Newly Ex husband on steriods!

sassyblue

camNolliesMUMMY wrote: »

Not much progress!
Yesterday he called me, I answered I bloomin shouldn't of tbh.

Lesson learned though, eh?

I wouldn't have even answered him, l'd put the phone down without saying a word.

Brighton_belle

Can I suggest you tighten your FB security and defriend and block him and any mutual 'friends' who might show him anything you post?

andygb

camNolliesMUMMY wrote: »

Not much progress!
Yesterday he called me, I answered I bloomin shouldn't of tbh.
Your moving on too quickly, your going out alot, talking to men on line, and I was going to take you back till I saw that pic on your fb! But your looking out to be a right slag!
Ok whatever, I put him right. No I'm not talking to anyone it's the last thing on my mind! The pic is of the actor Tom hardy a private joke between me n my friend.
I told him to grow up I'm getting a life and moving on like he said and I ended the call.

I have now read most of this thread, and think this guy has serious "issues".
He is abusive, and he is taking steroids which are almost guaranteed to make him aggressive/violent/paranoid.
I think that for your own good, health and safety, you have to cut all ties with this person - no calls, tighten up your FB security and defriend him.
If he persists, then he is stalking you, and that is when you get the police involved.
Good luck.

camNolliesMUMMY

Well his mum came to see the kids. I told her what he's been saying and sending. Not much of a reaction?
She said shed talk to him I told her to leave it because it will just annoy him more, and he'll eventually realise what he's lost for the sake of his IMAGE!
Today I'm feeling good!
Had my nails done which I haven't had done in over a year.
And tonight I'm dying my hair ready for a night out with my girlfriends.
And I'm looking forward to seeing the new me.

Errata

Good luck with getting on with your life. Your OH's head will be all over the place whilst he's taking steroids so it might be wise to think about that when you sort out the financial side of things with him - CSA and mortgage payments, and bearing in mind the possibility he may be sacked because of his drug use.

camNolliesMUMMY

Kids just had their phone call, within 3 mins was asking to speak to me, I was on the phone just after my son started his conversation with him.
I was discussing what time me n my friend were catching the bus to go out.
Can't help but think he's wanting to know what I'm upto?
Went to the loo and he was asking again to speak to me he doesn't want to argue.
I just told my son daddy's called to speak to you darling.
Heard him say oh ok she's just being silly.
And then said to our son daddy can't take you to the park because mummy won't let me he said this 3-4 times.
I didn't say anything my son wasn't fazed by it tbh.
The call ended.
I then got two missed calls on my phone from him straight away which I declined!

thorsoak

I suggest that you block his number on your mobile - you have the house phone for contact, after all - and as someone else has suggested, you defriend him, and his friends on facebook ....and at the same time, be careful about what you do post on f/b - and don't put any photos on!

Dimey

CN Mummy, please don't get dragged into a war of words with your ex.

I'm reading between the lines and wonder whether you are looking for signs that he's sorry and you want him to see you getting on with your life - to make him regret what he's done. If so - don't think like that. Don't try to get one up on him. Leave it alone. You are not dealing with a rational person.

He could find out where you are going out and turn up and cause a scene.
After you've had a few drinks you might say and do things you'd regret and that could jeopardise your custody of the children. Don't text or phone your ex if you get drunk. Don't post on fb.

Don't even think of meeting other men until your divorce is finalised. You need to remain the sensible parent with a blameless life so your ex can't sling any mud at you during the divorce and custody process.

Sorry if I sound a bit mumsy.

camNolliesMUMMY

Meeting men is the last thing on my mind.
Nothing wrong with me going out having fun and enjoying some attention.
You see I've always got it but because I was with him I didn't like attention because I wasn't interested in other men.
He hated seeing men chat me up or looking at me and he always said its like he's invisible.
Something he'll have to live with letting me go.
Probably another reason he got into bodybuilding because I always got the attention I danno?

kazwookie

camNolliesMUMMY wrote: »

Meeting men is the last thing on my mind.
Nothing wrong with me going out having fun and enjoying some attention.
You see I've always got it but because I was with him I didn't like attention because I wasn't interested in other men.
He hated seeing men chat me up or looking at me and he always said its like he's invisible.
Something he'll have to live with letting me go.
Probably another reason he got into bodybuilding because I always got the attention I danno?

YOU need to be careful, block fb, don't tell him when or where you are going out to or with.

YOU are still currently married to this guy and the mother of his children, like it or not, IF there is a divorce / care for the children to sort out / courts etc, you need to be sqeaky clean.

Who is looking after the kids when you are out with your friends?