Issues with DH (again)

mummyroysof3

Her playgroup might only be mornings but what about a private nursery that opens all year round or a childminder?

notanewuser

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

Her playgroup might only be mornings but what about a private nursery that opens all year round or a childminder?

No, I didn't like the local welsh private nursery. Besides, her being elsewhere 2 afternoons and 3 mornings, plus Saturdays with her dad only leaves us 1 full day together as it is!

mummyroysof3

So the stress of trying to work and do housework with a 2 year old around 24/7 is only temporary then?

notanewuser

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

So the stress of trying to work and do housework with a 2 year old around 24/7 is only temporary then?

Hopefully! It's the timing of DH going away as DD finished Meithrin that's been stressful. Plus my parents being on holiday. Hopefully the balance will restore soon and I can get my sanity back!!

mummyroysof3

Hopefully you will and me too lol. School holidays can be very stressful but just remember it will pass and you can get back to routine. I've not found it as bad this time round for some reason but I was dreading it

mincepiemonster

I hope you manage to get a GP appointment soon. I am so sorry that you have lost some of your hair espcially as it was one of your favourite features,

A week in London will be fabulous! You can have a nosy into DH's world and he can catch up with his young family. I hope you have a lovely time (and all the free museums / parks are very MSE!) We're going on a Bear Hunt is showing at one of the theatres in London and during August a lot of shows are kids go free - check out http://www.kidsweek.co.uk/ for more info if that's your kind of thing. It may be something nice to do in the evening once DH finishes work.

notanewuser

mincepiemonster wrote: »

I hope you manage to get a GP appointment soon. I am so sorry that you have lost some of your hair espcially as it was one of your favourite features,

A week in London will be fabulous! You can have a nosy into DH's world and he can catch up with his young family. I hope you have a lovely time (and all the free museums / parks are very MSE!) We're going on a Bear Hunt is showing at one of the theatres in London and during August a lot of shows are kids go free - check out http://www.kidsweek.co.uk/ for more info if that's your kind of thing. It may be something nice to do in the evening once DH finishes work.

Minimum 3 week wait for a GP appointment.

I used to live in London, so looking forward to a few days there with DD. thanks for the link. She LOVES we're going one bear hunt!

princessdon

notanewuser wrote: »

She's not 3 yet!!!

I didn't find it an easy decision to become a parent. It took me many years to decide to do it. Those years were spent furthering my career in a demanding and stressful job. I didn't struggle with that. Being with a baby and then a toddler full time is very very different to that. You don't get holidays, you can't phone in sick. You don't finish projects and move into another - it's constant, 24/7, try to squeeze in what you can when you can work.

I love her to the moon and back, and feel very privileged to be able to spend this time with her. But that doesn't mean I can or should find it easy. Please don't tell me it "shouldn't be stressful" - its not a competition.

I think you are missing the point, I said not traditionally stressful. It is clearly stressful for you, so you need to look at why.

Eg, is it your consultancy? I don't have to work during holidays, so other than dealing with the rental property and new Uni year, I don't do anything else stressful during holidays. In fact we spend most of the time at our villa chilling by the pool.

Is it that you need time to do your work? Ie you start something and DD distracts so you need a block of time?

Are you feeling low, are you eating right etc

I'm not wanting or expecting a reply as its likely personal, but you need to look at what is causing the stress and see if you can address them. Eg if its your work so you need to fit shopping, chores and work into entertaining your Dd it must leave less hours than traditional., you don't want to use a nursery have you considered an in home carer? Working from home has disadvantages as well as advantages and school holidays (or in your case playgroup holidays is hard).

There are plenty college/uni students who want money during holidays. I'm lucky I have neices/nephews but I paid them when mine were small and needed some off time. Having one around in the house to play in the garden or paint whilst I got on with chores/work was ideal.

poet123

notanewuser wrote: »

Minimum 3 week wait for a GP appointment.

I used to live in London, so looking forward to a few days there with DD. thanks for the link. She LOVES we're going one bear hunt!

Do you have any upmarket hair salons nearby who have a Trichologist? This happened to a friend of mine and she got a specialist shampoo and treatment plan which did work.

lostinrates

Errata wrote: »

Tbh my first thought the morning I woke up and discovered more hair on the bed than I had on my head was "Looks like the chemo's working!". and if all you ever have in you life to be 'devastated' by is a bit of hair loss, you will be a very fortunate woman.

I haven't got cancer, but I do have very serious life long health condition.

It just shows how different people are that the things I resent and ge most distressed about are 'cosmetic' and 'aesthetic' and then the socially inconvieniant and impractical aspects. Perhaps its partly because some of the bigger aspects are 'too big' to think about a lot, or perhaps its because the aesthetic aspects are the ones that one is still judged on as a woman....that one still aspires to have when other aspects of self start to fail. I sincerely hope your cancer is fully in remission and never comes back. Health is NOT a competition, life isn't. I have already lived longer than I was 'promised' ten years ago and have been doing well (and wondering now if maybe I should have started a pension plan after all, lol) but on a day to day basis in real life you'll hear me complain more about my weight and other aesthetic issues related to health and lifestyle more than pain and ill health...because in truth....I think I'd feel more like me if I looked more like me again. I hate not looking like me the most of everything that's happened to me. Also, when other people look at me, they don't see 'health things' necessarily, but they do see the aesthetic.

My guess is a disproportionate number of forum users are 'unwell' in some form or another, or stay at home parents, because we are the sort of people tied to home.

Not new user, I understand your stress over this absolutely. I hope its nothing serious. I would however punch for a telephone appointment or a cancellation, (I love telephone appointments) in case they can be found. Its shocking access to GPs, mine is just the same, they called me for an 'urgent' appointment last week and offered me an 'urgent' review in a fortnight..:D.