12-24 weeks pregnant (part2)

mancbird

Hello Robotsindisguise, sorry to hear you have had bad news This thread is normally lovely (I'm a long time lurker, but haven't commented much due to my own issues) and very supportive so please don't let the last few days put you off xxx

clearing_out_my_pockets

marywooyeah wrote: »

Sexkitten perhaps consideration is a word that others could learn? You could not possibly understand anything of my situation or anything ive suffered in my life, I dont want a girl to suffer anything that I have and I wouldn't be able to offer a girl the love she'd need due to these experiences. She's not an inconvenience, she'd just be better off without me and whilst its great that you're having an enjoyable pregnancy its not a reason to look down on those who arent.

I have tried very hard not to rise to your posts but I can't.

Mary you ask for people to be considerate to you and you have accused people of being insensitive to your feelings. Many of the women on this thread have struggled to conceive or have had bad news at the 20 week scan. Bad news as in a disabled child or a non viable pregnancy. Have you not considered that your posts (after a two week stint on the trying to conceive Tyas) can be seen as a slap in the face to women desperate for a child; any child. Not to mention inconsiderate and insensitive.

Surely when you became pregnant you knew the odds were 50/50. Did the fact that you might have a girl SERIOUSLY not even enter your head? If the prospect of having a girl is so traumatic that you are considering adoption, perhaps trying to conceive was a bad idea in hindsight.

I hope you find the resolution that suits you.

samtoby

Enough is enough. We have all had bad things happen to us - it doesn't matter what it is its how it affects us. I have friends who have depression and anxiety over events that other friends have moved on with. It is how we deal with those events, I have had something utterly horrifying happen to me as a child that I would not wish it on my worst enemy and I struggle with it alot - but it is not impressed onto my son - he will never know about my childhood - if he ever asks it was as rosy as possible.

If you and your husband have those feelings then why on earth did you try for a baby knowing you had a 50% chance it would be a girl. I can only assume if your little boy had been a girl you would have had no children as that child would have been adopted.

I do hope you are able to speak to someone - I really think if you went to an Adoption service they would definatly question your situation and why and I imagine you will have answers for all of that based on your posts.



Anyway welcome RobotsinDisguse and I am sorry you have had a bad time. I do hope it will all be ok for you - if you are worried do go and speak to the ladies on the next thread - just because your not in that time frame of pregnancy does not mean you can not go there and chat about your concerns.

Anyway like some other ladies, I am off, I am absolutly petrified of my scan on Monday and I did want to talk about my worries, but I think I will keep them to myself.

Speak soon ladies xx

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So going from mildly upset because its a girl to now talking about adoption because its a girl oh my word , sorry I think that is totally diabolical and something really does not sit right with the situate to me ,
After losing babies myself I would be so grateful to carry a healthy baby , you can not post that and seriously not expect to get any negative feedback.

sophiasmum

Samtoby will be thinking of you on Monday x im getting scared for my scan now as well.
Re recent posts its all very odd, the more I think of it. Some older posts are strange as well and don't sit right. I think we move off this topic and move back to plan ing for and supporting each other with our much wanted babies.

sophiasmum

Also we haven't heard from mrs t-m for a while? Hope all is ok x

RobotsinDisguse

thank you for the supportive words.

and esp to Samtoby - i hadnt thought to speak on the next thread, but i might.. as there will be people there who have gone through what i am concerned about. (two worries, not related).
I will also be at the hospital now on monday so will think of you and your scan whilst i'm there.. it'll help me stay less anxious if i am concentrating on sending you 'good vibes'!

claire16c

RobotsinDisguse wrote: »

thank you for the supportive words.

and esp to Samtoby - i hadnt thought to speak on the next thread, but i might.. as there will be people there who have gone through what i am concerned about. (two worries, not related).
I will also be at the hospital now on monday so will think of you and your scan whilst i'm there.. it'll help me stay less anxious if i am concentrating on sending you 'good vibes'!

Robots feel free to post what you're going through as chances are someone else will have too or might have experience of a friend or family member and might have helpful advice. Like Sam said post on whatever thread you like.

Mary - no one ttc and then goes 'oh carp it's a girl better give it up for adoption.'

And yes you do have a midwife you just refuse to take time off work to see her - not to mention that's completely irrelevant anyway as if what you're posting isn't made up then you need to see a dr about your mental well being. It's not like the rest of us have midwives helping us daily!

And then perhaps make an appt to get your tubes tied to prevent this apparent situation again.

Sophia's mum good point - I was looking forward to reading about her telling her family!

mrshappy

Welcome Robots I hope that you are okay, and can only repeat what others have said-feel free to post whatever you like x

I was also wondering about mrs tm today, I hope she is okay.

I was out looking at prams today, but I'm not sure that the one I really like will fit in my boot I will go and measure the car properly tomorrow as trying to do it in the dark and rain is silly

Mary, I hope you seek the help you need.

mancbird

Regarding prams. I will be using the ones I had with my son. Both are pretty neutral in colour anyway. The first one is a silver cross 3d, which I loved, but found very heavy lifting in and out of the car. The second is a Quinny Buzz 3 which I also love, but won't buy the carrycot for (I have a perfectly good pram for when baby is tiny!) My only gripe about the quinny is that is has very wide back wheels and I sometimes find it hard to manoeuvre around shops, especially the ones near me that seem to delight in placing things on the floor in order to create an obstacle course!