If you're married do you

claire16c

My husband sometimes calls my parents mum & dad. Other times he uses their first names.

I would never call his mum or dad that but then I'm not close to them.

My parents both used to sometimes call their mil & fil mum or dad, but not all the time.

tea_lover

My ex BIL always called my parents (his in-laws) "wife's mum" and "wife's dad". He couldn't ever bring himself to use their first names, even though they got on really well at the time and he lived with us for quite a while. It'd always be "cup of tea, G's mum".

Jalapee

I call my father in law 'FIL' and he called me DIL bit random i know but it was just a joke that turned into a name! sadly MIL passed away shortly after we married..

My DH only calls my parents Mum and Dad when he wants something lol

pollypenny

One of my MIL's many complaints about me was that I didn't call her 'mam'.

She was a lousy mam to my husband, anyway.

neverdespairgirl

double_mummy wrote: »

i call my MIL mum or eema (hebrew for mum) we are very close and have been since i started my relationship with her son i dont have a FIL

my OH calls my mum nanma (which is what the kids call her with 4 female grandparents we got creative) and he calls my dad grandad or his name

we do have conversations talking about mum where we get half way through and have to check which mum we are talking about

Useful having an extra language in the mix - that's why my 8 year old calling my Dad "Dad" isn't a problem, because he calls his own "Abba".

neverdespairgirl

tori.k wrote: »

there is an old saying daughter's stay closer to home then son's. I think this is true

"A son is a son 'til he marries his wife, a daughter's a daughter for all of her life"

double_mummy

neverdespair girl is your LO also speaking hebrew? my LO does and i havent found anyone else with kids around the same age who does

we are abba and eema when he is showing off lol

Lagoon

I added it to a text once, not long after the wedding, because she sent 'Hi daughter,...'

Light-hearted, but I wouldn't actually have any issue with it, aside from the sub-conscious bit that goes 'why does a daughter marry a son?'.

As it is, I don't ever really call people by their names, and so it's never come up. How many situations really require you to say the name of the person you're talking to, before you begin speaking?

If I'm talking to someone else, outside of the family completely, then she's 'OH's mum'.

Goldiegirl

My FIL was deceased before I met my husband, but I always called my MIL by her first name, and my husband called my parents by their names too.

lady1964

My MIL asked me to call her and FIL 'mum & dad' when DH & I were first married, I was uncomfortable with it but tried because she'd asked and I wanted to please her. However, after a very short time, I stopped because I have a mum & dad and it just felt wrong to call others by the same names. I called my in-laws by their proper names from there on in and it's remained the same.

My parents and my in-laws (both in their 70's) both called their respective in-laws 'mum & dad' so I do think it's a generational thing tbh.