12-24 weeks pregnant (part2)

sjlou

Kynthia wrote: »

I intend to return to work either full time or 4 days a week, depending on bills, childcare and the status of hubbie's job. Out if interest, does anyone else have to give 3 months when resigning?

I have to give 3 months notice, it's pretty standard in our industry and my last employer held me to it.
I'm also hoping to go back 4 days per week, a 3 day week would have been fab but is just not practical and would not get signed off by the bosses.
OH does Locum work, so will prob have a day or 2 off in the week and work weekends, leaving us with 2-3 days of childcare needed.
Then fingers crossed if we have a second, I'd leave then and spend a couple of years as a sahm before picking up my career again when they're at school.

I get the sneeze pains sometimes as well.
I'm really struggling to not sleep on my back! Think I need to get myself one of those massive pillows.

I'm using a week annual leave to finish at around 37 weeks. Fingers crossed I feel well enough to do that.

squ1rrel5

Well I had my maternity meeting yesterday - hopefully the holiday situation won't end up being too complicated. I get 22 days holiday and will accrue all the bank holidays in the year. However I can't carry them over into the following holiday year so will need to use them all next year when I'm on mat leave. That either means taking them before the baby is born, or finishing my maternity leave at the end of November, and taking the whole of December off as holiday. I was planning on returning to work in the January so might work out okay. As there are only 21 working days in December, might mean having to take 6 days holiday before the I start my Mat Leave - think I can cope with that!

Went on a work night out last night - me and my pregnant colleague were planning on leaving early, however ended up being the last ones standing as all the ones drinking were dropping like flies. This sober lark isn't too bad after all! I was the only one who got chatted up on the night out too - although his face fell when I told him I was pg, bless him!! Least it made me feel like I must have got to the blooming stage!!!

The sneezing thing is so weird - sometimes it's really painful but then I get other times when I don't feel a thing. Must depend on position of baby at the time?

con1888

Grr I am so !!!!ed off and need to vent...

OH went to his best mates last night, fine I said, do come home ( as he often just decides to stay OR falls asleep on the couch) 'okay I will' so I'm still awake at 2am and send him a text to see if he's coming home ' yes' then not long after I get another text ' not coming home will explain tomorrow, drama' so naturally I reply ' no you will explain now!' so he phones me, I hear arguing going on and he says his best pal and the fiance have fallen out bla bla bla, he's trying to help sort it bla bla bla..... my advice was just come home you are not likely to be able to help its between them and they will sort it out when sober..... he decides no he will stay ...........

well he's still not bloody home and his phone is now out of charge AND I don't have his pals number. Got a text at 6am to say he's trying to calm his friend down and will bring breakfast in in the morning... told him don't bother I don't want to speak to him today...


Long rant there and I apologise for anyone reading it but I NEED to vent. I can see his side as if it was my friend I too would probably want to stay and support them but then again... i've not been feeling well, i'm pregnant and the LAST thing I said to him before he went out is ' come home'


Am I right to be absolutely mad at him ? Actually hoping he doesn't come home til later when I am out as I don't even want to see him right now !!!!

Jox

I would be mad too, these sorts of things only happen when people drink too much, grrrrr (on your behalf)

con1888

Jox wrote: »

I would be mad too, these sorts of things only happen when people drink too much, grrrrr (on your behalf)

Yep, he thinks as ' best man' he should try help... I said it's their mess, they will probably kiss and make up when they have sobered up.

He likely wont be home til much later if they have been up all night arguing... I'm going to have a bath then go out, so he won't get to go to bed when he gets home as he doesn't have a key, he can sit on the doorstep or go see his mum or something.

:mad:

Much grovelling to be done later i'm thinking, more so the fact he isn't home yet, had he come home early this morning I wouldn't have been so mad.

Jox

Go and do something, go shopping, see friends, family etc, distract yourself, he'll be hungover probably.
My hubby thinks he's a single guy sometimes and has a big drink then suffers the next day and ruins my Sunday for example cos he just stays in bed and we can't do something together. Still got growing up to do!
Try not to worry too much, go and do something nice for yourself x

con1888

Jox wrote: »

Go and do something, go shopping, see friends, family etc, distract yourself, he'll be hungover probably.
My hubby thinks he's a single guy sometimes and has a big drink then suffers the next day and ruins my Sunday for example cos he just stays in bed and we can't do something together. Still got growing up to do!
Try not to worry too much, go and do something nice for yourself x

He does that too, ends up in bed all the next day. I'm running a bath atm so going to read a book, get ready put some makeup on for a change and go some shopping ( window shopping really) I was hoping one of my friends would be free for lunch but they're all busy.

I will get the last laugh as he gets gout and it flares up when he's been drinking and he has to hobble about, usually I feel sorry for him but not this time he hasn't had a drink in months due to it so hell mend him.

Thanks for understanding, made me feel better that I'm not just being a psycho, these hormones are wild ! x

TeamLowe

Honestly con, I don't know what it is about men when they drink with friends. They can have all the good intentions in the world and really mean 'I won't stay out late/drink much/will come home' and really understand that it's important to you
but somehow soon as alcohol touches their lips all that goes out the window and they'll do whatever their friends tell them
It's saved my sanity a lot over the years to just not believe DH when he says anything before a night out lol

I think your plan is a good one, make the beggar suffer a little, especially easy if he's hungover and make sure he makes it up to you in some way. I usually insist on a nice take away and chocolate being fetched

Hope he's appropriately shamed when he does get home x

con1888

TeamLowe wrote: »

Honestly con, I don't know what it is about men when they drink with friends. They can have all the good intentions in the world and really mean 'I won't stay out late/drink much/will come home' and really understand that it's important to you
but somehow soon as alcohol touches their lips all that goes out the window and they'll do whatever their friends tell them
It's saved my sanity a lot over the years to just not believe DH when he says anything before a night out lol

I think your plan is a good one, make the beggar suffer a little, especially easy if he's hungover and make sure he makes it up to you in some way. I usually insist on a nice take away and chocolate being fetched

Hope he's appropriately shamed when he does get home x

It's like their brain disappears !! He's lucky I don't have any trust problems as I know a few girls who would freak right out and be dragging him out of his friends house.

He will suffer, don't worry, I'm thinking silent treatment for today and then tomorrow he can either take me for lunch/dinner or something. I also feel sorry for my dog, he's been window watching all morning and wandering about the house looking lost, so OH will be made take him a long walk when he comes in.

Jox

My hubby gets quite down a few days after a binge drink, he gets a cold as well but when I tell him it's because of the booze up he doesn't want to believe me. He doesn't drink too much these days cos it has dawned on him a little that he will suffer the consequences (his own health problems not my wrath!) I have been known to go to the cinema by myself if friends weren't free and switch my phone off so he can see it's not nice when the OH disappears without contact!
Good idea, go window shopping and maybe have a hot choc or something in a coffee place for a while with something to read.