Big arguements and new pregnancy

claire16c

As TL said they advise you wait until your next period for dating purposes, the 3 month thing is out of date. But regardless, 5 times in 8 months seems a bit odd to me, you'd probably have to get pregnant every single attempt as your cycle would be messed up.

Brewstersmum

id say go and stay at your mums for a week. don't have any contact with him and just look after yourself.

ive had 2 relationships like this, and my alarm bells are seriously ringing. one ended up been violent, the other didn't, it was just controlling to the very end when I had enough and left. as we have children I am still controlled to some degree by this man.

Just remember that if you have a child with someone, you are forever connected to them no matter what

Suz24

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Flower08

OP, even if things did change with regards to him being less possessive and you could have more contact with friends, family etc, on a practical financial level you need to make sure this is going to work out as well.

Does his family know you are pregnant? You say you are living with them, are they going to be happy you staying there with a baby as well?
If he is controlling whether or not you can get a job and his business doesn't support you, how will you manage if his parents say they dont have the room for a baby in their house as well?

I really hope you can sort everything out, for the sake of you and the baby. But the fact that you have lost friends, your job and are distanced from your family does ring alarm bells for me
I wish you all the luck in the world.

neverdespairgirl

bagpussbear wrote: »

Exactly, that works out a miscarriage every 6/7weeks or so doesn't it? is that even possible?

It's definitely possible to have 5 (early) miscarriages in 8 months, but not very likely, I'd have thought. It's 8.4 weeks between each one, so say:

#1 - 1st January

#2 - 14th Feb

#3 - 15th April

# 4 - 30th June

#5 31st August

HPoirot

I lost my job soon after DH and I got married, and I cannot help feeling that there would be more respect in our relationship if I was in work again. The test for the OP's OH I think is whether he would be happy with her having a life of her own again.

j.e.j.

If he's not coping at this stage, honestly what's he going to be like with the stress and lack of sleep that comes with looking after a newborn baby?

My guess is, the OP will still be tip-toeing around him, trying not to upset or offend him, while recovering from the birth, feeding and trying to pacify a screaming baby, and not getting much sleep herself.

It's very concerning that she's isolated from friends and family too.

I recommend going back to your family, OP. He doesn't sound grown up enough to be a dad or a husband, to be honest.

Suz24

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Person_one

FBaby wrote: »

I took it that her best friend didn't like her getting a serious boyfriend and not having her friend to go out on the pull any longer and ultimately tried to break them up telling lies about him, which he found out, hence him asking her to make a choice.

Huh? Where on earth did you 'take' that from?

Person_one

Suz24 wrote: »

We havent told his parents yet but i think they suspect it cos i have been so sickly and not going to work with him.

Im going to see my mum and dad next week and i think im going to tell my mum.

I need to make my appointment with the midwife and book my scan but i need to either do it here where i am at the mo or do it at my registered doctors at home. This is causing massive arguements too.

I also have some of my own financial stress so i need to try and get that sorted too.

After i have had the baby he is expecting me to be back out to work for him pretty soon, going to see him at sites etc with the baby with me which im not too happy about.

He went to the wholesalers and bought some of the drinks and food that i have been wanting yesterday which was a lovely thought but now doesn't have much money left til he gets paid again from a job. Sometimes i feel like im being really ungrateful

I am trying to get hold of my sister as i want to speak to her about the pregnancy, she is very level headed and about as honest as they come.

I feel so emotional, i dont know if im coming or going

How soon after giving birth does he expect you to take a baby to a 'site'? What kind of site are we talking about here?

I'm so sorry for you OP, you're 7 weeks pregnant, isolated from your friends and family, have no financial independence and the one person who should be understanding and who should be doing everything they can to help you feel better is your biggest source of stress and upset and is making it all about him.

Something's very wrong when a pregnant woman feels she has to provide evidence to her partner that her morning sickness is genuine.