cheapo engagement ring

useless

love it! I'm just indifferent on the matter, and a notorious money saver who can't see the point when we have other concerns.

Yet this is all pulling on my slight feminist inclinations as a reason too...

kitten is great!

kboss2010

useless wrote: »

that's a good idea about the necklace...although am still coming round to the idea of having nothing!!

I guess I will get a lot of women asking to look at 'the ring', and then looking at me funny when it's invisible, but what's new!

never understood the fascination with all this 'stuff'

Useless, I feel the same! I don't even want to get married but, if I ever did I would not wear a ring and I have told my OH this. I hate wearing rings and I'd have to take it off for work anyway because it would get damaged.

Traditions are great for people who believe in them. I, personally, think they're pointless. Just an excuse for another money-grabbing company to charge you over the odds for something you don't really want or need. Weddings = $$$$$kaching! for all companies involved, including jewellers.

I also don't "belong" to anyone, which is what a wedding ring traditionally stands for.

useless

kboss2010 wrote: »

Useless, I feel the same! I don't even want to get married but, if I ever did I would not wear a ring and I have told my OH this. I hate wearing rings and I'd have to take it off for work anyway because it would get damaged.

Traditions are great for people who believe in them. I, personally, think they're pointless. Just an excuse for another money-grabbing company to charge you over the odds for something you don't really want or need. Weddings = $$$$$kaching! for all companies involved, including jewellers.

I also don't "belong" to anyone, which is what a wedding ring traditionally stands for.

arr, here I feel normal!

kboss2010

useless wrote: »

arr, here I feel normal!

Everyone around me is getting hitched and getting sucked up into the consumerist trap that is wedding planning, I feel like I'm a little crazy at times for not wanting that.

To me, staying with someone is a commitment. A piece of paper/a ring/an expensive day complete with photo album makes you no less likely to separate/be unhappy 10 years from now, it just means you spent a lot of money on a day where you get to wear a ridiculously expensive dress and uncomfortable heels all day!

My OH's cousins' weddings all cost upwards of 20k. Even if I had that kind of money, I can think of 10 other things I would rather spend it on than a big party.

heartbreak_star

I would prefer a pretty engagement ring to an expensive one - I know it's not mutually exclusive

With wedding bands, I would exchange rings with my husband but will not take his name. To me that would signify being a "belonging" more than a ring

HBS x

paulineb_2

There are legal advantages to being married, eg if something happened to a partner and they hadnt made a will, you might find yourself in difficulty.

To be honest, theres no need for fuss at a wedding, I think the wedding machine is getting worse over time. I remember about 20 years ago when a friend got married, it cost £10000 then and the marriage lasted all of 3 months.

They had been together a long time but things went very wrong about 6 months previously, but she still married him.

My mum had two registry office weddings (not at the same time obviously).

If I got married which I doubt as not only am I single, I dont really have the desire to get married, I might still wear a ring but it wouldnt be an expensive ring or an expensive wedding.

People can get married for a few hundred quid, I certainly know the option Id choose.

useless

kboss2010 wrote: »

Everyone around me is getting hitched and getting sucked up into the consumerist trap that is wedding planning, I feel like I'm a little crazy at times for not wanting that.

To me, staying with someone is a commitment. A piece of paper/a ring/an expensive day complete with photo album makes you no less likely to separate/be unhappy 10 years from now, it just means you spent a lot of money on a day where you get to wear a ridiculously expensive dress and uncomfortable heels all day!

My OH's cousins' weddings all cost upwards of 20k. Even if I had that kind of money, I can think of 10 other things I would rather spend it on than a big party.

here here! we are moving hopefully to our first place after years of renting, so that's our aim, and usually that lasts longer than a day!

My favourite is the dress shopping/pictures shown by friends who are getting married, and pretending to look bothered by each variation on a meringue, as though some how they aren't all the same!

ergh the endless conversation too.

thanks for shared moan.

Alisha2008

kboss2010 wrote: »

Even if I had that kind of money, I can think of 10 other things I would rather spend it on than a big party.

That's exactly how I feel about a wedding.. soooo many things to do with that money, much more worth it!!

By the way I do have an "engagement" ring, but I'm not engaged and won't ever be.. just happen to like diamonds!!

kboss2010

useless wrote: »

here here! we are moving hopefully to our first place after years of renting, so that's our aim, and usually that lasts longer than a day!

I'm more concerned about saving money to fix the garage etc

My favourite is the dress shopping/pictures shown by friends who are getting married, and pretending to look bothered by each variation on a meringue, as though some how they aren't all the same!

ergh the endless conversation too.

thanks for shared moan.

Not at all!

Haha, I thought I was the only one who thought this about wedding dresses! I went to a wedding a few weeks ago and a mutual female friend who couldn't attend asked my OH what the dress was like - he gaped like a fish, shrugged and pointed at me saying, "don't ask me, ask my gf" - I had to do the whole "ooh, she looked lovely" spiel, yes she looked lovely, but I couldn't even remember whether the dress was strapless or not lol. All I remember is that it was big and not sparkling white.

Gloomendoom

useless wrote: »

also , do men have engagement rings?

Not the straight ones.

Generally speaking.