Has anyone gone to/used a medium....

redwineguzzler

Torry,
I do need to see someone I think, but am wary of being seen by someone who has no belief of anything, not really sure how to explain this? from the start I have been everyone's rock, siblings, husband etc, always the strong one. but I miss my son so much, always questioning myself about what if I did this, did that,noticed something earlier etc, and yes I admit I am looking for something but don't know what?

Rev

I have never been to a medium. I don't believe they exist.

But I can understand why people fall for it. I lost my mum in December. And the need to speak to her. Hear her voice. Get a hug. Have any form of contact with her at all is overwhelming.

I think we're I a believer I would be spending any and all money I had on mediums in an attempt to 'contact' my mum. Just to feel O had some for of contact with her.

I will admit there's part of me that wishes I did believe. To go down that route and have that comfort. But I never believed in them before. And now I'm in that position of grief and wanting that comfort I find it even more despicable how they knowingly use somebody's grief to make money.

Torry_Quine

redwineguzzler wrote: »

Torry,
I do need to see someone I think, but am wary of being seen by someone who has no belief of anything, not really sure how to explain this? from the start I have been everyone's rock, siblings, husband etc, always the strong one. but I miss my son so much, always questioning myself about what if I did this, did that,noticed something earlier etc, and yes I admit I am looking for something but don't know what?

Grief is hard and counselling can be very helpful in these situations.


http://www.cruse.org.uk/ This is an organisation that can help or depending on the age or reason there are other groups that can help.

Please don't blame yourself for what happened.

Take care.

Rev

meritaten wrote: »

Person-one - you may not have 'communicated' with anyone. others have. Don't lump all mediums under the term 'con artists'. People have different beliefs to you and believing in the afterlife via Spiritualism is a legal religion. in fact its a facet of most religions! they just have different interpretations.

I would challenge anyone on this earth who calls themselves a medium/spiritualist to tell me something truthful and factual beyond what they learn from cold reading.

Anything. My nans name. Granddad. Mother maiden name. Age. Hair colour. Place of birth. Pets names. Dads name. My middle name. Anything at all.

Simple things that they should have access to we're they in contact with that person 'spiritually'.

marisco_2

I am so sorry for your loss OP. I agree with others who have recommended contacting Cruse, the Samaritans or looking into grief counselling. I really don't believe that you will find what you are looking for by seeing a medium. As far as I am concerned they are simply chancers who make money out of conning people, by taking advantage of someone who is suffering at a difficult time in their lives. However you proceed from here I hope you will soon find peace of mind and feel more at ease.

Toto

Rev wrote: »

I have never been to a medium. I don't believe they exist.

But I can understand why people fall for it. I lost my mum in December. And the need to speak to her. Hear her voice. Get a hug. Have any form of contact with her at all is overwhelming.

I think we're I a believer I would be spending any and all money I had on mediums in an attempt to 'contact' my mum. Just to feel O had some for of contact with her.

I will admit there's part of me that wishes I did believe. To go down that route and have that comfort. But I never believed in them before. And now I'm in that position of grief and wanting that comfort I find it even more despicable how they knowingly use somebody's grief to make money.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum, and to you OP the loss of your son.

I did go down the route of mediums after my mum died. I'm not sure I believed in it when I started, but mum died so suddenly that there was so much unfinished business, I didn't get to say goodbye and I love you, and I really needed that. I saw loads of mediums, I wanted just one to give me something that made me think, that's it, there is the special thing that only mum and I knew. There was a thing, something we did together which was a bit naughty but funny to us, I'm sure she would have mentioned it if she came through from the other side.

But I never got that, I got a lot of old waffle really, I got some old woman come through who said that I was chopping my carrots wrong. To this day I'm not sure if I should be chopping them in circles or batons, so I tend to do a bit of both so I don't upset the afterlife!

I did get some signs around my house which told me that she was around, but was that really just my imagination making things fit because I wanted it so much.

I've not been back to a medium for about 10 years now. I figure that if there is an afterlife and my family are around then they know I love them and miss them, I don't need to pay someone to tell them that. I also think that the best way that I have of honouring them is by being a good, honest caring person, someone they would be proud of.

OP I think grief counselling would be good for you. It might not give you any answers but it will give you somewhere that you can offload some of your thoughts and feelings without having to worry about upsetting anyone else. I wish I had done just that rather than chasing answers from people who were never going to give me what I needed.

Once again, I am so sorry for your loss x

bagpussbear

I have been to several over the years, and I know a couple of them personally.

There are frauds out there so go on word of mouth recommendation, but personally I would say as a first timer try a medium at a spiritualist church first.

mudgekin

Hi

I went to a spiritualist church for a reading with a medium the anniversary of my mum's death. He was a really nice man and made sure I knew that I should only answer yes or no or I don't know.

It was incredibly emotional and almost cathartic but it wasn't my mum who came through but my dad.What he did say was that my mother was with him but wasn't able to get through as she was in a period of what he described as "healing" as her death had been fairly recent.

There were lots of things that were incredibly personal but there were also things that meant nothing

Did it help, yes I think it did. Would I go back, yes I think I would.

For those who belittle it.Don't. We get through bereavement however we can. Spiritualism was something my mum believed in which is why I went along. Of course I wanted to contact her, more than anyone could imagine but I still took comfort from the session

worried_jim

redwineguzzler wrote: »

After watching a programme about 'Mediums', has anyone had a positive experience...... thinking about it after losing my lovely son last year....

Reminds me of Peter Kay in Phoenix Nights when he gets a phone call from the Medium booked for the nights entertainment asking what time is he on at and Peter replies,"If's he's any good he should already know".

These people are charlatans praying on the public, stay clear OP.

Goldiegirl

meritaten wrote: »

well there are plenty of 'charlatans' out there - one has to use common sense!
people with 'medical degrees' who do physical harm to their patients.
financial 'advisors' who bilk their clients.

if some of you actually attended a Spiritualist church and heard messages - you would know that they are not all 'banal'. I have heard some very specific messages which no one apart from the recipient could possibly know.
but then, you haven't attended Spiritualist church have you? I have. I bet you haven't!

I've never been to a spiritualist church because I have no desire to go.

However, I have friends who have been, and nothing that they have told me has led me to believe that genuine messages were received from deceased loved ones.

I think it would be wonderful if it was possible to communicate with the departed.

But I don't think you can.

I just have to hope that when our time comes, we find there is something after this life and we'll see our loved ones again.

I don't have enough faith to know for certain there is something else beyond this life, so I settle for hope.