Other girl texting and calling my bf... what would you do??

Nicki

If you've just moved in together that sounds like an excuse for a party for all your friends. Either he will invite her, in which case you show her what a strong couple you are together. Or he won't invite her and she'll feel snubbed because she has been excluded when all his other friends have been invited. The third option is he does invite her and she doesn't come in which case you know you are right to worry.

GwylimT

It seems that the only person here who has a problem is you, if my partner was unable to trust me and attempted to control who I was friends with that relationship would be over, without trust you have nothing.

vix84

yes admittedly the problem is more with me than with him and i dont trust him after eevrything that has happened, so surely any decent guy would do whatever it takes to regain my trust so i dont feel so insecure! :-(

paulineb_2

vix84 wrote: »

yes admittedly the problem is more with me than with him and i dont trust him after eevrything that has happened, so surely any decent guy would do whatever it takes to regain my trust so i dont feel so insecure! :-(

Why did you move in with him?

paulineb_2

vix84 wrote: »

yes admittedly the problem is more with me than with him and i dont trust him after eevrything that has happened, so surely any decent guy would do whatever it takes to regain my trust so i dont feel so insecure! :-(

That shouldnt involve cutting himself off from friends to please you.

kelpie35

I think it is you that has the problem. You have admitted that you don;t want to discuss this with you OH as he gets angry. You also admitted you feel lonely.

I think you really need to take a serious look at what you really want from life, then go and get it.

Sorry if this is not what you want to hear. Would you rather continue feeling lonely and upset or happy on your own?

marisco_2

So the grown man who is your boyfriend is not allowed to choose who he communicates and mixes with unless he has your prior approval and permission. Sorry OP but you are coming across on here as totally paranoid, innately jealous and very angry. Over what! Two workmates who are each in their own relationships in contact with each other. You obviously have access to their communication. You say yourself that there is nothing sexual in the texts, and it is just chit chat and banter.

Your boyfriend suggesting that if you expect him to cut contact with this woman, then you must stop being in touch with an old male friend of yours, was no doubt to show you how unreasonable you were being. I think you need to tread carefully or he will quickly grow tired of someone who is trying to be so controlling. Sending this woman a message via facebook, and lets face it there would be nothing friendly about that type of warning, will just make you look incredibly insecure and needy. If a partner of mine did something like that to someone I was purely friends with it would be the end of us. Without trust you don't have a relationship.

Thread like this make me feel glad I am single.

DCFC79

vix84 wrote: »

i should be the closest to him and the person he turns to when he is stressed, the whole situation just makes me feel lonely.

Have you explained this to him ?

just seen that you have admitted that you don;t want to discuss this with you OH as he gets angry.

vix84

marisco wrote: »

So the grown man who is your boyfriend is not allowed to choose who he communicates and mixes with unless he has your prior approval and permission. Sorry OP but you are coming across on here as totally paranoid, innately jealous and very angry. Over what! Two workmates who are each in their own relationships in contact with each other. You obviously have access to their communication. You say yourself that there is nothing sexual in the texts, and it is just chit chat and banter.

Your boyfriend suggesting that if you expect him to cut contact with this woman, then you must stop being in touch with an old male friend of yours, was no doubt to show you how unreasonable you were being. I think you need to tread carefully or he will quickly grow tired of someone who is trying to be so controlling. Sending this woman a message via facebook, and lets face it there would be nothing friendly about that type of warning, will just make you look incredibly insecure and needy. If a partner of mine did something like that to someone I was purely friends with it would be the end of us. Without trust you don't have a relationship.

Thread like this make me feel glad I am single.

haha i can see the single life has its benefits ! :-s Anyway he does not need prior approval he hangs out with whoever who wants, it is just this one particular person that is bothering me... like i said he has a lot of females friends and always has done from the day i met him and it has never been an issue.

paulineb_2

vix84 wrote: »

haha i can see the single life has its benefits ! :-s Anyway he does not need prior approval he hangs out with whoever who wants, it is just this one particular person that is bothering me... like i said he has a lot of females friends and always has done from the day i met him and it has never been an issue.

That one particular person is causing issues in your relationship though. You dont mind him having other female friends, but this one, you dont want him to be friends with, why?