Christmas with divorced parents

CH27

Could you stay with your dad on xmas eve? See your sisters open their presents xmas morning then drive home & spend the rest of the day with your mum?

eta Scotnan said it before me.

MrSmartprice

Why does Christmas cause so many problems and family squabbles? Do what you feel like doing, bottom line is it's just another day.

My daughter will be going to son-in-law's father on Xmas Day, as he is disabled and would be alone. They cook and eat lunch with him. Then they visit us over the holiday. I'm not worried at all, as we just go for a curry on Xmas Day. Then breathe a sigh of relief when it's finally all over for another year!;)

As for worrying about watching kids rip open their presents, I can certainly live without that too!:(

studentuk1

The driving to my mothers option would definitely solve most problems, so I shall give it a second thought.

The reason I ruled it out originally is because I have only recently passed my driving test and am not very confident on the road. Driving 3 hours on my own on Christmas day with (potentially) bad weather is not very appealing. I would very much rather just arrive somewhere and settle for the day, wherever that be, and not have to worry about driving. It's my Birthday on the 24th, hence the reason I like to have a few drinks on Christmas eve, wherever that be, and I wont drive the day after drinking.

I know that makes me sound quite selfish, but I shall discuss it with both my parents and see what they think.

moromir

Why can't you go to one parent's one year and one parents the next year?

My two sets of grandparents were 250 miles apart and thats what we used to do?

CH27

studentuk1 wrote: »

The driving to my mothers option would definitely solve most problems, so I shall give it a second thought.

The reason I ruled it out originally is because I have only recently passed my driving test and am not very confident on the road. Driving 3 hours on my own on Christmas day with (potentially) bad weather is not very appealing. I would very much rather just arrive somewhere and settle for the day, wherever that be, and not have to worry about driving. It's my Birthday on the 24th, hence the reason I like to have a few drinks on Christmas eve, wherever that be, and I wont drive the day after drinking.

I know that makes me sound quite selfish, but I shall discuss it with both my parents and see what they think.

Then you need to decide if you prefer having a few drinks to feeling guilty about your mum being on her own.

studentuk1

CH27 wrote: »

Then you need to decide if you prefer having a few drinks to feeling guilty about your mum being on her own.

I'd definitely not have a drink to see everyone happy on Christmas day. There are other reasons I don't want to drive on xmas day, but am definitely giving this idea a second thought.

RAS

My view is that the younger sisters are only young once.

I would be inclined to let mum know that you will be with her next year and to visit your sisters this year.

Or if you think that your sibling will find the means to be around next year and keep to that arrangement, see mum this year and let the sisters know you will be with them next year?

melanzana

Christmas for many is such a dilemma. It causes angst and worry and dread in some cases. I do not like Christmas at all. It is just so much hassle.

And for what? (thinking of no kids households here). Cook, cook, cook, oh hiya, hello, lovely to see you, sit down, have a drink. Where are the bloody clean glasses, don't have Bacardi, !!!!!

Cook, watch the food, everyone else laughing, some do help. Eat. Clean up table, wash up, sweating now. Menopausal anger and tears for those not with us. Cry, wipe up counter top.

Sit on sofa. Watch drivel on TV. No one talks, all snoring.

Snooze aswell. So it's nine o clock. Anyone want a sandwich? Yes please! Off to kitchen, get some help. Serve up again.

Hey ho, must go. Thanks for a lovely day.

See you in a few weeks.

No problem.

Large glass of brandy. Bed.

So flaming what!

It's just too much for many.

I am going to Cannes this year to drape myself over a yacht, and have someone else feed and water me.

I can dream cant I?

studentuk1

RAS wrote: »

My view is that the younger sisters are only young once.

I would be inclined to let mum know that you will be with her next year and to visit your sisters this year.

Or if you think that your sibling will find the means to be around next year and keep to that arrangement, see mum this year and let the sisters know you will be with them next year?

Thanks for the reply. I'm heading to Australia on a working holiday year in June, so the likelihood of me being around next year isn't high.

studentuk1

melanzana wrote: »

Christmas for many is such a dilemma. It causes angst and worry and dread in some cases. I do not like Christmas at all. It is just so much hassle.

And for what? (thinking of no kids households here). Cook, cook, cook, oh hiya, hello, lovely to see you, sit down, have a drink. Where are the bloody clean glasses, don't have Bacardi, !!!!!

Cook, watch the food, everyone else laughing, some do help. Eat. Clean up table, wash up, sweating now. Menopausal anger and tears for those not with us. Cry, wipe up counter top.

Sit on sofa. Watch drivel on TV. No one talks, all snoring.

Snooze aswell. So it's nine o clock. Anyone want a sandwich? Yes please! Off to kitchen, get some help. Serve up again.

Hey ho, must go. Thanks for a lovely day.

See you in a few weeks.

No problem.

Large glass of brandy. Bed.

So flaming what!

It's just too much for many.

I am going to Cannes this year to drape myself over a yacht, and have someone else feed and water me.

I can dream cant I?

Christmas for me is seeing other people happy. I agree it's a ridiculous 24 hours where people worry about where/who they'll be with, spend a ridiculous amount of money and it's likely overrated for the amount of time we dedicate to it, which is why I think it should be mainly about my little sisters, as I'd love to see them happy on Christmas. At the same time, I don't want to leave my mother on her own and feeling lonely, but she is an adult. I can't guarantee I'm going to be around the next few Christmases, so I don't want to let any opportunities slip. Children aren't children for long.

I just read that back, and I feel old.