Would You be Upset if Your Partner Watched !!!!!!?

cakeforbrains

I have a friend whose husband watches !!!!!!. It's kind of babestation type stuff, but it upsets her because she feels like he fancies those kind of women and not her (she's quite large).

I know that my OH looks at a bit of !!!!!! every now and then and reads some naughty stories. It doesn't really bother me, especially if he does it when he's working away. In fact I look at stuff sometimes when he's not here, and we sometimes look together. I know he fancies me.

I don't know whose reaction is more 'normal': me or my friend. What's acceptable? Would it/has it bothered you? Does it depend how/where they do it? Does it depend on the content? Do you watch without your partner or hide it from them? Any real-life experiences of this?

aileth

It depends on the individual and the type of !!!!!!. I think 'normal' !!!!!! is okay, but the sort of online cam stuff or online sex chat is a bit too personal, especially the cams where you 1 to 1 and request the girl does things for you, to me that's the worst.

I would only be upset if he watched it and lied to me about it, if he watched it and says he watched it then I couldn't care less, or if he went totally out of his way to hide I'd feel a bit upset.

The are two times I got upset with my OH over it. Once was when he used MY laptop to watch it, not his own computer, so my laptop got totally filled full of spyware, trojans and viruses, my card details were keylogged, my online gaming details were keylogged, my itunes was keylogged, I could go on. I was hysterical. I don't care if he does it on his PC and gets all his details stolen, but it was my laptop and my details!

The second time was when he told me £400 of the credit card he asked I help him pay off was !!!!!!/web cams which he used in his old relationship. Yes, £400, really! Needless to say, I haven't put a penny towards that card. He can pay for his stupidity imo.

So really, if he watches standard !!!!!!, uses his own PC and does what everyone else does and gets the free stuff, he can do what he wants as long as our sex life doesn't suffer for it.

fluffnutter

Yes. Not because I'm jealous or insecure in our relationship but because I think the sex industry in general demeans women. I'd rather he read sexy books for kicks than watch !!!!!!, although I do appreciate that men tend to be quite 'visual'.

Any

Oh dear, another !!!!!! thread.
Use the search function.
This type of thread always brings up the worse in people on here, on both sides of the argument.

Quite frankly in my opinion if ones issue with !!!!!! is to do with "he fancies her more" rather then the industry, then you need a therapy with your own issues.

tea_lover

I couldn't care less if he watched !!!!!!, but I'd be very annoyed if he ran up a £400 bill doing so!:mad::eek: Who pays for !!!!!!??

aileth

tea_lover wrote: »

I couldn't care less if he watched !!!!!!, but I'd be very annoyed if he ran up a £400 bill doing so!:mad::eek: Who pays for !!!!!!??

That was exactly what my response was, I said to him who the bloody hell pays for !!!!!! nowadays, it's everywhere. It seems there was a website which was basically like an online peek-a-boo booth where you inserted credit to keep the video rolling and he put more and more money in, next thing you know, £400. Absolute daft tw*t.

cakeforbrains

aileth wrote: »

It depends on the individual and the type of !!!!!!. I think 'normal' !!!!!! is okay, but the sort of online cam stuff or online sex chat is a bit too personal, especially the cams where you 1 to 1 and request the girl does things for you, to me that's the worst.

I would only be upset if he watched it and lied to me about it, if he watched it and says he watched it then I couldn't care less, or if he went totally out of his way to hide I'd feel a bit upset.

The are two times I got upset with my OH over it. Once was when he used MY laptop to watch it, not his own computer, so my laptop got totally filled full of spyware, trojans and viruses, my card details were keylogged, my online gaming details were keylogged, my itunes was keylogged, I could go on. I was hysterical. I don't care if he does it on his PC and gets all his details stolen, but it was my laptop and my details!

The second time was when he told me £400 of the credit card he asked I help him pay off was !!!!!!/web cams which he used in his old relationship. Yes, £400, really! Needless to say, I haven't put a penny towards that card. He can pay for his stupidity imo.

So really, if he watches standard !!!!!!, uses his own PC and does what everyone else does and gets the free stuff, he can do what he wants as long as our sex life doesn't suffer for it.

Why is that the worst? Because it's more one on one?

I'd never even thought about the money aspect, to be honest. I can see how one partner secretly spending money on it could really cause tensions.

2010

Would You be Upset if this is yet another thread about if Your Partner Watched !!!!!!?

Yes, Yes, Yes.

Also the women probably watch more than the men.

aileth

Yes, to me if you're watching a random video like debbie does dallas, so what, it's two people (or more depending) having it away with each other.

If you're doing a 1v1 cam, that is essentially 'you' doing it with the girl, you are asking her to do things, whereas on a random movie or random pictures then it's not for 'you', is it?

cakeforbrains

Any wrote: »

Oh dear, another !!!!!! thread.
Use the search function.
This type of thread always brings up the worse in people on here, on both sides of the argument.

Quite frankly in my opinion if ones issue with !!!!!! is to do with "he fancies her more" rather then the industry, then you need a therapy with your own issues.

Sorry. I did search, but for some reason the term '!!!!!!' brings up hundreds of unrelated threads. Didn't mean to offend. I guess these things do come around every so often.

tea_lover

2010 wrote: »

Would You be Upset if this is yet another thread about if Your Partner Watched !!!!!!?

Yes, Yes, Yes.

You could always, you know, not read it.