Has anyone gone to/used a medium....

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I would never go to a medium because I don't believe in throwing good money away on rubbish.

I was "forced" to have a reading once - just after we lost my dad, mum decided we should both have a reading and paid - and they were trying so hard to cold-read me that after a little while they left it and read my cards instead, which was also bunkum.

I second a recommendation for Cruse. They helped me

HBS x

Brewstersmum

ive had a couple of reading at parties throughout my life. 1 was quite good, she knew stuff that no one else would about my dad who had died years before. I left in tears vowing I would never do it again. she said to me my future was with the probation service! I was 22, just left a violent relationship, had a young child and no idea what my future was going be. 10 years later, I work with offenders!

the 2nd one was again at a party. the woman mingled with the guests for a couple of hours then proceeded to do private readings. they were recorded on cd. It was total poo lol

a few months ago a girl I worked with was talking about her mum who was a medium. I said it was all wrong etc and challenged her to prove me otherwise. well her mum did me a reading and I must say I was gobsmacked. she got my parents name, and also their strange living arrangements. she told me stuff about my ex that has come true and also stuff about my current partner and our situation. I never disclosed anything to the girl at work and the mum had no financial gain from me..........

im undecided now but I do have a huge tick list of thing that should happen this year from the reading and so far, its actually coming true

peachyprice

meritaten wrote: »

Its a matter of BELIEF! like the Christian religion. Spiritualism is based on belief. and some of the posts are bordering on abuse - so be careful because I WILL report abusive posts.

Exactly, so it isn't necessarily real. God only exists to those who believe, communicating with the dead only exists to those who believe.

What you choose to believe within your church is one thing, what so called mediums try to trick vulnerable people in to believing is real outwith a religious environment is despicable.

meg72

meritaten wrote: »

you have just opened a can of worms! you will get two responses, those who think mediums are all fakes and should be hung drawn and quartered and those who believe that some are genuine.

I am so sorry about your son - if it helps, my personal belief is that there is an afterlife and you don't really need a medium if your son wants to be contacted. HE will somehow let you know he is around.
If you do decide to contact a medium please don't use the ones who advertise in mags.
The Spiritualist Church train Mediums and they will know of reputable mediums in your area. arrange an appointment and the sum should be reasonable.
The medium shouldn't 'cold read'. a good medium will ask you to say either NO, Yes or I don't know to their statements.
If all you want to know is if your loved one is happy - then I can say that according to Spiritualist belief then yes they are.

Excellent advice.

meg72

redwineguzzler wrote: »

Torry,
I do need to see someone I think, but am wary of being seen by someone who has no belief of anything, not really sure how to explain this? from the start I have been everyone's rock, siblings, husband etc, always the strong one. but I miss my son so much, always questioning myself about what if I did this, did that,noticed something earlier etc, and yes I admit I am looking for something but don't know what?

Understand totally what you are going through, especially the questioning yourself, what if, did that, noticed something earlier,
etc.

No one can answer those questions for you except yourself. in time you will come to accept what happened and to realise there was nothing you could do to prevent it.

Be kind to yoursself. What you are looking for is comfort and this will come, it will come in the memories of happy loving times with your Son,it comes in remembering the things you shared and laughs you had. You wont ever get over losing him, missing him or wanting him but it will get more bearable.

Person_one

meritaten wrote: »

Its a matter of BELIEF! like the Christian religion. Spiritualism is based on belief. and some of the posts are bordering on abuse - so be careful because I WILL report abusive posts.

Are you threatening us? There's been nothing remotely like abuse on here.

elaine373

I haven't personally been to a medium but I had a friend who lost her baby through cot death 16 years ago. She spent time and money trying to get some contact with no avail but muddled irrelevant messages. It nearly drove her to insanity
I can understand the desire to want messages but personally, I believe that a loved one would come through in some way if that is possible. I lost my beloved mum 9 years ago and I know that I don't need a medium for her to talk to me. I trust God and hope for a reunion in the next life.In the meantime subtle things happen that make me feel she is close by anyway. Much love to you and your son.xx

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Google 'Cold Reading'

I have kept an open mind for many years and have been picked out by 'mediums' at meetings but I personally have to conclude that the whole thing IMO is basically scam, sham, self-delusion and outright fraud in some cases. I would advise avoiding this route.

I do have experience of 'psychic' experiences - ie knowing things about people & their lives without knowing how or why but this I think is more about a innate ability to emotionally read people minutely, that some people have.

Anyone who wants money from you is to be steered clear of in my view.

red_devil

Person_one wrote: »

I'm sorry, I really am so sorry, but the people we've lost don't communicate with us after they've gone.

None of us knows what happens after we die, but mediums just use your grief and your completely understandable desire to feel a connection with your son again, they use it to line their pockets. How terrible is that? Its reprehensible that anyone would do that to you, but they would.

Cruse can't give you any 'spiritual' answers, nobody can, but they can help you cope with your feelings and give you someone to talk it all through with. Even Samaritans could be a big help, you don't have to be suicidal to call them.

what you said.

jemb

I have used several, just because though, not for specifically getting in touch with one person. I think it all may be a little early and raw for you to go and pin your hopes, they may not 'come through'. Youhave to dinfiatly believe something may happen or go in with an open mind rather than a closed mind and negativity. Totally agree with Meritaten though, a good medium will not ask leading questions and will only expect a yes or no answer. That way you cannot lead their following questions.
I have had some very strange experiences 'for' rather than 'against' them. Such as, I found out a family friend had died a few days previously when I went to see one guy fidning out through him, it was all very strange as the medium panicked and said he had to air the room and was visably shaking. Said that when someone tries to come through not long since passing that they're all over the place, like a mad man shouting incoherantly. It was the day after I was told by my parents as they were told their friends Son had died from Cancer the day prior to my reading. I was told specifically what he'd died of (in terms of where the cancer was) and his age. I didnt even think of it until they had the call the day after. He also said things I've never shared with anyone. Like specifically, not like "I'm getting the letter M" as in, you're grandmother was called such and such, although I'm being told off for calling her that, i've to call her this she says. Described all sorts. Keep an open mind to things we don't know, don't dismiss as some have on here as in "We don't know what happens when we die" exactly, so why not open your mind to the fact that death isnt the end. It's quite liberating and beautiful to think that in some way, shape or form that somethings happens after the body moves on. And that's coming from a none arty farty person!