Can you wear black to a wedding?

lostinrates

Treevo wrote: »

No - I'm not even sure why you'd think that. They're giving a measurement from neck to hem.

The dress starts at size twenty, so its reasonable to assume they are suggesting the model is size twenty.


That model is obviously not 'huge' but I think the dress probably doesn't flatter her. It goes back to the think that a black rent might make you FEEL more comfortable but I don't think it makes you look better necessarily, and I still wouldn't wear black to a wedding as a woman, that its a possible no no means, IMO, that's its one to steer clear of unless its a theme of the wedding.

aliasojo

Hi guys. Back from an unsuccessful trip into town.

The only good thing to come of it was to discover maxi dresses are not me, nor are highly patterned jobs.

I'm not tall enough for the maxi dresses and I wont be wearing high heels just a low heel so maxis are out.

Big patterns make me look like my granny's tablecloth. I picked up a lovely dress in Debenhams and nearly cried when I saw it on me. Hideous wasn't the word.

There was very little in my size tbh.

Daughter and I went into every single shop we saw whether it looked suitable or not, we were clutching at straws by the end.

So...no maxis (mid length between knee and ankle seems to be the best length for me)....and no big patterns (flowers especially, I felt so big, frumpy and old fashioned).

aliasojo

poet123 wrote: »

This range of dresses is the most flattering for all sizes. They are very expensive but for an important occasion they do the job. Loads on Ebay and they re sell very well too. Lots of different colour and style combinations too.

http://www.annbalon.com/

They are certainly very suitable and wedding like, but I don't think they're 'me'. I also don't think I could push the boat that far out.

Person_one wrote: »

aliasojo, whenever I buy clothes online (which I don't do very often because I'm an odd shape even when I'm thin) I always get at least two sizes. Most places have returns labels included and you can send stuff back in the original packaging for free, so its not a lot of hassle.

I'm going to have order more things online, there certainly isn't any choice in my size locally.

CH27

Have you looked at Damsel in a Dress? https://www.damselinadress.co.uk
They do lots of jersey stuff but they are fully lined & very flattering.

Also Pepperberry https://www.pepperberry.co.uk do dresses for big boobed women. The cut of them is excellent.

lostinrates

aliasojo wrote: »

Hi guys. Back from an unsuccessful trip into town.

The only good thing to come of it was to discover maxi dresses are not me, nor are highly patterned jobs.

I'm not tall enough for the maxi dresses and I wont be wearing high heels just a low heel so maxis are out.

Big patterns make me look like my granny's tablecloth. I picked up a lovely dress in Debenhams and nearly cried when I saw it on me. Hideous wasn't the word.

There was very little in my size tbh.

Daughter and I went into every single shop we saw whether it looked suitable or not, we were clutching at straws by the end.

So...no maxis (mid length between knee and ankle seems to be the best length for me)....and no big patterns (flowers especially, I felt so big, frumpy and old fashioned).

Ok, you are going with some preconceptions about your self and looks that we all get over time with exposure to fashions and what is said about them and ourselves.

Those tiny little minogue women where maxi dresses, and Nicole Ritchie. These are SHORT women. Ok, they are slim, but they do not have height.

Patterns, they will only look your granny's table cloth on YOU if they looked like your granny's table cloth on your granny's table. There are lot of horrid prints out there. That is nothing to do with YOUR Looks. OK?

Big patterns (even flowers, but don't have to be ) will do a lot to help conceal bits you don't like. They won't make them disappears they aren't magic, but they do help the eye glide over them a little and follow the pattern of the farm roc not the body.


However, it sounds as if you have nice lower legs, so that's great! And something to definitely thing about showing.....what sort of shoes do you like to wear, are you buying new shoes too?

I find midi dresses harder to buy, but they do feel really sexy if you get them right IMO, much more so than maxis. Wrong though, its the whole granny thing :rotfl:. ATM I have a very inexpensive jersey midi that shouldn't work on an overweight woman, but I feel sexy and I get lots of compliments in, and DH always says....is one of those dresses he knows means I am going to be extra especially in a good mood later.....

So....midis....same colours?

What sort of shape dresses were working for you?

(Btw, just realised, you said earlier you had good tits and now good legs, aliasojo, cheer up. Something with a good neckline and midi length.....you are getting closer....

Pee

Also, if you don't like the look of something it can still be worth trying it on. say this because I saw too dresses recently, one was lovely on the hanger but my sister insisted the other would suit me. She can be quite bossy so I tried it. The one that looked good on the hanger did not look good on me, but the one that didn't look good on the hanger looked really nice on me. Not often you get that extreme a contrast but it does happen.

I like Asos and Simply Be for online.

cod3

aliasojo - The shops are shut now so get your feet up and have a well deserved cocktail

Person_one

If the length of the maxi dresses is the issue, you can get them altered for about a tenner, bringing a hem up a bit is a really quick job.

Also, I don't mean to patronise here, but I bet the patterns don't look nearly as bad as you think they do, and its just that you aren't used to wearing them so feel self conscious.

If I guessed that you lived in comfy baggy trousers and big loose fitting dark coloured tops and coats, would I be guessing accurately?

aliasojo

CH27 wrote: »

Have you looked at Damsel in a Dress? https://www.damselinadress.co.uk
They do lots of jersey stuff but they are fully lined & very flattering.

Also Pepperberry https://www.pepperberry.co.uk do dresses for big boobed women. The cut of them is excellent.

Thanks.....

aliasojo

lostinrates wrote: »

Patterns, they will only look your granny's table cloth on YOU if they looked like your granny's table cloth on your granny's table. There are lot of horrid prints out there. That is nothing to do with YOUR Looks. OK?

Big patterns (even flowers, but don't have to be ) will do a lot to help conceal bits you don't like. They won't make them disappears they aren't magic, but they do help the eye glide over them a little and follow the pattern of the farm roc not the body.

Person_one wrote: »

Also, I don't mean to patronise here, but I bet the patterns don't look nearly as bad as you think they do, and its just that you aren't used to wearing them so feel self conscious.

If I guessed that you lived in comfy baggy trousers and big loose fitting dark coloured tops and coats, would I be guessing accurately?

Honestly guys, big patterns just don't suit me, smaller patterns or even just embossed self colours seem so much better on.

Bootcut jeans and various tops (not all dark but all a certain thickish material).

Back in a mo need to feed the mutt.