Providing spending money for child going on hol

dandelionclock30

One way forward could be for OP to take her daughter on holiday herself next time.Then all this can be avoided because OP would be paying for her daughter full stop.
Or if she has to go with friends, get her to go with a group like the guides or school.Where there is a set amount for the holiday and where they advise about spending money limits.
OP if your looking for a cheap holiday for her next time try youth hostelling or camping.(That is if you have the camping gear already).
Or you could just ask if your daughter could go "all inclusive" with the family to start with and give them an amount that covers absolutley everything.

Spendless

Well she didn't go with her friend purely because we are not having a holiday this year, nor was she invited due to her not having one. She was invited as company for her friend. The invite would have happened regardless. She has no interest in Brownies having tried it,is possibly doing a residential trip later this year with school, her first and we have limited camping gear, it not appealing to me in the slightest.

jellyhead

Spendless wrote: »

Well she didn't go with her friend purely because we are not having a holiday this year, nor was she invited due to her not having one. She was invited as company for her friend. The invite would have happened regardless. She has no interest in Brownies having tried it,is possibly doing a residential trip later this year with school, her first and we have limited camping gear, it not appealing to me in the slightest.

I've just come back from camping, it's fab :rotfl:

Actually this time I didn't feel like killing anybody. I think the difference is caffeine. I made sure I could make myself a cup of tea when I wake, seeing as nobody else has my pathetic addiction.

princessdon

jellyhead wrote: »

From what I gather it's just the issue of asking the girl to cough up at the aquarium entrance that OP was wondering about.

The rest of it doesn't matter

I don't suppose OP would have even asked her daughter about how many drinks they had where, etc. if she wasn't trying to work out why her daughter was asked to pay for the aquarium.

OP if you live in that sort of area, today's Express has a bogof code for Flamingo Land and it gives everyone a free meal voucher too

The alternative could have been for Op DD to stay home whilst they went.

End of the day, its why schools set a fee for a trip and a max spend limit.

My DD goes away with friends and her Bessie is at our villa now with me for 2 weeks.

Difference is communications. Parents paid for flights and an open tab on activities. The girls want to go to a waterpark (its on mums bill), a mouthful of our picnic isn't. Her DD was given £20 as souvenir spends, we agreed up front.

Because her Bessie family has my DD so often it will end up squits (bar waterpark and kayaking hire), there is no fee.

It's down to individuals to negotiate, but as I said earlier I'd be peed orf if I paid for Bessie to eat, drink and they had spends mine didnt.

Spendless

jellyhead wrote: »

I've just come back from camping, it's fab :rotfl:

Actually this time I didn't feel like killing anybody. I think the difference is alcohol. I made sure I could make myself a cup of tea when I wake, seeing as nobody else has my pathetic addiction.

Altered your post for you. That would possibly make a difference to me too. :rotfl:

jellyhead

Spendless wrote: »

Altered your post for you. That would possibly make a difference to me too. :rotfl:

I don't drink alcohol ... perhaps that's why I regularly feel like killing people while camping. Or it could be sharing a tent with starfish-child. Or the noisy owls, and I think there were parrots too, although the boy in the next tent said they were deer. One morning we awoke to find that the sheep had escaped into our field. The cockerel wasn't shy either.

Am I selling this to you as a fab holiday?

paulineb_2

Done camping twice, loved it, waking up in a soaking wet tent, totally character building. Im not really someone who has to have every home comfort known to man woman or beast but having done youth hostelling and camping, Id do the youth hostelling every time

Never done a caravan holiday but it would still be up there on the list as being preferable to being in a tent.

shegirl

paulineb wrote: »

Done camping twice, loved it, waking up in a soaking wet tent, totally character building. Im not really someone who has to have every home comfort known to man woman or beast but having done youth hostelling and camping, Id do the youth hostelling every time

Never done a caravan holiday but it would still be up there on the list as being preferable to being in a tent.

Caravan holidays are great.You get comfort and simplicity (ok and LCD tv's etc but it's different to daily home life) and don't get soaked!!!

Poppy9

A few snide, bordering on !!!!!y comments on this thread and I don't think they are needed. The OP was thinking aloud and put it out there to discuss and I think it's quite interesting.

It's obvious from the varied POV that people have different ideas of what it means to invite/include friend on a holiday or special day out. At the end of the day it's not a case of one POV being right and another being wrong it's all down to communication and knowing what the arrangements are.

Shelldean

Haven't read whole thread, but I recently took a child friend away with us for a holiday.
We went for four nights, five days.
I was given £80 by the child parent, this covered just about everything.... accom, travel ( both across London and return train fares to Clacton) all food, drink etc, this including a couple in the evening entertainment, bus fares when we went out for the day plus her lunch on the day out. I also gave her money for the arcade if I gave my boys money. All four of the children also had their own money and if they wanted extra goes on the bowling or arcade machine they paid for it.

I added it up as it went along and was able to give her mother £15 back. So she had a holiday for probably £70, £65 spent by myself and £5 by herself.

She was 16 if that makes any difference!