Big arguements and new pregnancy

Funky_Bold_Ribena

Suz24 wrote: »

He has a ground maintenance company so anything from a small office park to a big field that needs to be mowed. I think as soon as i can move around again properly he will expect me to be back out and about which i think is ridiculous but some people may disagree.

I want to be able to spend time with my bubba and showing them off to family.

I just feel like im moaning but i really dont feel up to doing much. I was supposed to be calling my mum later as she is seeing her sister at the mo but if im feeling like this i will just wait to see her next week as done want to worry her on her holiday

I think your insurance company might be in disagreement!

Notice as soon as you start 'moaning' he finds time to buy you things you wanted...it's a control thing, making you feel ungrateful for all the things he does.

I imagine his assumption is that you will have nothing else to do after you give birth as you have no friends, no family, no transport...in fact, nothing but him. Check mate.

Gigervamp

He wants you to go to work with him in case he gets stung by a bee or wasp? Doesn't he have an Epipen?

Person_one

FBaby wrote: »

That's the point, I didn't but it is another assumption no different to the one that some made that her boyfriend was controlling and potentially abusive, despite nothing much said that made this a definite fact.

I don't think the suggestions that he might be abusive come from 'nothing' actually, they come from lots of red flags and examples from the OP's description of his behaviour.

You seem very determined to see his side in this, to paint him in the best possible light, why?

candygirl

Person_one wrote: »

I don't think the suggestions that he might be abusive come from 'nothing' actually, they come from lots of red flags and examples from the OP's description of his behaviour.

You seem very determined to see his side in this, to paint him in the best possible light, why?[/QUOTE]

I was wondering the same thing:p

princessdon

Suz24 wrote: »

He has a ground maintenance company so anything from a small office park to a big field that needs to be mowed. I think as soon as i can move around again properly he will expect me to be back out and about which i think is ridiculous but some people may disagree.

I want to be able to spend time with my bubba and showing them off to family.


I just feel like im moaning but i really dont feel up to doing much. I was supposed to be calling my mum later as she is seeing her sister at the mo but if im feeling like this i will just wait to see her next week as done want to worry her on her holiday

Do you pay NI to get Maternity pay?

poet123

To be blunt he sounds like a selfish immature idiot. He holds all the cards and the deck is stacked against you.

The only plus is that you seem to have a good support network with your sister and your parents. If you were my daughter I would be willing you to ring me to collect you and then giving you space to think through your options. You don't say how old you are, what career options, what dreams.......I would want you to consider these points.

OP, ring your sister and go.....

princessdon

poet123 wrote: »

To be blunt he sounds like a selfish immature idiot. He holds all the cards and the deck is stacked against you.

The only plus is that you seem to have a good support network with your sister and your parents. If you were my daughter I would be willing you to ring me to collect you and then giving you space to think through your options. You don't say how old you are, what career options, what dreams.......I would want you to consider these points.

OP, ring your sister and go.....

It takes 2 to make and create a baby,how did OP think she was going to support the arrival? At some point during their plans to create a life given the nature if their work this must have reared its head.

It's normal to discuss how long on maternity, when to return to work, need to SAH, work PT or FT. It's a natural process.

sassyblue

Suz24 wrote: »

A few of the points on here i can see in him......

Forewarned is forearmed suz, you don't have to believe what he's telling you in future, have the strength to make your own mind up before he takes that away.

paulineb_2

princessdon wrote: »

Do you pay NI to get Maternity pay?

If she doesnt get maternity pay, she should get maternity allowance, a colleague of mine who worked part time wasnt paid mat pay by her employer but she did get maternity allowance, in fact, she got more money than she would have if shed been paid by our then bosses.

lippy1923

Not to seem rude, but can you honestly say you are happy to bring a child into this world, knowing full well your relationship is a joke and you cannot even afford to live on your own, let alone support a child?

Sorry if that's nasty but you really need to consider what is best for you and the baby. It's a horrible thought but you need to consider if keeping the baby is the right thing. For the love of god speak to your family. Sod what your bloke has to say, he seems to be living in lalaland.