Would You be Upset if Your Partner Watched !!!!!!?

cakeforbrains

Any wrote: »

I think because they were not brought up to think about it, it was tabu subject in their own family and so on...
And so it doesn't transpire until later on, that actually !!!!!! exists and shock horror, OH might be of a bit less conservative mind..

But if one thinks that people watch !!!!!! because they don't fancy ME, the person they live with and have a life with, sometimes children with, bring a wage to etc, then it is a sign of insecurity on such a level that it neeeds professional help.

Yes, my friend has very low self-esteem. It's such a shame. I pointed out to her that he's probably not looking at slim women because he doesn't fancy her, but because he wants to look at !!!!!! and all mainstream !!!!!! features slim women.

bitemebankers

Any wrote: »

I think because they were not brought up to think about it, it was tabu subject in their own family and so on...
And so it doesn't transpire until later on, that actually !!!!!! exists and shock horror, OH might be of a bit less conservative mind..

I find it a bit surprising that people like this actually exist. How do conservatives even reproduce?

bitemebankers

cakeforbrains wrote: »

Yes, my friend has very low self-esteem. It's such a shame.

I'd say that's the problem then, not that her OH watches !!!!!!, just like 99.998% of men.

Any

bitemebankers wrote: »

I find it a bit surprising that people like this actually exist. How do conservatives even reproduce?

Have you never read about people that only did it in the dark, half dressed, quick in and out and turn over straight after?:rotfl:

cakeforbrains

aileth wrote: »

Well, I don't know if I'm weird, but in the initial stages of seeing each other, aka lust central, I'd have thought these things would be discussed? Sex, !!!!!!, pushing buttons etc. My OH asked if I would watch !!!!!! together, I said it's not really my thing and it's never been mentioned again in almost five years, that suits me!

So, apart from the money/using his own laptop caveats you really don't mind him watching. My friend's partner was downstairs looking at !!!!!! while she was upstairs in bed. Would that be ok with you?

(Feel free to tell me to sod off if you don't want to talk about it )

Prothet_of_Doom

My OH would go mental if she suspected that I watched !!!!!! when away.
But I wouldn't anyway. I know alot of people who do....and apparently that's why the internet was invented.

Any

cakeforbrains wrote: »

So, apart from the money/using his own laptop caveats you really don't mind him watching. My friend's partner was downstairs looking at !!!!!! while she was upstairs in bed. Would that be ok with you?

(Feel free to tell me to sod off if you don't want to talk about it )

As long as it would get him in the mood and I got some action:rotfl:
Or I was ill and really really didn't want any action and this meant he wasn't going to bother me for it..

cakeforbrains

Prothet_of_Doom wrote: »

My OH would go mental if she suspected that I watched !!!!!! when away.
But I wouldn't anyway. I know alot of people who do....and apparently that's why the internet was invented.

How would you feel if she watched when you weren't there?

daisiegg

Nope, doesn't bother me at all.

Nor does him looking at other women bother me - in fact, I point them out to him!

However, I was recently out and about with a friend and her partner. He was very open about checking out other women and she was fine with that and discussed it with him too - but THAT made me feel incredibly uncomfortable. I tried to figure out why and I realised it was because he was pointing out super thin, tall, model like girls (which my friend, despite being gorgeous, isn't). This somehow made me feel really bad for my friend. On the other hand, my husband's physical type is similar to my own body type (well - a perfect version of my own body type!) I.e big boobs, hips, curvy waists etc - not your standard 'model' type. These are the kind of girls he checks out and the kind of !!!!!! he seeks out.

So if my husband was exclusively looking at !!!!!! that contained women with a drastically different body type to me - particularly if that was the standard 'model' ideal type - I might feel more uncomfortable because I would wonder if he was disappointed with my body. I don't think I would feel uncomfortable enough to worry about it or ask him not to do it, but I might need a conversation and a bit of reassurance that he still found me attractive too!

aileth

cakeforbrains wrote: »

So, apart from the money/using his own laptop caveats you really don't mind him watching. My friend's partner was downstairs looking at !!!!!! while she was upstairs in bed. Would that be ok with you?

(Feel free to tell me to sod off if you don't want to talk about it )

Well, that would depend. If he had enquired about sex and she had refused and he was rather excited, then I think it's fair enough. If however he hadn't made any desire clear and had gone straight for !!!!!! before her, I'd feel a bit upset to be honest.

I know people will say well !!!!!! is a quick fix, well sex can be just as quick if you both make it clear it's a quickie! Chances are if you're a long-term relationship, you know things to do which speed things up or slow things down, if you catch my drift

I won't fib though, there have been times where I've felt like utter carp and he's been fussing over me, and I just say no, I'm not feeling well, and I actually hope he'll trot off and relieve himself so I can get some peace when I'm feeling my worst!