cheapo engagement ring

dreamdreamer

I don't wear rings, but OH is very very traditional. I've just about worn him down on the "spending 2 months salary on the ring" tradition by telling him if he buys me a £6k ring I'll pawn it and buy a hot tub!:rotfl:

I don't really mind that he wants to buy me one, I think it's sweet. I couldn't care less whether I have one or not though, to be perfectly honest! I have said I don't want diamond though, I much prefer sapphires or rubies.

Oh and both of us agree the whole wedding market is a rip! We're all set on doing a Vegas trip!

Corelli

Useless, it is FINE not to have rings, it is completely up to you and your husband to be, not your friends, not your family, not random strangers.

Loads of people have gone a different route as evidenced by this thread. My Oh and I grew up as staunch 'alternative types' and hated conventional jewellery so got ourselves matching silver rings from a stall in Kensington Market (as was, donkey's years ago) In retrospect silver wasn't such a good idea as the celtic designs on the bands wore smooth in places quite quickly. Now after my weight has gone up and down the scales more times than I like to admit it has fitted different fingers and none and neither of us wear rings now. Not that it makes any difference at all to our relationship.

I always felt the only reson for a ring was to announce to the world that one was 'spoken for' and I didn't care at all about the world knowing, it is a private relationship. The only time wearing a conventional ring on the right finger would have helped me was when I've been chatted up by persistant and unwanted blokes. But this annoys me any way, they should have respected my saying that I wasn't interested rather than being sceptical that I 'belonged to' another man.

So OP, do what you want to do, and may I wish you all the happiness possible for the future.

Tish_P

It's fine not to have a ring. Just say "they're not my thing" in a flat tone when people start getting inquisitve, as I gather they do. It seems the whole world is the sexism, oh sorry TRADITION, enforcement police when you're getting married.

Georgiegirl256

Personally I'm not a big fan if jewellery in general. When I first got engaged, I wore my ring for a couple of months, and then didn't bother really wearing it again, only now and again. This might sound strange, but it annoyed me, don't get me wrong, it's a gorgeous ring, the boy did good lol, but it's quite raised, and I kept on banging it on things, and catching it on things, and I was nervous that I was going to lose a diamond out of it.

Now I've got the wedding ring, I wear that more, but only when I feel like it....or remember lol! Weirdly, my engagement ring now feels more comfortable when I wear it with my wedding ring, but I still feel strange wearing them, as like I said, I don't really wear jewellery apart from a signet ring which is stuck on my finger!

I like being married, but I don't see the need to wear a ring

Georgiegirl256

useless wrote: »

that's a good idea about the necklace...although am still coming round to the idea of having nothing!!

I guess I will get a lot of women asking to look at 'the ring', and then looking at me funny when it's invisible, but what's new!

never understood the fascination with all this 'stuff'

Me neither. I quite like the look of shock on people's face when they ask you to have a look at the ring/s, and you put out an empty hand! :eek: :rotfl:

Georgiegirl256

paulineb wrote: »

There are legal advantages to being married, eg if something happened to a partner and they hadnt made a will, you might find yourself in difficulty.

To be honest, theres no need for fuss at a wedding, I think the wedding machine is getting worse over time. I remember about 20 years ago when a friend got married, it cost £10000 then and the marriage lasted all of 3 months.

People can get married for a few hundred quid, I certainly know the option Id choose.

Ours came in at under a thousand pounds. Not having a go at all for those who choose to spend tens of thousands of pounds, but I would feel sick at paying/parents paying out that much for a day.

A wedding is as expensive, or cheap as you make it.

smorie

Warren James

dmliverpool

High street dealers are good and have cheap and easily claimable insurance in my experience. Also if she's willing to get a cheap ring she's a keeper, get er down the isle before she changes her mind!