exs new partner on dodgy websites?

BitterAndTwisted

Since when has interfering in other people's private business been OK? You were the messenger, so you deserve to be shot imo

Funky_Bold_Ribena

mum2one wrote: »

I actually think the OP did the right thing, she approached her ex, explained the situ, the ex-s new partner feels that someone could be setting her up and gone to the police,
Yes at the moment there ma be a few comments going around but when the dust has settled, then the people will realise the OP did it to protect her children, her ex and even his new partner.

If someone had set me up on a naughty site I would want to know, regardless of who told me.

The OP had no idea she was going onto come up with this excuse, she wanted her ex to know that his gf was on the hunt and didn't stop to consider whether it was her place or not.

abailey54

I don't think it was a brilliant idea for the following reasons:

- They might have had a different kind of a relationship, where they both engage in 'extramarital activity' and are happy that way
- I would be mortified if an ex informed me of a partner cheating on me - a hell of a lot more humiliated than if a stranger or friend told me (or I found out myself)
- If I was with a divorcee who had children, and the ex wife started poking around in our relationship, I'd be more inclined to consider leaving it (which would hardly be in the interest of the ex husband)

That said, it's done now, so not really worth stressing over

Lozzy88

i don't think you should of said anything, you should get the man that told you to tell him.

you don't know how your ex met her, it could of been through one of these websites, i personally don't like to share but lots of people do. At the end of the day if its a real profile or a fake profile they are hardly going to admit it to you.

prowla

Sometimes you need to let go...

harrys_nan

Well the deed has been done now,not the brightest of ideas.
The best thing you can do now as you have already explained to them, is to keep quiet and let then get on with their relationship and you with yours.

LannieDuck

I agree with the others - why on earth did your mutual 'friend' send it to you rather than to ex? Your ex's relationship has nothing to do with you anymore. You may not be trying to stir matters, but 'friend' certainly is.

aileth

Why are you so fussed about your ex? Surely he's your ex for a reason, and his personal life is nothing to do with you anymore.


I would've seen the pictures, sniggered a bit and left it.

kafkathecat

If I was the man and my partner put herself on the website I would want to know.
And if I was the woman and someone else put me on the website I would want to know.
It may have been better coming from someone else but you had the information. If the new partner is going to the police you have done them a favour.

FBaby

Only the future will tell. If she is telling the truth, she will be grateful that someone actually told her (even if via her fiance) so that she can go to the police and something is done before the trouble with whoever is setting her up goes too far.

If she is lying...well your ex will find out at some point and again, HE will be grateful that you raised it up to his attention.

If I was still in good contact with my ex, I would have wanted him to know, but I think I would have gone about it differently, probably insist that the friend told him, after all, he is the one who found out about it and HE should have said something. I do agree that friends should tell about such thing. I would be furious if one of my friends found something like this and didn't tell me.