Can you wear black to a wedding?

lostinrates

paulineb wrote: »

I really do appreciate what you are saying about social customs, but damage because someone might wear a black dress? Youve not said that directly but its part of the social customs we are discussing, black for a funeral, no white and black dresses at a wedding etc

If people are going to get upset because someone chooses to wear a white dress to a wedding or a black dress to a wedding, why bother getting married at all unless you specify directly what you do or dont want guests to wear.

Major reality check time for some people, thats just my view. As I said before, its a wedding, not a fashion parade where you count up peoples bloopers.

And if people get into the bare legs v no bare legs, tights v no tights argument, personally Id rather not go to a wedding than have to sit and worry about whether Ive committed a cardinal sin by wearing no tights or black tights or nude tights.

And if people want to judge me on my upbringing because of the colour of my dress, Id seriously think they were bonkers.

I am not for one minute arguing an attitude of judgement on such basis is sensible or healthy, particularly for those who do it. I am however very aware it happens in some circles. Why rock a boat...especially one that might be someone else's ...or your own, that's so very easy to avoid? After all, if you know that some people think this way then I think it is somewhat inconsiderate to risk it.

Its interesting people mind the request to wear something particular to a funeral less isn't it? I hadn't thought of that til the point was raised and answered by person one.

Torry_Quine

hunters wrote: »

ah right so its okay in Scotland to wear black as all the bridesmaids did at a wedding I was at on Saturday, they looked gorgeous as did the bride. Ouch.

I'm in Scotland o no black at a wedding is still not generally welcomed.

paulineb wrote: »

A lot of people see a funeral as a celebration of someones life and sometimes families ask mourners to wear a bright colour.

When you are gone, you are gone, you wont know whether someone is giving you a send off complete with rainbow tshirt or is dressed head to toe in black.

If requested to not wear black at a funeral then it's often for a young person for instance and I would comply but otherwise out of respect to the deceased would always wear black.

lostinrates

Person_one wrote: »

Loads of us have psychological issues with food, we all have a pretty unnatural and weird relationship with it, one way or the other!

Well done on the walking, but, why not have a chat with your GP and see if they refer you to a dietitian or a counsellor? Nothing wrong with a bit of outside help!

Good luck! I've lost and gained weight far more times than I should have done for someone not yet 30, I know what a struggle and a stress it can be.

Most of us have some issues with food, not just loads! I'm impressed when I meet people who have none in any direction.

Most importantly I'm glad you had a good time aliasojo, and that things are looking forward.

Can you wear your outfit again on a date with your husband?

adouglasmhor

Errata wrote: »

It looks like shortly everyone will wear black at a wedding and all the colours of the rainbow at a funeral.

Well that would be a new tradition then, and soon someone will break that tradition and the whole cycle will start all over again. When they bury or cremate me I don't care if everyone wants to wear animal print onesies or sports kit, so long as they think I am worth remembering and my life is worth celebrating.

adouglasmhor

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I'm in Scotland o no black at a wedding is still not generally welcomed.




If requested to not wear black at a funeral then it's often for a young person for instance and I would comply but otherwise out of respect to the deceased would always wear black.

For men a black long tie at funerals is traditional, a black suit is not (unless it's a black pin stripe), it's a relatively recent development as are black dress shirts. A dark but not black suit is traditional for men.

lostinrates

adouglasmhor wrote: »

Well that would be a new tradition then, and soon someone will break that tradition and the whole cycle will start all over again. When they bury or cremate me I don't care if everyone wants to wear animal print onesies or sports kit, so long as they think I am worth remembering and my life is worth celebrating.

I'm the opposite. I've asked for no ceremony. I'd like DH to have a break with HIS family and get into a new normal life as soon as possible. He is going to make me into diamonds and then into shirt studs and or cuff links so he can take me out. I think I'll have busier social than I have for years

AliBee16

'I'm not going on a diet, they don't work. As soon as you mention cutting down or out, I feel starving. I clearly have psychological issues.'
This is absolutely me. There was a programme on recently that confirms this as well; The Men Who Made You Thin. Very interesting stuff. My inner rebel comes out when on a diet, and I cant cope. Food makes me happy, it's a fact, and if one more thin person tries to tell me about the existence of salads, I will spread them on toast.
I have read one book which deals with this aspect, which is by Gillian Riley, I think it's called Eating Less and it stresses the health side of your food choices. It's much more positive.
I admire your humour and honesty op, and hope you start a new thread about the psychological side of being overweight.

aliasojo

AliBee16 wrote: »

........ and if one more thin person tries to tell me about the existence of salads, I will spread them on toast.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

I'm soooo saving that saying for future use.

Will check out that book. T/Y.

Errata

Chocolate comes from cocoa
Which comes from a tree
That makes it a plant
Therefore chocolate counts as salad
The End.

HTH;)

aliasojo

Errata wrote: »

HTH;)

Hugely.