Providing spending money for child going on hol

Poppy9

Shelldean wrote: »

Haven't read whole thread, but I recently took a child friend away with us for a holiday.
We went for four nights, five days.
I was given £80 by the child parent, this covered just about everything.... accom, travel ( both across London and return train fares to Clacton) all food, drink etc, this including a couple in the evening entertainment, bus fares when we went out for the day plus her lunch on the day out. I also gave her money for the arcade if I gave my boys money. All four of the children also had their own money and if they wanted extra goes on the bowling or arcade machine they paid for it.

I added it up as it went along and was able to give her mother £15 back. So she had a holiday for probably £70, £65 spent by myself and £5 by herself.

She was 16 if that makes any difference!

Just curious. Did the mother take the £15 back? I wouldn't have or else I would have bought a gift with it as a thank you.

ash28

Spendless wrote: »

Recently my daughter went away for a few days to the Seaside with her friend and her family. They went in SC accommodation and it was booked before my daughter was invited to go along with them. I gave some money to friend's Mum (£40) to cover daughter's expenses whilst she was there. My daughter also had £20 pocket money. In addition I had used some vouchers for the kids to have wristbands for the rides at a funfair (no admission charges, just pay for rides). Whilst there they went to the beach, played crazy golf and went out to a pub once. One day they went to an acquarium type place but daughter says she was asked to pay out of her pocket money (the £20), whereas I'd have thought her admission charge should have been included in the £40 I sent.

Let me make it clear I am not cross about this, the overall cost remains the same to me, just wondering if in future I give or allocate more money to dd and tell her to pay her own way for admissions etc and interested in others thought and the way they do it.

I wouldn't invite a child on holiday and expect his/her parents to provide any money other than a bit of spending money.....for pressies etc. The cost of the holiday, the transport, the food, entertainment etc would be paid for by us.

Any activities and/or entrance fees we would pay for.....it's part of the holiday. And I certainly wouldn't ask a child to pay out of their spending money.

We have taken our grandson's friend more recently on holiday under the same conditions.....having his friend with us was a huge bonus for us otherwise he would probably have been bored on his own.

To me it's a bit like inviting a child to a birthday party and expecting them to pay their share......

dandelionclock30

No it isnt, its a whole week your looking after someone child for not a couple of hours. Obviously there will be some people on limited incomes who cant afford to pay for another child for a week even if they wanted to.
I would want to pay for my child, saying that my child would be holidaying with my family and thats it.

ash28

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

No it isnt, its a whole week your looking after someone child for not a couple of hours. Obviously there will be some people on limited incomes who cant afford to pay for another child for a week even if they wanted to.
I would want to pay for my child, saying that my child would be holidaying with my family and thats it.

If I couldn't afford to pay for a child to come on holiday then I wouldn't invite him/her.

But that's just me, everyone has their own opinions on the subject and their own way of doing things. That's just mine.

edeneve

There is way too much analysis going in here, it's simple really....we all would handle things differently...but for me...

If I invite someone elses child on holiday if in UK I would pay for everything (as my guest) and just expect child to have some pocket money for drinks/gifts etc.

If a holiday abroad I would ask if a childs friend would like to come but also state if they want to come then costs would be ...xyz etc...this would be simple cost of the actual oliday for that child. I would again expect them to bring spending money for childs extras like drinks but would pay for anything else like days out myself.

I think £60 is not worth getting worked up over, your child had a good time, you had 4 days worth of childcare (one way to look at it) and £60 for a 4 day holiday including everything is good value....it shouldn't matter really where it went if you look at it that way.

Prothet_of_Doom

I would ask the friend to estimate how much she would need for trips, give her £40 for food, £40 for trips (change to be provided) and tell them the £20 is for daughter to spend on presents, and not trips.

If I were taking my daughters friend, I would just be grateful my daughter had friends and cover the extra myself.