12-24 weeks pregnant (part2)

sunshine81

Just popping in on a work break.. this day is dragging and I've 7 hours left!!

Congrats neverdespairgirl! And marywooyeah... please ring the midwife or GP first thing Monday. you really need some help with how you are feeling. I did just think... someone has mentioned about how in some countries there are negative connotations associated with having certain sex children.. well actually we don't know if marywooyeah or her family are from one of these places so lets just see what happens... marywooyeah am thinking of you x

AFM... I did have a quick look in M&P since their Zoom pushchair + carrycot is down to £249, and you can get the car seat for £50... but it seemed really really wide! The Sola City looked nice though. After our 20 week scan (4 weeks and 5 days, not that I'm counting haha) I really want a proper look at a Graco Evo and a Silver Cross Wayfarer, but noting down other peoples recommendations too *wink* I think I'll be getting a generic colour, as in an ideal world I'll have a second baby when this one is under 2, so can use it again.

15+6! (It's been going so fast since the 12 week scan!!)

samtoby

sunshine81 I have been counting for weeks lol......

becca0417

Lara44 wrote: »

There seem to be a lot of recommendations for the Bugaboo Bee online for public transport travellers but we haven't really looked yet. It's just been so exciting telling people over Christmas. It's starting to become so much more real now.

We have a chameleon... Love bugaboo! The bee is fab, saw someone on the tube with one & was very manoeuvrable

marywooyeah

samtoby wrote: »

Current Users and Scan Dates
*Please add/update yourself and re-post the entire list*

McRach - 20th April 2014 - ??
Elsie37 - 26th April 2014
Sexki11en- 5th May 2014
jen_1985_04 - 8th May 2014 - 16th December 2013
Marywooyeah - 14th May 2014 - 27th December 2013
neverdespairgirl - 14th May 2013 - 27th December 2013
VickyVics - 14th May 2014 - 31st December 2013
Samtoby -18th May 2014 - 30th December 2013
chelseablue - 21st May 2014 - 13th January 2014
becsxxx - 25th May 2014 - 14th January 2014
mysecretalias - 25th May 2014 - 13th January 2014
cllola - 29th May 2014 - 15th January 2014
Sophiasmum - 30th May 2014 - 8th January 2014
mrshappy - 30th May 2014 - 13th January 2014
sunshine81- 15th June 2014 - 30th January 2014
Mrs_T_M - 16th June 2014 - 29th January 2014
Moonbabe58- 20th June 2014 - 31stJanuary 2014
Lara44 - 24th June 2014 - 3rd February 2014
fireyfirenze - 25th June 2014 - 5th February 2014

*Reached 24 weeks may have graduated - if not apologies*

Twigpig -14th April 2014 -Thu 28th Nov (re-scan 19th Dec)
Debs0778 - 17th April 2014-6th December

For those asking about public transport I found the graco mosiac to be a very good system. I don't have a midwife or anyone just my husband and our son so its just us. I feel the child could be better looked after by a family who could love her so have started looking into adoption.

Sexkitten perhaps consideration is a word that others could learn? You could not possibly understand anything of my situation or anything ive suffered in my life, I dont want a girl to suffer anything that I have and I wouldn't be able to offer a girl the love she'd need due to these experiences. She's not an inconvenience, she'd just be better off without me and whilst its great that you're having an enjoyable pregnancy its not a reason to look down on those who arent.

claire16c

Sam, I think the giggle is either ISO fix or you use a seat belt, can't remember, but I'm lazy and want a base that you just click the car seat into & then can lift it out and put it onto the travel system chassis.

There was a new system cosatto were bringing out that Becca found for me that does have a base, unfortunately it's much more expensive.

mancbird

I'm pretty stunned by what I have read on this thread tbh. I'm a lurker, but know quite a few of you from my pregnancy with my son.

One year ago today me and my husband went for our scan to be told there was a problem with our baby and it's little heart wasn't beating. I had an ERPC four weeks later after multiple scans. I can honestly say it was the most horrendous period in my life. I'm currently 24 weeks pregnant with another baby (don't know the gender) and have been petrified the whole way through of something going wrong. At my 20 week scan the only thing that was important was that the baby was alive and healthy. It would have been nice to find out if Flump was a little boy or a girl, but my hospital doesn't tell parents the gender.

A close friend of mine was due the week before me. They went to their 20 week scan 4 days before mine and were told their baby had died. His partner had to then be induced and give birth to their dead baby. I think the word "devastated" should be reserved for circumstances like this. Or maybe when another friend of mine went for her 20 week scan and was told her baby had a serious heart condition that meant he would be very unlikely indeed to survive the birth and would almost certainly die soon afterwards. Thankfully she had a little Christmas miracle and after two lots of open heart surgery that little baby is now 5 weeks old and doing well.

I can sort of understand being a bit disappointed that your baby is a different gender than the one you preferred, but surely when you made the decision to have another child you knew that there was a 50% chance of it being a girl?!? Be thankful your baby is alive and healthy. Many parents would give anything to be in your situation right now.

I really think you need to speak to your gp as your attitude is not normal or healthy. I hope for both yours and that little girl's sake that it is just shock that has made you react in the way that you have done.

