12-24 weeks pregnant (part2)

marywooyeah

Uuugh I've been diagnosed with a kidney infection, I can't believe how muchit hurts! Having a duvet day today, feel so rubbish

Eiteews

I'm having a bit of a pity party too... Thought I'd escaped catching flu from OH but it was obviously waiting for me to get complacent. Docs yesterday with high temperature but a bit more normal today other than stinking headache. I haven't missed the monthly headaches it turns out and it feels odd to have one!

On the bright side - felt much more movement this past few days which is alien but comforting. Seems to stop every time OH is near so I think he's playing games

claire16c

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I'd need more than 10 days, and have to break and then re-claim, and risk falling foul of the regs, anyway.

That's annoying. So you'd technically be breaking the rules even if you say answered the phone but didn't charge any money?

But I guess yeah if you need more than 10 days worth it's not really in keeping with the rules!

Mary woo - ouch sounds painful, hope you feel a bit better now.

Eiteews oh dear, hope it's just a cold and not proper flu. That reminds me I must book my flu jab.

mysecretalias

Eiteews wrote: »

I'm having a bit of a pity party too... Thought I'd escaped catching flu from OH but it was obviously waiting for me to get complacent. Docs yesterday with high temperature but a bit more normal today other than stinking headache. I haven't missed the monthly headaches it turns out and it feels odd to have one!

On the bright side - felt much more movement this past few days which is alien but comforting. Seems to stop every time OH is near so I think he's playing games

Can I join the pity party?

Feeling like absolute poo right now. I have got a full blown cold, still can't shift this headache, my hip is absolutely killing me, I'm still throwing up pretty much constantly, and to top it all off my teeth have randomly started hurting too

OH has been acting like a total a**e tonight too. Don't know what's gotten into him. I know he gets frustrated because he sees me suffering and he can't do anything to make it better but sometimes it feels like he's taking it out on me and it makes me feel even worse.

Eurgh. Could literally cry right now. Someone please tell me this is normal pregnant hormonal rubbish please? Either that or I'm falling into some serious depression and that would be the worst thing ever (I've been through it before)

I just feel under so much pressure at the moment and it's overwhelming. OH says to tell him how I'm feeling etc but he just gets stressed out that he then can't help me. So I just keep it to myself. I've also got in the back of my mind that we've got to buy a house before baby is born (currently living with OH's parents and there's no way I can stand to stay here after the baby is born it will just be too much) but we've not even started looking yet. I just feel so down.

Sorry to hear everyone else is feeling rubbish today. Hope tomorrow is a better day for us all xxx

con1888

mysecretalias wrote: »

Can I join the pity party?

Feeling like absolute poo right now. I have got a full blown cold, still can't shift this headache, my hip is absolutely killing me, I'm still throwing up pretty much constantly, and to top it all off my teeth have randomly started hurting too

OH has been acting like a total a**e tonight too. Don't know what's gotten into him. I know he gets frustrated because he sees me suffering and he can't do anything to make it better but sometimes it feels like he's taking it out on me and it makes me feel even worse.

Eurgh. Could literally cry right now. Someone please tell me this is normal pregnant hormonal rubbish please? Either that or I'm falling into some serious depression and that would be the worst thing ever (I've been through it before)

I just feel under so much pressure at the moment and it's overwhelming. OH says to tell him how I'm feeling etc but he just gets stressed out that he then can't help me. So I just keep it to myself. I've also got in the back of my mind that we've got to buy a house before baby is born (currently living with OH's parents and there's no way I can stand to stay here after the baby is born it will just be too much) but we've not even started looking yet. I just feel so down.

Sorry to hear everyone else is feeling rubbish today. Hope tomorrow is a better day for us all xxx

Hope you're okay.

I get frustrated with OH all the time as I feel everything is one sided and he just says ' wait til it's born' for everything from names to outfits. He's a real pain and I want to scream in his face then I get upset and feel unsupported at times. Sometimes I think it would be easier to just tell him to go away and I'll have everything MY way seeing as he doesn't seem to have an input.

On the whole I've had an okay day, we spent some time clearing out a room as will need the extra space as we currently have 2 spare rooms full of what is basically junk...

mysecretalias

con1888 wrote: »

Hope you're okay.

