cheapo engagement ring

lostinrates

kboss2010 wrote: »

Everyone around me is getting hitched and getting sucked up into the consumerist trap that is wedding planning, I feel like I'm a little crazy at times for not wanting that.

To me, staying with someone is a commitment. A piece of paper/a ring/an expensive day complete with photo album makes you no less likely to separate/be unhappy 10 years from now, it just means you spent a lot of money on a day where you get to wear a ridiculously expensive dress and uncomfortable heels all day!

My OH's cousins' weddings all cost upwards of 20k. Even if I had that kind of money, I can think of 10 other things I would rather spend it on than a big party.

After the kittens, our wedding cost around a hundred quid....the cost of the legalities. We had two friends as witnesses. We then stood them lunch, so it cost that as well, but it was no big fuss or planning. My husband had his finals starting the next day. . I wore a dress I already owned and some vintage designer shoes dh found the week before in a charity shop (something old and something new to me) and picked flowers from the garden, DH wore jeans and a vintage jacket he has always liked.

You can do the traditions fairly cheaply if you want to and get married very, very cheaply and good value for the legalities.

Alisha2008

That would be my type of wedding lostinrates

Dimey

I never had an engagement ring but when we divorced after 25 years I treated myself to a nice ring.
Then I got burgled and my lovely ring was last seen (with a lot of other people's belongings) by Police, being transported to Romania hidden under a child in the back of the thieves car.

I now have no jewellery. Better things to do with my money.:)

cheeswright

I wear my husbands great great grandmothers engagement ring - ( we had it resized)
It was just one of the very lovely and very MSE bits about our wedding

maman

I'd suggest you don't get a ring at all. To buy a bit of cheap rubbish just because friends expect something to show is crazy. It's a waste of money and if I was going to have jewellery I'd have decent stuff or nothing.

I have an engagement ring (I think of it as a love token rather than someone owning me) but I rarely wear it except for special occasions. I wear my grandmother's wedding ring. That's tradition enough for me.

jellie

I would do whatever makes you happy. If having an engagement ring won't do that, then it's pointless.

Ignore what anyone says about your lack of a ring - it's your engagement not theirs.

sneezyboots

If you don't like wearing rings and don't want one- don't have one.

I have one but having never worn a ring before I found it so weird wearing it. Kept scratching my face or digging it into things.
Then lost a couple of stone and it fell off a few times so it's now packed away in the safe.

The plain flat wedding ring shows I'm married and no one has ever asked me where the engagement ring has gone (even the people that saw me wearing it).

victory

useless wrote: »

does anyone have any tips on where to get a cheap ring?

or indeed, if it would be terrible not to have one at all?

perhaps I am weird for not caring about an engagement ring whatsoever (I am the female by the way...)

the only rings I've ever had have got lost, and I haven't worn rings in over a decade

would still have wedding ring I think...

also , do men have engagement rings?

I'm not up on all of this....

Men not usually, or at least the ones I know have always had their wedding band but not an engagement and if you don't want one don't have one:D

I know a few people who insisted on an eternity ring, I don't have one, never needed or wanted one, personal choice:D

fawd1

Bazey wrote: »

Most engagements don't work out.

Really? I've only even heard of one person who got engaged and then didn't get married and I'm 32, and he was the son of a friend of my mums. No one that I actually know, as a friend, acquaintance or otherwise has ever not gotten married after an engagement.

sulkisu

kboss2010 wrote: »

Everyone around me is getting hitched and getting sucked up into the consumerist trap that is wedding planning, I feel like I'm a little crazy at times for not wanting that.

To me, staying with someone is a commitment. A piece of paper/a ring/an expensive day complete with photo album makes you no less likely to separate/be unhappy 10 years from now, it just means you spent a lot of money on a day where you get to wear a ridiculously expensive dress and uncomfortable heels all day!

My OH's cousins' weddings all cost upwards of 20k. Even if I had that kind of money, I can think of 10 other things I would rather spend it on than a big party.

I couldn't agree more. The last wedding we went to cost £15k and guests still had to pay for their own drinks! I live in hope that Tesco will one day do weddings (they do seem to do everything else), so that we an nip out do the shopping and get married at the same time! I have been with OH 10 years and we have three children together. It would be nice to just 'wake up married' one day, without actually having to do anything or worry about offending people.