Am I being too sensitive...

sovilla

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Kayalana99

Sorry to cut this short but your not exactly being over sensitive...but end day she is still their birth mum..and even though you/they want nothing to do with her ...maybe she even feels like she doesn't deserve to be their mother why she doesnt have much contact with them..it still doesn't stop her caring and wanting to be part of their lives.

Obvouisly we can't know the ins and outs of how she feels/kids feel/you feel but she obvouisly still must care in some way to be putting up pictures of them.

I think contact is a bad idea though, but looking after the kids for 3 years doesn't really give you the right to say their your kids...

bluenoseam

Thing to remember here - you might feel like they're your kids, you sound like you love them like they're your own kids, but they're HER kids regardless as to how crappy a mother she's been. I would check your settings with your photos & ensure that the privacy is ramped way up there.

Thing to remember is this, in this scenario the only people who's opinion on her ability as a parent is unquestionable are the kids - she can post whatever she wants, but if the kids know she's a rubbish mother, that's the only opinion that matters. She sounds like a crackpot, no two ways about that, but just keep calm & realise the kids see through her BS, even if her "friends" don't.

Gingernutty

Seriously? Stop posting pictures of the kids on Faceache. As soon as you post anything on the internet, you effectively lose any control over it.

Take down the pictures you have posted and reset your privacy settings so that only those listed as your friends can view the page.

These are abused/at risk children and you're plastering them over the internet.

Tiddlywinks

Yet another saga made so much worse by using Facebook.

OP - how do you know what she has on her pages? Why do you need to keep tabs in her? It works both ways...

Kayalana99

Also might be worth checking that your privacy settings arent set to public...she might be blocked but a friend could easily see everything you post if it is.

sovilla

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Tiddlywinks

They *are* her children... Why hasn't she seen them in 10 months?

You owe it to them to try to get along with her... Not gossip and stir to make it worse.

You should be sending her photos etc not leaving her to have to 'steal' them.

There are other ways to share photos with family you know.... There was life before Facebook.

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Tiddlywinks

In another thread you were going to 'lend' the eldest to grandparents so they could claim benefits... You were saying that your place was a bit of a madhouse...

Just saying that none of us is perfect.