First date- who pay's?

Lotus-eater

Person_one wrote: »

Its a travesty you're still single.

Goodness me, you've posted something funny, I've lost the bet with myself :rotfl:

arbroath_lass

Principia wrote: »

I think that expecting the person who asked the other person to pay is hidden sexism, usually it's women who have to put up with this but in this instance it is men. A lot of women, in fact I would say the majority of women don't ask men on dates. They make it clear they want to be asked but they don't do the asking.

I see what you're saying and not having gone on dates for a long time it may be true. I'd like to think if I was single and wanted a date I'd ask but who knows.

The reason I said it is because I apply it to all my invitations. If I ask a friend(s) for lunch or to a party etc I am expecting to pay. It doesn't always happen sometimes we do treat each other but mostly we're 50/50(a bit like dates I suppose). I don't have a problem paying the whole bill if I've done the inviting.

Gloomendoom

Principia wrote: »

I think that expecting the person who asked the other person to pay is hidden sexism, usually it's women who have to put up with this but in this instance it is men. A lot of women, in fact I would say the majority of women don't ask men on dates. They make it clear they want to be asked but they don't do the asking.

Then they should start asking and stop whinging about sexism.

scheming_gypsy

If she's putting out - me
If I want to see her again - me
If she insists on splitting it - 50 / 50
If I made a huge mistake going on the date - her because i've legged it out of the back door.

Person_one

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Goodness me, you've posted something funny, I've lost the bet with myself :rotfl:

Your turn then...

DUTR

Person_one wrote: »

Its a travesty you're still single.

Perhaps, but not mugged fleeced or a walking wallet
She still pays her way end of

Principia_2

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Then they should start asking and stop whinging about sexism.

There's loads of things that should happen. Unfortunately as regular human beings we get to deal with situations as they actually happen. In this instance most women do not ask men out. Whether or not they should is, I think, a different discussion. When I chat to my two nieces no one seems to ask anyone out - they go out in groups, in doubles, in groups again - it all seems very informal and relaxed so perhaps that's the way dating is going where no one formally asks anyone else out.

To your second....whinge if I can call it that If there were no sexism, perhaps people (because both men and women complain when they think they've been disadvantaged by their gender) wouldn't have to complain about it?

Gloomendoom

I'm afraid nature is sexist. Who are you going to complain to?

Principia_2

Gloomendoom wrote: »

I'm afraid nature is sexist. Who are you going to complain to?

I think pointing out double standards helps.

It's not nature v nurture, it's a combination of the two

paulineb_2

Principia wrote: »

That's your view. Some men like paying for their date and think its rude if you insist on splitting.

Not the ones Ive ever dated