exs new partner on dodgy websites?

tanith

In a word NO it was none of your business... sorry but it really wasn't.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

Brewstersmum wrote: »

no i did text first asking if he was home and with her as it said she was online a couple of hours before.

she actually said she is glad as she thinks her ex is trying to stir and now she is off to the police to sort it

No I mean...You just did it without those internal checks and balances that say 'is this any of my business'? Or 'who died no made me the boss of my ex's new gf'.

You are the ex. Get over it!

Brewstersmum

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

No I mean...You just did it without those internal checks and balances that say 'is this any of my business'? Or 'who died no made me the boss of my ex's new gf'.

You are the ex. Get over it!

its not quite like that......i was sitting here with my partner of 2 years when i get the message through. obviously we had a conversation about it first and i asked him what he would do. we both agreed that if it was us, we would want to know.

im not the boss of anyone but i am the mother of my 2 daughters who are caught up in all of this

Soleil_lune

No matter how many different ways you try to justify it BM, you did not do the right thing. Sorry if the answers on here are not what you wanted to hear. But what you did, 'does' sound a lot like stirring. You really really really had NO business forwarding this stuff on to your ex. It's almost as if YOU are trying to split him and his partner up!

marisco_2

Your ex is the father of your two children, and though you two are no longer a couple and have both moved on, it is natural that you don't want to see him get hurt or used. Both for his sake and that of your children, as a situation like this if genuine would impact on him and have repercussions to all of them. When contacted by this mutual friend ideally you should have responded with 'if you have real concerns about what you have discovered then contact xxx yourself directly and let him know'. What's done is done now though. I hope it wont negatively affect your relationship with your ex and you can work together positively to raise your children.

bright_side

NO NO NO!!!! Shame you didn't ask for advice before you enlightened him on her apparent behaviour. Though I suspect you may still have done it anyway.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

Brewstersmum wrote: »

its not quite like that......i was sitting here with my partner of 2 years when i get the message through. obviously we had a conversation about it first and i asked him what he would do. we both agreed that if it was us, we would want to know.

im not the boss of anyone but i am the mother of my 2 daughters who are caught up in all of this

How are they caught up in this? You haven't told them as well?

What about taking out an advert? Or sending them on to her boss? Lets see, what other ways can you think of to embarrass and humiliate her?

marisco_2

bright_side wrote: »

NO NO NO!!!! Shame you didn't ask for advice before you enlightened him on her apparent behaviour. Though I suspect you may still have done it anyway.

That is a bit harsh. How do you know the OP well enough to make a sweeping statement like that? If anything she comes across as doubting the wisdom of what she has done and taking everyone's opinions on board.

candygirl

If kids weren't involved in this whole sordid mess i'd also say leave it as it is, but given the circumstances think you might have acted a bit hastily, but don't go beating yourself up about it x

mum2one

I actually think the OP did the right thing, she approached her ex, explained the situ, the ex-s new partner feels that someone could be setting her up and gone to the police,
Yes at the moment there ma be a few comments going around but when the dust has settled, then the people will realise the OP did it to protect her children, her ex and even his new partner.

If someone had set me up on a naughty site I would want to know, regardless of who told me.