Grandcat having extended 'sleepover'!

his_missus

Poor Barnes!


Scrappy's stopped overgrooming but his fur is taking a long time to grow back. He looks a right scruff bag.

meritaten

another lovely day, so took the kids over the playground for an hour.
Barnes and Ava are very interested in each other - he is approaching her often now but VERY carefully! she loves to grab him. she watches him and smiles, and today they both sat there on the floor smiling at each other, so cute!
he got fed on time and had G&T, albeit an hour later than usual when the kids went home. he is still looking after me well - in fact he hardly leaves me alone - even if he is outside he checks on me frequently. and if I disappear to the bathroom he is usually waiting outside the door for me. bless him.

mellymoo74

Aw bless him Meri.
Glad he's making sure your ok. Tomcats still loving OH (just spending a bit more time with girlfriends)

nonnie44

I think Barnes should have his own fan page because we all love him so much lol! He is just the sweetest cat xx

nonnie44

Hi Meri, just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you and your family for tomorrow and sending you hugs xx

meritaten

hi - thank you all! haven't posted as I haven't had a good weekend. Emotionally I mean - not that anything bad has happened.
So, the funeral was today and unlike most of the funerals I have been to, I actually feel better now!
We abided by mums wishes and the service was in the crematorium and we had a humanist funeral celebrant - who was outstanding! its the only time I have ever heard people ASK for the details of the minister! and people actually came up to me after to say how lovely it was.
the caterers also did an excellent job! So did the funeral directors, I have to go and buy some 'Thank You' cards now.


I had prepared packets of old photos from mums albums to give to family members and friends as they came into the wake. I hate that horrible period where people are just unsure what to do until the buffet opens............so watching people open their packets and pass around the photos and tell stories about them............made for a lovely relaxed atmosphere. mum would have loved it!


Barnes was groomed very early and left a big bowl of dried food - he seemed happy enough when we returned. so he got a late lunch of his favourite Sheba pouch.


I am grateful for everyones support on here - people have all been so kind and its really helped me. Thank You!!!

nonnie44

Glad it went 'well' meri and what a lovely thoughtful thing to do with the photographs! Now everyone that received a packet and thinks of your mums funeral will always smile and remember such a kind thing that you did for them. I'm sure your mum will have loved everything that you did for her today xx

meritaten

thank you nonnie! XX
mum always complained that at club or pub venues she couldn't have a cup of tea (which she would be gasping for). so we arranged for tea, coffee and biscuits to be served right as mourners arrived, I then gave them the photos, while the caterers were opening the buffet. it was lovely - the noise level rose and giggles and shouts of laughter could be heard along with just a few sobs. sounded like mums house on a Sunday!
Mum and Dad had thousands of photos - many of them of family members from 1900! I labelled those and made loads of copies to ensure that everyone had one. for some of my cousins it was the first photos they had seen of grandparents and great grandparents. Along with photos of themselves as 'littleuns'. I still have a lot of those! and I am sure I haven't gone through all their photos yet - mum had them stashed everywhere! it was brilliant as my sis, my bro and I went round the room, we heard stories of mum and dad we hadn't heard before.


I did say that I would tell you all how mum has reinforced my 'faith'.
mum was very houseproud and the family joke was we were all to dirty to go in the 'living room with its cream carpet' so were confined to the kitchen diner on a sunday.
the first day my sis and I entered the house it all felt normal - and just to be 'naughty' we wore our shoes in the living room. the house then filled with the scent of furniture polish! Pledge to be precise.
this happened every time we entered over the next week! we searched her cleaning supplies and could only find one can of pledge which hadn't been opened - the little seal was intact. but if anyone dared enter her living room without removing shoes the whole house filled with the smell! she was reminding us that shoes had to be taken off at the front door!

nonnie44

I love that!! I'm a total believer as well, not long after my dad died my living tv started switching itself off and then back on but only when I was watching it, have to say that I was slightly freaked out at first but soon got used to it. Spoke to a medium about it a few months later who told me that it was my dad (I hadn't mentioned it) and asked did he have some sort of connection with televisions....I told her that his first job was a tv engineer and she said that he just wanted to let me know he was around, I think I knew that anyway but it was nice to hear. It eventually stopped happening and the tv never needed repairing.....

mellymoo74

Hi Meri glad it went well.
Hopefully your having a Barnes love right about now. Xxxx