12-24 weeks pregnant (part2)

RobotsinDisguse

wangdoodle wrote: »

Well if you're abnormal Robots that makes two of us I think it's normal to want to hold off a bit when it's not been straightforward, and you've had more stress than most x

How exciting that you felt movement Firey.

that's what I mean, I felt odd as I thought I was the only one not to have shouted about it loudly at the earliest possible chance. I'm glad I'm not the only one

Has anyone any nice ideas for putting something on Facebook? I'm aware I don't want to upset anyone trying, as I've seen that it does on the TTC thread, or am I being too cautious?

wangdoodle

I'm not sure what I'll do tbh, I'm not a massive Facebook fan and I can see how it might upset people. I think if I do share on there I'll do a custom post and select who to share or not share with, as I know/ suspect some of my friends that would be upset if they saw it.

fireyfirenze

RobotsinDisguse wrote: »

that's what I mean, I felt odd as I thought I was the only one not to have shouted about it loudly at the earliest possible chance. I'm glad I'm not the only one

Has anyone any nice ideas for putting something on Facebook? I'm aware I don't want to upset anyone trying, as I've seen that it does on the TTC thread, or am I being too cautious?

I didn't put a picture of my scan up because I felt it might upset people. mainly my sister who's been TTC for 5 years and is waiting for IVF. stupid really as we're so close and she's the first one I sent the picture to anyway. I just put a little announcement about how this year was the last Christmas me and my OH would spend as a 2. just felt it was a bit more subtle, I don't know.

sophiasmum

I haven't announced on fb and don't intend too - someone I know has just announced and I messaged her to tell her as we will be off at same time.

I went out with a wide group of friends Fri and became obvious one didn't know! (Friend of friend) I just don't like shouting it around....she said she just thought I was getting podgy

Watching cbb final- going to miss watching it for the hour before bed! (Always love so called careful tv programmes!)

Lara44

Exciting about the movement, Firey

Glad the news has gone down well in your family, Wangdoodle.

One person I know on Facebook put a photo of a stork, which I thought was quite sweet and more subtle than a scan pic. Funny to think about the baby being on the Internet before it's even born!

AquamarineMonkey

Sorry to hear so many other ladies are not feeling too well either, hope you all start to feel better soon!

Exciting news about you feeling your baby kick firey. I felt mine quite early on as light tapping inside, now I'm almost 17 weeks it's the same feeling but much more forceful. I'm still not having the proper hard kicks that make your stomach move, but I think that's much later anyway. I love feeling baby move, it's one of the best bits of pregnancy along with scans I think.

Robots the first announcement I made on Facebook with DS was the day he was born, and I'm the same with this baby. When we told friends and family I made a point of saying "and it's not go on Facebook". I don't know why I feel like this, I just do. I had lots of complications with DS so I think I didn't want to tempt fate by announcing it before he was here safely, but this time round I'm much more relaxed but still not wanting to announce it on Facebook. I actually find the people who give a daily update of their pregnancy on Facebook really annoying. I have a friend (of a friend) that does this and it winds me up and I'm pregnant myself, so lord knows how one of our mutual friends who has been trying for years and is currently going through IVF feels about it, or anybody that's sadly suffered a loss, or anybody who is unable to have children. Mind you I'm guilty of posting lots of pictures and updates about DS on there so maybe I'm equally as annoying? That said, I don't do it every day, not even every week. I'm more of a browser than a poster.

Firey your subtle announcement sounds nice. Scan pictures don't actually wind me up, it's the updates that compare the baby to the same sized fruit etc etc on a regular basis. Maybe I'm just becoming grumpy in my old age, it could just be that people are very excited to be pregnant. I'm very excited and anybody that's seen me in person knows this, but I don't neccesarily think it's something everybody on Facebook needs to know. Even OH who will update his Facebook with something as mundane as what he's watching on the TV each day is in agreement with the no posting about baby on there. I do get tagged in a few pictures if I fail to avoid the camera, so I suppose there's a chance it will be inadvertently announced that way, although all the ones I've seen so far I've either got a well positioned toddler infront of me, or holding a friends baby so it's not obvious.

I must sound like a right Victor Meldrew but I'm not honest!

Baby must have woken up, kicks are definitely getting stronger, always seems to wake up and kick away around 10 or 11pm. Had another colleague comment on my size again today with "you're getting quite a bump now aren't you!", it was another friendly colleague though, and certainly not someone who would ever intentionally try to upset someone over their size being a larger lady herself. A nice lady gave me her seat on the packed train the other day too when she saw I was pregnant, so having a big bump early on has it's advantages I can't imagine how big I'll be by 40 weeks. I'm thinking of taking maternity leave at 34 weeks now, which is 2 weeks earlier than I was thinking initially, but I think there's going to come a point when I struggle to fit behind the steering wheel of the car and through the door of the train, although I managed to drive up to 39+6 with DS.

RobotsinDisguse

Thanks Aqua, I really appreciate your thoughts on fb. Those automated "baby = orange" posts annoy me too.

I've a lot of friends scattered all over the country, who I only see once or twice a year but who I care a lot for. I guess I could just message the ones I think would I prefer to know.

My uncle found out I'd got married Afterwards due to FB. He wasn't talking to my dad, didn't reply to my request for his address/telephone number, and lived abroad so I didn't invite him, so I've felt the backlash of someone being hurt for not knowing something in advance.

I think I'll make a list of those I've told already to check I've not missed anyone important out, (quite possible as I've told people in fits & starts), and make some calls if I need to. Then list those to call after 20 week scan. Right. I'm happier now I have a plan.

Sorry I've been a right worrier today. I got a letter from my consultant informing me they'd booked me another appointment (!). Apart from thinking its rude to summon someone without checking in free, my midwife & I weren't expecting another just yet, so haven't out in place my request to change (or at very least to see the named consultant not the horrid Registrar like last time). So I'm worrying about calling midwife/hospital tomorow.

AquamarineMonkey

robots I think it's only natural to worry during pregnancy, it doesn't get any better once they're here! Especially as you've had additional worries and concerns too. I spent the whole of my first pregnancy worrying, I'm not so bad this time as it was the unknown that scared me and it's not so much unknown to me anymore. although I do still have my moments of worry!

I hope you manage to sort our changing consultants without much fuss. I've not met either of my consultants yet (I will have 2 for different things), but have a couple of appointments in March. The consultant I saw in my last pregnancy was lovely though, so I really feel for you getting a bad one!

neverdespairgirl

AquamarineMonkey wrote: »

Neverdespairgirl will you also have to return to work quite quickly after having your baby to avoid losing clients? It must be much more stressful being self employed than working for an employer.

There are lots of good things about being self-employed too, like the time when a week-long trial settles on Monday morning, and you can go and pick your son up from school and give him a surprise fun afternoon in the park.

But yes, I won't take too long off.

neverdespairgirl

AquamarineMonkey wrote: »

robots I think it's only natural to worry during pregnancy, it doesn't get any better once they're here! Especially as you've had additional worries and concerns too. I spent the whole of my first pregnancy worrying, I'm not so bad this time as it was the unknown that scared me and it's not so much unknown to me anymore. although I do still have my moments of worry!

I'm not sure you ever stop worrying - my Dad still tells me to drive carefully, and my Mama still checks on our health / wearing warm clothes / eating properly!