exs new partner on dodgy websites?

thorsoak

I'm another in the camp that you should not have sent them directly to the ex. Personally, I would also drop the mutual "friend" ...if he does things like this to her, he could act similarly with anyone. There should be loyalty between friends.

paulineb_2

I also wouldnt have sent the pics to the ex.

I had pics of mine copied from a site and I honestly dont know where they ended up, was done by someone I used to talk to online who had issues, when he fell out with people he used to do stuff like that.

I ignored it, because I figured if I didnt know where they were and didnt make a fuss he would just !!!!!! off and leave me alone, also, its sometimes not easy to get fake profiles taken down

I did speak to the police over emails he was sending me and comments made online, threats of violence, but they said as he was a few hundred miles away, really nothing they could do.

Its done now, youve done what you did, no point kicking yourself as others have said.

What also strikes me from the opening paragraph is that they havent been together very long, 3 months and engaged, it could have caused massive problems, because they dont have a lot of history together.

If she is on the site, well Im sure in the end it will come out in the wash.

But just step away from it. It isnt your business and as other people have said, ditch the mutual friend, if they had concerns it was up to them to raise them direct, not with you.

Kynthia

Even though your intentions were good, you should have realised that there were too many chances that this would negatively impact your relationship with you ex and stayed out of it. When you have children together you have to sometimes have to do things differently to how you'd prefer in order to preserve that cordial relationship.

System

What were you thinking? Your ex's relationship has got nothing, absolutely nothing to do with you (unless it affects the kids).

victory

I 100% agree with the other posters, would never have sent the pics to the ex:eek: absolutely nothing to do with you, an ex is an ex , her business, not yours.

tinkerbell28

No. I don't think you did. I think you got used in some kind of game and took the bait.

If this person was concerned, why not say themselves? Sounds like they wanted to **** stir, knowing you'd take the bait and did pass it on.

You immediately wanted to jump in and stop him from making a mistake without questioning what this so called friends motives might be?

The phrase don't shoot the messenger exists for a reason. People hear things and jump in without thinking.

It is his business, not yours.

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow

That was a deeply unpleasant action, sending those links to your ex. karma will bite you on the a$$ for that one day, hopefully.

stir_crazy

Its a natural reaction wanting to prevent someone from making a possible mistake with someone who might be cheating. However, this is your ex, and unless you split on very good terms and are now the best of friends, it is likely to look like sour grapes from you (even if that was not your intention). It is just fortunate that this time its had a good outcome where you've been able to warn the new GF that this has happened.

owen_money

Which web-site was it?

beckysbobbles1

I personally think you did the right thing.

Whether it's interferring or not, I think I'd prefer to know all of the facts then it's my decision to decide how to deal with the situation.