Teenagers and Menstruation Advice Needed

iwilllearntosave

well as I have just done that I do not think I can judge (is there an embarrassed smilie)

ViolaLass

atrixblue.-MFR-. wrote: »

i left out gory details as to how she knew her hymen broke on a tampon deliberatly use your imagination.

You're being an idiot. The hymen breaking or not breaking through tampon use has NOTHING to do with losing your virginity. Yes, tampons can break a woman's hymen but if you haven't had sex, you're a virgin. It's that straightforward.

bylromarha

As I have a daughter, you're setting a high bench mark for my OH to live up to when she starts. I can foresee he'll just leave it all to me.

See if this is in Boots?

It's a range of products in one pack - that way she can see if she's a tampon or towel girl. FWIW - my mum and sis used tampons when I started, so I went straight to tampons. Found them really simple to use.

Applicator tampons - yes!

Avoid non applicator tampons as they're too fiddly when you start. Same as a moon cup - you really need to know your body well to get these items in and stay in and have the confidence to shove and wiggle and jiggle them about. Not first period stuff.

Edit: Glad to see her mum is coming round now, although I think you'd have done a pretty good job of it all.

bylromarha

And ladies - doesn't this thread show how different we all are?!

Some of your preferences are my nightmares!

iwilllearntosave

I did a holding job, I was prepared to do it all, but seriously glad her mum is now on the case. Cop out, yes, but I did the first errection for her brother so I feel I can pass this one over.

Only joking, I'm quite honoured she talked to me. even if she didn't say immediately and know she had no choice really. Its hard to see my baby girl grow up, but shes raised well and she has 2 parents who love her even if we do not live together. I would rather this happened in different circumstances but that is our life and I have an a new sense of pride for my daughter who I adore anyway.

On that note, I need to finish packing and book my Ex's flight so thank you again for all your help and handholding, good night and god bless

Person_one

bylromarha wrote: »

Applicator tampons - yes!

Avoid non applicator tampons as they're too fiddly when you start. Same as a moon cup - you really need to know your body well to get these items in and stay in and have the confidence to shove and wiggle and jiggle them about. Not first period stuff.

See I'd say get both and let her see what works for her, I can't get on with applicators at all, never could even when I was 13, couldn't see the point in them. She might find it easier to use the ordinary ones like I did, and the main thing is to get to know your own body and your own preferences.

When I started my periods my mum gave me a sanitary wear 'selection box' with all sorts in. Wings, no wings, thinner, thicker, longer, different brands, applicators, no applicators, light, heavy, everything under the sun! She knew I wouldn't just be able to use her stuff as she's had a hysterectomy when I was little, so prepared that in advance and looking back it was a great idea.

I have to wonder OP, why are you telling us about washing your daughter's knickers in Fairy Liquid? I'm sure she'd be glad you're getting advice, but please think how she's feel reading some of this stuff that's now very public.

keystone

iwilllearntosave wrote: »

well its me that is feeling lost with all her questions.

Well as another single (well not yet divorced) father of a thirteen year old girl I think you are dealing with this quite magnificently and in a sensitive caring way. Full praise to you especialy for having the cojones to come on here for advice. I've been on walking on cracked glass for months expecting the arrival of this particular day and it did happen this week. Luckily (for me) DD is visiting her mum this week and next so I'm (slightly for the moment) off the hook on it but a girl really does need her Mum (or female support anyway) at this time. Yes horrid cop-out on my behalf I know and I just hope that I would have dealt with it as you have.

S'funny but you are the second father I've come across in the last three weeks in the same boat as me (wife left both of us). I thought I was unique and it's so really very nice to find out I'm not.

Very best of luck to you.

Cheers

balletshoes

keystone wrote: »

Well as another single (well not yet divorced) father of a thirteen year old girl I think you are dealing with this quite magnificently and in a sensitive caring way. Full praise to you especialy for having the cojones to come on here for advice. I've been on walking on cracked glass for months expecting the arrival of this particular day and it did happen this week. Luckily (for me) DD is visiting her mum this week and next so I'm (slightly for the moment) off the hook on it but a girl really does need her Mum (or female support anyway) at this time. Yes horrid cop-out on my behalf I know and I just hope that I would have dealt with it as you have.

S'funny but you are the second father I've come across in the last three weeks in the same boat as me (wife left both of us). I thought I was unique and it's so really very nice to find out I'm not.

Very best of luck to you.

Cheers

you're definitely not alone keystone - my niece lives with my brother, not her mum, and he has this milestone to come (in a fair few years from now though). My niece's sister also lives with her Dad, not her Mum (same Mum).

atrixblue.-MFR-.

ViolaLass wrote: »

You're being an idiot. The hymen breaking or not breaking through tampon use has NOTHING to do with losing your virginity. Yes, tampons can break a woman's hymen but if you haven't had sex, you're a virgin. It's that straightforward.

ok i think your one short of an appology here. no need for insults..i think youve read past what i posted about my ex and thought i was telling the OP as advice for somereason

i didnt say anywhere that hymen breakage and tampons means you lose your virginity to a tampon!.

or that not bleeding during your first time doesnt make it any less legit to losing your virginity.

intercourse is intercourse, firtime is losing your virginity ofcourse.

i said, that when my ex shared her first time with her college "friends" that her hymen didnt break during intercourse and also didnt experience bleeding, and that she knew her hymen had been broken years before when she used lite tampons as an explanation as to perhaps that why she didnt bleed she got bullied for it.

put your mind as a 16yr old imature bully not well eductated in the how things work department.

sex education back in 1999 and 2000' was unheared of then in schools.

valk_scot

atrixblue.-MFR-. wrote: »

sex education back in 1999 and 2000' was unheared of then in schools.

Oh don't be daft, I left school in 1976 and I remember having sex education classes and being told all about periods and how things worked. .