Am I being too sensitive...

Tiddlywinks

sovilla wrote: »

Look I realise now that, that wasnt the best idea. I was trying to help my mother and father in law and make my daughter happy at the same time. Ive said before im not perfect. Im still learning at all this mothering lark.

So, from that shouldn't you learn to put a bit more thought into this 'mothering lark' before making a knee jerk reaction to adopt?

sovilla wrote: »

You dont understand how mature and adult the 9 year old is. When she had to do her younger siblings nappies at the age of 6 and look after them because their mum couldnt, then kids tend to grow up rather quickly. She is very focused, knows exaclty what she wants to do with her life. She wants to be a brain surgeon, what 9 year old tells you that. And I have no doubt that she can be whatever she wants to be.

Seriously? SERIOUSLY?

She is a CHILD and should be nurtured as a child... She did not ask for responsibilities at such a young age.

You should now be helping her to be a child NOT admiring how grown up she is... She is nine... NINE.

tinkerbell28

They are NOT YOUR children.

You should not be posting pictures of at risk children subject to court orders. FULL STOP on the internet.

cheepskate_2

Again.....Op what is your husbands stance in all this.

I find it quite unnerving, that twice you are asked about your husbands stance and you completely ignore the question,.
You even quote my original question about your husband and just go on about you, and how you would like time alone with your husband.

sovilla

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paulineb_2

sovilla wrote: »

My husband wants nothing to do with this woman who put his children in danger. They had 9 miscarriages while together so were thankful for any children they could carry to term which is why they had 4. He only stayed with her for the children, and he was releived when she admitted to cheating on him (with the guy she is currently with) because that gave him an out.

And while he was with her he was the one that did most of the looking after the children, yes she would have then during the day but as soon as he came home from work she would go out drinking with her friends and he would be there, doing all the night feeds for the babies. And she would turn up again at 7am for him to go to work and then the cycle would start all over again. She would dissapear for the full weekend drinking and taking drugs and would just come back so he could work, then spend all his money on drugs and booze. At one point he had to burn his dining room table in the coal fire to keep the house warm and eat beans out of a tin because she had spent all the money on her lifestyle.

She put his kids in danger but because she had miscarriages they had 4 kids, because they were grateful that she carried them to full term

Im really sorry that anyone had to go through that kind of loss, but to use that as an excuse for having 4 kids with someone so dysfunctional is ridiculous.

I agree, get off facebook and find some other way of getting the pics to other people and the mum as well if you want to send her pictures.

balletshoes

sovilla wrote: »

I guess I was being oversensitive regarding the photos. If she asked for them I would give her them, but just taking them is what hurts,

why does it hurt though? you still have the photos, you posted them on a social networking site where they can be seen by others, including their mum.

sovilla

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Tiddlywinks

sovilla wrote: »

My husband wants nothing to do with this woman who put his children in danger. They had 9 miscarriages while together so were thankful for any children they could carry to term which is why they had 4. He only stayed with her for the children, and he was releived when she admitted to cheating on him (with the guy she is currently with) because that gave him an out.

And while he was with her he was the one that did most of the looking after the children, yes she would have then during the day but as soon as he came home from work she would go out drinking with her friends and he would be there, doing all the night feeds for the babies. And she would turn up again at 7am for him to go to work and then the cycle would start all over again. She would dissapear for the full weekend drinking and taking drugs and would just come back so he could work, then spend all his money on drugs and booze. At one point he had to burn his dining room table in the coal fire to keep the house warm and eat beans out of a tin because she had spent all the money on her lifestyle.

Oh come on... He had FOUR children with her.

If he thought she was a bad mother then he should have stopped after the first or even second...

What sort of man keeps having kids with someone he thinks isn't up to being a mum?

I feel so sorry for the children as they are caught in a really toxic situation and your husband has to accept his part in creating the mess in the first place.

This_Year

sovilla wrote: »

At one point he had to burn his dining room table in the coal fire to keep the house warm and eat beans out of a tin because she had spent all the money on her lifestyle.

Oh come on. It's beginning to sound like my library book now.

sovilla

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