes up etc.

Part_Mouse

WW Glad your scan went well. fraid not, shes the only one there.

time2deal

God - just had a nightmare getting home. Got to the central line, and it was delayed so hundreds of people queuing. I slowly get in and towards the stairs, when I remember the bl00dy menopur in the fridge!! Back I go (10 mins walk each way), pick up the drugs, come back, queue again... tube home.. then get to my station and I've lost my oyster card somewhere! I spent 10 minutes searching through all the random pockets in my bag but it's just not there.

The guard let me out, but now I've got to cancel my oyster + credit card and work pass that were all together.

and breathe... I've injected at least, and may have had a few pre-dinner chocolates...

Part_Mouse

T2d what a journey you had I hate the central line.horrid horrid line.