Christmas with divorced parents

tayforth

TBH, I'd spend the day with my mum. Just because she'd be on her own, and the others have the big family and all the excitement of Santa and whatnot.

But I'm sure that your mum will be happy whatever you do, you're close and she clearly loves you very much.

lostinrates

studentuk1 wrote: »

Yup, around 200 miles apart. Spending 3 hours on the motorway on Christmas day isn't very appealing, plus I like to have a few drinks Christmas eve/day, which I wouldn't be able to do if I was driving.

The three hours I forgive you, although its quite nice driving at Christmas the roads are empty. Radio is terrible, so you need good music

But tbh, I'd forgo drinks at lunch if it were keeping every one (including me) happy as a transition to maybe alternating years. (And I say that as a committed wine lover).



Still, I think you take your mother at her word this year, may be check once more, and then see how it works for you all.

*max*

I'd spend the day with mum too, if I knew she didn't really want to spend it alone despite what she said. I wouldn't choose Christmas as an occasion to engineer a "wake up call" on your own mother tbh.

notanewuser

studentuk1 wrote: »

Yup, around 200 miles apart. Spending 3 hours on the motorway on Christmas day isn't very appealing, plus I like to have a few drinks Christmas eve/day, which I wouldn't be able to do if I was driving.

My sister works for the emergency services. She finishes a night shift at 7am on Xmas day. Then her and her boyfriend will drive 100 miles north to visit his family for the afternoon. That night they'll drive another 200 miles south west to us. We'll have our Xmas day on Boxing Day.

Seanymph

If I was your mum I'd feel guilty if you felt you had to be with me - go spend it with your sisters, alternate, and on the year you are with your dad go to your mum and have 'second christmas' on boxing day.

Brighton_belle

She's probably only 50, not 85. I should think pity from your child at only 50 might be a bit depressing too. And she has the chance to go elsewhere according to the OP.

justme111

Clear cut for me , go with your dad. You are not responsible for your mum being lonely and while it is right that you understand it and help her with it you can nit pit all your life to it. Brighton belle said great words .

ognum

OP clearly your sibling does not feel like you or they would not be going on holiday!

I do think you should go to your father for Christmas and maybe suggest that you do this every other year until you have your own Christmas arranged.

This way your mum will know you are going to be there next year and will understand that every other year she needs to make alternative arrangements or be alone.

Your Mum is an adult , she can decide to go elsewhere or stay alone, she should be allowed to make her decision.

NAR

OP go to your dad's and see your sisters. They are only young once and I'm sure will be delighted to have your company. Your mum has been offered alternatives, so if SHE chooses to be on her own then that will be her choice.

scotnan

The only thing I could think of was if you went to your dad's on christmas eve, during the day if that was possible and stay overnight then you could have a few drinks because you were staying and you'd be with your sisters in the morning while they open their presents. Stay for lunch and then go to your mum's in the afternoon and have a late Christmas dinner with her and stay overnight with her and again you could have a few drinks.

This of course would depend on what the weather is going to be like but if it's not snowing the roads will be really quiet.