I get frustrated with OH all the time as I feel everything is one sided and he just says ' wait til it's born' for everything from names to outfits. He's a real pain and I want to scream in his face then I get upset and feel unsupported at times. Sometimes I think it would be easier to just tell him to go away and I'll have everything MY way seeing as he doesn't seem to have an input.

On the whole I've had an okay day, we spent some time clearing out a room as will need the extra space as we currently have 2 spare rooms full of what is basically junk...

That does suck I have to say to give my OH credit where it's due he's absolutely brilliant about 90% of the time, and he's actually been more excited than me about this baby. It's just every so often he decides to turn into an utter poohead and it tends to get me down a lot. Have you tried talking to your OH about how he makes you feel with this behaviour?

Lol your house sounds like OH's parents house where we are living at the moment. They hoard so much rubbish it's unreal. The room that is now our bedroom pretty much used to be a junk room. When we first moved in, they actually expected us to live in the bedroom whilst it was still half full of junk (probably also important to mention that it's barely big enough to fit our bed into as it is so not sure how they were envisaging us fitting the bed in with half the room filled literally floor to ceiling with junk) That's one of the reasons we absolutely have to have our own place by May. I wouldn't want a baby to live in this house with all the stuff everywhere from floor to ceiling! There's barely enough room for me and OH and his parents as it is without stepping on each other's toes every minute.

I am aware that I sound entirely ungrateful for that rant, I'm ever so appreciative of them for letting us live here, I just get so overwhelmed sometimes and since I got pregnant I am literally their main focus every minute of every day (and I'm not exaggerating, I get questioned on a daily basis about how many times I've thrown up and I constantly hear them having conversations about me with my OH, asking why I'm upstairs, what I'm doing, how I'm feeling etc, whilst I'm out of the room) and it's just too much to cope with.

con1888

mysecretalias wrote: »

That does suck I have to say to give my OH credit where it's due he's absolutely brilliant about 90% of the time, and he's actually been more excited than me about this baby. It's just every so often he decides to turn into an utter poohead and it tends to get me down a lot. Have you tried talking to your OH about how he makes you feel with this behaviour?

Lol your house sounds like OH's parents house where we are living at the moment. They hoard so much rubbish it's unreal. The room that is now our bedroom pretty much used to be a junk room. When we first moved in, they actually expected us to live in the bedroom whilst it was still half full of junk (probably also important to mention that it's barely big enough to fit our bed into as it is so not sure how they were envisaging us fitting the bed in with half the room filled literally floor to ceiling with junk) That's one of the reasons we absolutely have to have our own place by May. I wouldn't want a baby to live in this house with all the stuff everywhere from floor to ceiling! There's barely enough room for me and OH and his parents as it is without stepping on each other's toes every minute.

I am aware that I sound entirely ungrateful for that rant, I'm ever so appreciative of them for letting us live here, I just get so overwhelmed sometimes and since I got pregnant I am literally their main focus every minute of every day (and I'm not exaggerating, I get questioned on a daily basis about how many times I've thrown up and I constantly hear them having conversations about me with my OH, asking why I'm upstairs, what I'm doing, how I'm feeling etc, whilst I'm out of the room) and it's just too much to cope with.

Yeah i've spoken to him but that's just the way he is, nothing excites him at all... holidays, birthdays, christmas etc.. he enjoys them at the time but doesn't get excited beforehand. He said he is scared more than anything.. that he will be reponsible for a person. He really does frustrate me, always has done tbh, I am the opposite, I get excited very easily!!!

Our house was OH parents before they moved elsewhere so we have some of their junk still.... well the bin does now!!! Not doing babys room til after Christmas but if we clear it then it will be far easier with a blank canvas to work on.

Kynthia

mysecretalias wrote: »

Can I join the pity party?

Feeling like absolute poo right now. I have got a full blown cold, still can't shift this headache, my hip is absolutely killing me, I'm still throwing up pretty much constantly, and to top it all off my teeth have randomly started hurting too

OH has been acting like a total a**e tonight too. Don't know what's gotten into him. I know he gets frustrated because he sees me suffering and he can't do anything to make it better but sometimes it feels like he's taking it out on me and it makes me feel even worse.

