Can you wear black to a wedding?

Brighton_belle

aliasojo wrote: »

Have to say I'm more with your way of thinking Brighton belle.

However as much as I agree with your comments, I also have to point out you are crap at quoting. :rotfl: You made it look as if I said that. :rotfl:

Nah, I changed it 10 minutes ago - keep up!;)

lostinrates

Person_one wrote: »

NButler wrote: »

I didn't think you were older, because I've seen first hand the madness of the wedding industry in the last few years.

I think you're more likely in your twenties and have bought into the idea that on a couple's 'special day' (and for the whole of that week, and on the hen/stag do, and at any time between the engagement and the end of the honeymoon if they say so) that the world revolves around them, and nobody else's thoughts, feelings, bank accounts or practicalities matter at all. The idea that anybody who isn't absolutely delighted to be dictated to, or empty their wallet, or be a doormat is just a horrible person who can't possibly care about their deep and wondrous love.

Its getting pretty hideous! A lot of couples need to be reminded that hundreds of weddings happen every single weekend up and down the country. They can be absolutely lovely but they just ain't all that special I'm afraid!

But its not a last few years concept, in fact, its become less commonly observed in the last few years by many. I think the madness of asking people wear 'pink' or 'chartreuse' or something is rude and exactly expecting people to fork out money. I don't think its crazy to expect people to have an inexpensive item to wear to weddings. They don't have to buy new ones for each wedding/summer party/ christening whatever.

(Fwiw, I never accept invites to go to hen nights...not practical for me and not my taste generally. Most people understand my limitations and that if I can get to their wedding its been something. . We didn't go to dh's best friend's destination wedding, and didn't go to his dad's overseas wedding either ( his father doesn't live in uk) We do all the uk weddings we can, and to others we have sent a letter and a gift...I don't suppose for a minute any guest is that indispensable ona. Wedding day so long as the bride and groom are there:D)

lollipopsarah

Well I went to our friends son's wedding yesterday and mum of the groom wore a lovely black and white dress and black bolero type jacket, and lots of ladies wore black dresses.
I couldn't afford a new dress either but wore the best one I had and had alovely day.xx

delain

Dunroamin wrote: »

Her son's quite tasty!

That's her OH! (several people said that already, oops)

Seriously PP you all look damn good in that picture.

I'm totally jealous, I look like alice the goon from popeye in photos

I wore black to the last wedding I went to. No one cared. Several people thought it was funny when I fell over spectacularly twice at the reception, and I wasn't even drinking

melanzana

Weddings are difficult for some people, no matter what you wear.....

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bgn6R0QxFc4&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3Dbgn6R0QxFc4

coolcait

melanzana wrote: »

Weddings are difficult for some people, no matter what you wear.....

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bgn6R0QxFc4&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3Dbgn6R0QxFc4

Melanzana. Now that's a good colour!

melanzana

coolcait wrote: »

Melanzana. Now that's a good colour!

Weddings ARE difficult for many!

But I just love that guy. Even his swearing. In many ways he is so right. IMV of course!

My sister got married in Las Vegas. None of us were there. But we could watch a webcam thing as it happened. And we cried, and we laughed, and it was amazing.

No hassle for anyone at the end of the day, which I what everyone wanted. Especially bride and groom.

But then, each to their own.

NButler

Person_one wrote: »

NButler wrote: »

I didn't think you were older, because I've seen first hand the madness of the wedding industry in the last few years.

I think you're more likely in your twenties and have bought into the idea that on a couple's 'special day' (and for the whole of that week, and on the hen/stag do, and at any time between the engagement and the end of the honeymoon if they say so) that the world revolves around them, and nobody else's thoughts, feelings, bank accounts or practicalities matter at all.

Oh dear! None of this is true either. For me, it's just about etiquette.

NButler

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Er, money being very tight and needing to wear the only smart dress they already own. Or money being tight and needing a dress that will do for various occasions are just two suggestion. Or just not having much confidence in clothes buying/your body shape and needing an option you feel safe in.

If a person only owns one smart outfit, really has nothing else that could be suitable, cannot afford anything else or borrow an outfit from anyone, I'm sure no one would hold that against them.

hunters

NButler wrote: »

I think wearing black at an English wedding is definitely not okay. The tradition that black is worn to a funeral still applies, so this really is rude to the bride and groom. The only exception is if they have expressly said that it's okay with them (some people don't mind these days - please be courteous and find out). I can't imagine a good reason to wear black to a wedding when there are plenty of other darkish colours to wear if light or bright colours will really not work for you.

A wedding is the bride and grooms day - their wishes should always be the priority. (This doesn't apply to the original poster but I think it's worth saying...) If a guest is more concerned about how they look than how the bride and groom feel, I'd actually wonder why they want to be at their wedding? A wedding isn't primarily an opportunity to dress up / wear anything you like and think looks good, without thought to whether it could make the bride and groom unhappy. It's an occasion to celebrate the bride and groom - I'll say it again: it's about them primarily so their wishes are the key here. Dressing in a way that could make them unhappy is disrespecting them on their wedding day! Ouch.

In general, no black, or white and keep it classy - it's a wedding after all. Ladies, of course, you can show everything off at a club if that's what you're looking for

ah right so its okay in Scotland to wear black as all the bridesmaids did at a wedding I was at on Saturday, they looked gorgeous as did the bride. Ouch.