Neighbours from Hell

the_pink_panther_2

I'm pregnant, have no idea what my child will be like but I'm now hoping my neighbours would be more understanding - it WILL make a lot of noise at all hours regardless of whether or not it's ill. Your neighbours have as much right to be there as you do.


The swearing is another matter.

lippy1923

As I suggested above, go out! Don't sit at home all day. What do you expect people to say?

Troutwrestler

'It' is a disabled child. Neither the child nor the parents can help the noise.

You must have been incredibly lucky to never have been bothered by noise from neighbours before.

Get a hobby then you won't be sitting in all day moaning about noise

flower24

Cupcake, what exactly do you think would be a good solution for your 'problem' then?

CH27

I have two extremely disabled children in my family.
I know just how hurtful people like you are to my family with your lack of compassion & empathy.

kingfisherblue

Whilst I understand that you feel aggrieved to have a family that is somewhat noisy moving in below you, I feel that you have little understanding or compassion for their circumstances. Yet you retired early because of I'll health. So, it's ok for you to have a health condition but not this child?

Your use of the word 'handicapped' is very outdated and I would hope that you don't use it if you do speak to the parents - it comes across as very offensive in your OP. Describing the sounds that the child makes as being like an animal may be accurate, but again is offensive.

As for being woken in the night, well, I can tell you from experience that it's no fun. I've been up every night (except for a Guiding holiday) for over fifteen years, because my son has quite extensive overnight needs. I'm in a separate bedroom, but these poor parents are in a one bedroom flat, so they can't even get a bit of privacy. Accommodation suitable for disabled people is in short supply. Also, when you bought your flat, you must have known that you could end up with a variety of neighbours over the coming years - mostly ok, but occasionally not quite as you would like them to be.

I'm sure you don't mean to sound like a grumpy old git, but I'm afraid you do. Life has delay this family a very hard blow, and they could probably do with a smile and a pleasant greeting from you, rather than you resenting their child who cannot help the way he was born. Please re-read your post and I think you will understand what I mean.

Calien27

Don't you think it's stressful for the parents? Do you think they enjoy being woken up in the middle of the night or that it's great fun to not be able to verbally communicate with their child and have he/she express their needs?

Instead of calling them this, that and the other, why don't you pop around and actually say hello to them, it might make you a little more understanding and less me, me, me about it.

Toothfairy4

Just wondering what the ideal outcome you are hoping for is OP?

thorsoak

Let us hope that you never need the help/compassion of a neighbour.

kingfisherblue

Actually, I do have to listen to a disabled child all day - my own son is severely disabled. Whilst he doesn't make the noises you describe, his speech is very poor and lacks clarity, yet he talks from the moment he gets up to the minute he falls asleep at night. Now that he is 15, he is no longer in bed by 8pm:o

Overnight, I have to get up at least three times, every night. My younger son is often disturbed, but unfortunately there is no other bedroom for him to sleep in.

Yes, the constant noise (in my case, talking) is stressful. I find it very tiring, as I have to concentrate quite hard to decipher what my son is saying. Being woken every night, several times, is stressful. But I find ways to deal with stress.

If you don't wish to go out more frequently during the day, play music, put the TV on, or wear ear plugs. Remember that the parents also have to listen to their child, and it must be heartbreaking for them. I'm sure that they would welcome the port unity to go out more themselves, but with a disabled child, it is a lot more difficult than with a non-disabled child. When I go out with my son, I take him, his wheelchair, spare clothes, nappies, wipes, books (he loves animal books in particular, but they tend to be large picture books as he cannot see smaller books properly, despite his strong prescription glasses), and medications.

Have some compassion. Please.