Eurgh. Could literally cry right now. Someone please tell me this is normal pregnant hormonal rubbish please? Either that or I'm falling into some serious depression and that would be the worst thing ever (I've been through it before)

I just feel under so much pressure at the moment and it's overwhelming. OH says to tell him how I'm feeling etc but he just gets stressed out that he then can't help me. So I just keep it to myself. I've also got in the back of my mind that we've got to buy a house before baby is born (currently living with OH's parents and there's no way I can stand to stay here after the baby is born it will just be too much) but we've not even started looking yet. I just feel so down.

Sorry to hear everyone else is feeling rubbish today. Hope tomorrow is a better day for us all xxx

Hi, I hope you feel better soon. With your OH, perhaps it would help both of you if you could give him some suggestions of what he CAN do to help when you are feeling bad and ill? Even little things like getting you drinks and snacks, popping out to buy you ginger to settle your stomach or a nice treat, running you a bath or rubbing your feet. That way he'll feel less frustrated and then you'll be less upset at how he responds to being frustrated. Or maybe tell him that offloading to him and having him make sympathetic noises is good enough and helps.

mysecretalias

Kynthia wrote: »

Hi, I hope you feel better soon. With your OH, perhaps it would help both of you if you could give him some suggestions of what he CAN do to help when you are feeling bad and ill? Even little things like getting you drinks and snacks, popping out to buy you ginger to settle your stomach or a nice treat, running you a bath or rubbing your feet. That way he'll feel less frustrated and then you'll be less upset at how he responds to being frustrated. Or maybe tell him that offloading to him and having him make sympathetic noises is good enough and helps.

Thanks Kynthia I definitely need to get better at doing that, OH does get very frustrated when he says 'what can I do' because my answer is usually 'I don't know' and it doesn't help that I'm a very indecisive person at the best of times. I need to start just suggesting something whenever he asks me. If I put myself in his shoes and he was ill and just didn't know how I could help him I would, of course, get very stressed and frustrated.

I kind of knew this, but you saying it 'out loud' has made me realise that it can have more of a stressful impact on him than I realised, I think. I have though of course explained to him that pregnancy is half about learning to not be able to help or control anything, but I'm not sure that had the desired (help and reassurance) effect. I think it just made him even more stressed

Thank you for taking the time Kynthia

Con1888 - that does sound odd. I don't know about Christmas, birthdays, etc (it does sound like he is generally the kind of person who isn't very excitable) with the baby, it probably is as he's mentioned that he's just terrified of doing something wrong when baby comes, something going wrong, etc, and it therefore takes away from the excitement of the impending event. I think I'm a bit like that tbh. My OH is bouncing off the walls and all I can do is worry. I guess when it's this way round people tend to understand because they just think 'oh well you're carrying the baby you're bound to worry' but when it's the OH who's doing the worrying and thus not able to get excited, it does come across as a bit odd. If I were you I would sit down with him and explain that him not being excited is taking away from your excitement, maybe ask what he's worried about and try and talk those worries out so he feels a bit better?

With sleep I feel a little calmer this morning. Totally lost my voice though due to my cold, and I have an appointment with my consultant tomorrow AM to discuss me being high risk. Great timing!

claire16c

Kynthia wrote: »

Hi, I hope you feel better soon. With your OH, perhaps it would help both of you if you could give him some suggestions of what he CAN do to help when you are feeling bad and ill? Even little things like getting you drinks and snacks, popping out to buy you ginger to settle your stomach or a nice treat, running you a bath or rubbing your feet. That way he'll feel less frustrated and then you'll be less upset at how he responds to being frustrated. Or maybe tell him that offloading to him and having him make sympathetic noises is good enough and helps.

I agree with this.

My DH is in the supermarket nearly everyday buying me stuff :rotfl:

He pretty much waits on me hand & foot but I'm not afraid to ask him to lol. Yesterday we were also having a massive clear out of our cupboards/spare room and today is the attic.

We need to Hoover the house and I said I'm not doing it, and he was like I'm doing all these other jobs surely you can hoover?

I said no I'm not doing anything that could strain me in any shape or form, since the bleeding. So don't ask me again or I will burst into tears!! So yes he's hoovering today

He's very good just doesn't get how achy I am at the mo.