If you're married do you

elsien

My mother always called her MIL (my grandmother) mum even though they didn't really get on. My grandmother was of the generation where everyone younger than her called her Mrs X. Even people she'd known for 50+ years. So as my mother couldn't really call her Mrs X, and her first name was totally out of the question, that left "mum" by default. Don't know anyone who does that nowadays though.

double_mummy

i call my MIL mum or eema (hebrew for mum) we are very close and have been since i started my relationship with her son i dont have a FIL

my OH calls my mum nanma (which is what the kids call her with 4 female grandparents we got creative) and he calls my dad grandad or his name

we do have conversations talking about mum where we get half way through and have to check which mum we are talking about

Kaz2904

I call my MiL by her first name. Earlier on today, I was stuck in traffic so asked DS (aged 9) to ring his Dad. He looked a bit confused and said it didn't sound like him. I got him to put the phone onto speaker and finally heard MY Dad in the background asking if I was ok! I explained and got DS to hang up. Then had to get him to search for his Dads name, not Dad!

stiltwalker

I would feel really weird called my parents in law mum and dad - but then as I call my own parents by their christian names that's not really a surprise!

Didn't call my ex PIL mum and dad either and there was also an older, spinster cousin who everyone else called aunty (first name) who I just called first name - in actual fact she was far more modern than her family gave her credit for, and she quite appreciated it!

themull1

Nope. Dont know anyone who does.

isitchristmasyet

I call my fil dad as mine died 12 years ago and he treats me like one of his own. My partner has a nickname for my mum (a nice one! ) which she loves being called.

seven-day-weekend

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Call your Mother in law and father in law mum and dad?

This is really an alien concept to me and I'm not sure it's part of the generation I'm part of? My aunty (by marriage) who is in her early 60's called my Nanna 'mum' and Granddad 'dad' however I don't call my FIL dad and I don't know any friends who do this either for their in laws.

Do you? Is it a thing of the past?

No I didn't and wouldn't expect my son's partner to do so if they get married.

However a friend of mine, older than me, is very hurt because his one d-i-l does not call them mum and dad. I have pointed out to him that he is not her dad, he jsut says his other children's spouses call him dad, why can't she. I think he has now accepted that it does not mean she is disrespectful, but still does not like it.

tori.k

I call The MIL Mother as a term of endearment but use her first name referring about her to DH or other people. I always used my FIL given name. she has always introduced me as her daughter I think it's because I married her only child and it a way of keeping closeness within the family, there is an old saying daughter's stay closer to home then son's. I think this is true

Birdie85

I call my in-laws by their first names although I'm sure they'd love it if I called them Mum and Dad. I just find it weird though. They call me Daughter (they only have sons so I'm 'the daughter they never had') but I'd rather they didn't as I'm the daughter of my own Mum and Dad, no-one else.

My DH calls my parents by their first names, as does my SIL. My parents wouldn't like to be called Mum and Dad by them as they understand that whilst they love them, they're not their real parents and don't deserve such a personal title.

aileth

I call them by their actual names, but grandparents in law I call them grandma and grandad. My own grandparents died many, many years ago, so I don't have any of my own