Your baby is healthy. That's what counts, not some preconceived ideas about what a child will be like based on whether it is a boy or a girl.

mancbird

I don't mean to sound harsh Mary, but I am really struggling to understand why you are feeling the way you do and your post has upset me (especially being as it is one year ago today I found out that my baby had more than likely died in my tummy). I really do think you would benefit from seeing your gp or a counsellor to talk through your feelings xxx

I'm guessing you are in the uk, so there is no reason at all that a little girl wouldn't have access to the same opportunities in her life as a little boy would do. If there are things that have happened in your life because you are female, then maybe you would be better placed than anyone to ensure that the same things didn't happen to your daughter?

If I am 100% honest, when I was pregnant with my son I probably would have preferred a girl, simply because I was more used to girls and didn't know if I'd be able to look after a little boy. I'd always pictured myself with a girl, as did everyone who knew me. One of my aunties even asked my mam if I was ok with having a boy because she really couldn't imagine me with a boy!

When I was told at 25 weeks that my baby was a boy, I was shocked but that feeling didn't last long. Whatever the gender, that little baby was part of me and my husband. How could I not love him, simply because he had a bit extra between his legs? My son is now 2 and is the cuddliest, sweetest, most loving little boy. I couldn't imagine having had a daughter instead of him. He is his own little person and he's fab

This time round I strongly feel this baby is a boy. It would be nice to have a girl as then I'd have one of each (I've suffered with hyperemesis with all 3 of my pregnancies, so this is likely to be the last one), but if it is another boy I will be delighted as he/she is my baby and is healthy

When I was pregnant with the baby that died, I would have preferred a girl. Having been through the experience of losing a much loved and wanted baby, I have no preference now for gender. I just want my baby to be healthy.

I think too much emphasis is placed on fitting children into boxes based on their gender. My little boy is lying on the living room floor playing with his happyland fairy doll house as I type this! He has dollies, cars, trains, tea sets etc and loves playing with them all! He might turn out to be a footballer as he grows up, but he might prefer dancing. It really doesn't matter. He's his own person.

My mam had two daughters, but it is a long running joke in our family that my sister should really have been a boy. She was a right tomboy growing up and never wore dresses or played with dolls. She was more likely to be on a bmx or at ju-jitsu classes!

I am trying very hard to understand your attitude and I really hope you are able to get past this and love this baby for who she is, not what she is. She's your own flesh and blood, she's grown in your tummy for the last five months and I'm guessing you planned having a second baby so up until the point you were told she was a girl, she was much loved and longed for. Please don't rush into any decisions regarding adoption etc and do try to speak to someone about this as your feelings are not "normal". Pregnancy does funny things to our hormones and emotions. I've struggled a lot this time round and am currently seeing a counsellor.

I hope you are able to get through this and hope that in time you will love your daughter just as much as you would have done had she had that little bit extra between her legs xxx

RobotsinDisguse

um, hello. I'm graduating from the Under 12 Weeks thread.

I have not been on the forum for a few days as i had a (for me) traumatic experience at the drs/hospital the day before xmas eve, and i really didnt feel 'able' to talk about it just yet.

When I did feel able to talk, I came here and read about MaryWoo's upset and ran away from the forum.

Then this morning the midwife was knocking at my door, twice, and they called yesterday whilst we were out. It's not good news. I wanted to run back here for support but wasn't sure. I'm not devastated, just very worried about being able to carry to term, and now on top of that the health of our child is being questioned.

So I've come back here and I've just sat and read over the posts since Mary's, the posts outlining what most people here would consider 'devastating' news.

And it's helped me see that what i've been told isn't devastating. (well, at least not yet). It's scary and worrying but my baby is alive and wanted. Which seems right now enough.

mysecretalias

Congrats Neverdespairgirl!!! :j

We have narrowed it down to two prams - the uppababy vista and the oyster original. These two also have different colour packs so we are going to order whatever colour we want, then if we have another baby we can always buy a new colour pack to change the colour up a bit. Those were our two fave prams. We will probably go to kiddicare over the next few days to have another look and try and decide!!

We are getting the maxi cosi car seat with either pram, and it clips onto isofix which we will also be getting. So fairly easy all round hopefully!! Only thing is I don't know whether we will end up getting it all now or in a few weeks time when hopefully we are closer to having a house, as at the moment the spare room at OH's parents house where we are living is floor to ceiling as it is with baby stuff we've brought already so I don't know where it will go if we get it now!!

mysecretalias

RobotsinDisguse wrote: »

um, hello. I'm graduating from the Under 12 Weeks thread.

I have not been on the forum for a few days as i had a (for me) traumatic experience at the drs/hospital the day before xmas eve, and i really didnt feel 'able' to talk about it just yet.

When I did feel able to talk, I came here and read about MaryWoo's upset and ran away from the forum.

Then this morning the midwife was knocking at my door, twice, and they called yesterday whilst we were out. It's not good news. I wanted to run back here for support but wasn't sure. Now I've just sat and read over the posts since Mary's, the posts outlining what most people here would consider 'devastating' news.

And it's helped me see that what i've been told isn't devastating. (well, at least not yet). It's scary and worrying but my baby is alive and wanted. Which seems right now enough.

Hi robotsindisguise it's lovely to hear from you from the other thread and welcome. I'm so sorry you've not had the best news. If you feel able to share we are all very supportive but if not then take comfort in the fact that we are all here for support regardless. Don't take too much notice of the thread the last couple of days it's gone a bit crazy which is why I've stayed away a bit too xxx