Neighbours from Hell

Own_My_Own

I came on here a while ago to complain about my neighbours and got a barrage of abuse. Yes their son is disabled and yes I did mention it. But it is not him making a noise that gets on my nerves. It is the parties they have when he is in respite. ( I even got nasty comments because I originally spelt that wrong - rest bite. ).
And yes he has respite a lot more than most. He is at present away for 5 days. And a career turned up yesterday that they forgot to cancel.
Also they don't turn his alarm off in the morning, so we have beeping for 2 hours everyday.

But we to have no more parties. The mum got an asbo last week. Someone else here obviously had had enough of her noise.

So I although I disagree with the Op, in as much as that, the child cannot help making a noise, I also see that you cannot comment on families with disabled children without getting abuse from other posters.

To be honest I think I got more than she has.

poet123

Own_My_Own wrote: »

I came on here a while ago to complain about my neighbours and got a barrage of abuse. Yes their son is disabled and yes I did mention it. But it is not him making a noise that gets on my nerves. It is the parties they have when he is in respite. ( I even got nasty comments because I originally spelt that wrong - rest bite. ).
And yes he has respite a lot more than most. He is at present away for 5 days. And a career turned up yesterday that they forgot to cancel.
Also they don't turn his alarm off in the morning, so we have beeping for 2 hours everyday.

But we to have no more parties. The mum got an asbo last week. Someone else here obviously had had enough of her noise.

So I although I disagree with the Op, in as much as that, the child cannot help making a noise, I also see that you cannot comment on families with disabled children without getting abuse from other posters.

To be honest I think I got more than she has.

I didn't read the thread but if it was as you detail then I am not sure why you got abused.

I am not one of those who thinks you can't comment of families with disabled children, it is a hard life but people are people and that doesn't automatically mean they are nice people. However, imo those comments should be confined to the choices they make, not issues pertaining to the child which are outside their control.

tesuhoha

shegirl wrote: »

Oh come on! ONCE,just ONCE did they have a friend there who drank too much and told the shouting starer on her balcony to f off.

Seriously wonder what planet people live on if they deem that to be hell breaking loose and so awful that the neighbours themselves could never be tolerable and the op should feel scared.

Perspective people!

I'm sorry but I think it is you who lack perspective and I have to pick up on some of your points. For a start you have labelled the OP the shouting starer. This is an assumption. Where does the shouting feature in 'politely asked them to keep the noise down'? As for staring the woman has as much right to use her balcony as the new neighbours and therefore cannot help but see what is going on below.

Yes it was only once that the people had a drunken friend round who told the OP to f off, on the SECOND night they were there. Therefore, its one night out of two. Good track record so far, don't you think.

As for all hell breaking loose, well I'm not sure about that but what I am sure of is that being told to f..k off by an aggressive drunken man who knows her address would make any middle aged woman living alone feel a bit vulnerable. She evens mentions this in her post.

Goodness knows it must be incredibly difficult and heartbreaking to be bringing up a disabled child but that still doesn't give the parents the right to be abusive and rude to others or even to think the world should revolve around them.

The OPs attitude towards them was unpleasant and the comments about the child are inexplicable but maybe the lack of respect was a indication of the way they have behaved towards her. This doesn't excuse it of course.

poet123

tesuhoha wrote: »

I'm sorry but I think it is you who lack perspective and I have to pick up on some of your points. For a start you have labelled the OP the shouting starer. Where does the shouting feature in 'politely asked them to keep the noise down'? As for staring the woman has as much right to use her balcony as the new neighbours and therefore cannot help but see what is going on below.

Yes it was only once that the people had a drunken friend round who told the OP to f off, on the SECOND night they were there. Therefore, its one night out of two. Good track record so far, don't you think.

As for all hell breaking loose, well I'm not sure about that but what I am sure of is that being told to f..k off by an aggressive drunken man who knows her address would make any middle aged woman living alone feel a bit vulnerable. She evens mentions this in her post.

Goodness knows it must be incredibly difficult and heartbreaking to be bringing up a disabled child but that still doesn't give the parents the right to be abusive and rude to others or even to think the world should revolve around them.

The OPs attitude towards them was unpleasant and the comments about the child are inexplicable but maybe the lack of respect was a indication of the way they have behaved towards her.

The parents weren't (and haven't been afawk) abusive, their friend was. And I am not sure how you have concluded from the OP that the parents feel that way.

The OP herself has made no comment on the attitude of the parents.

balletshoes

tesuhoha wrote: »

I'm sorry but I think it is you who lack perspective and I have to pick up on some of your points. For a start you have labelled the OP the shouting starer. This is an assumption. Where does the shouting feature in 'politely asked them to keep the noise down'? As for staring the woman has as much right to use her balcony as the new neighbours and therefore cannot help but see what is going on below.

Yes it was only once that the people had a drunken friend round who told the OP to f off, on the SECOND night they were there. Therefore, its one night out of two. Good track record so far, don't you think.

As for all hell breaking loose, well I'm not sure about that but what I am sure of is that being told to f..k off by an aggressive drunken man who knows her address would make any middle aged woman living alone feel a bit vulnerable. She evens mentions this in her post.

Goodness knows it must be incredibly difficult and heartbreaking to be bringing up a disabled child but that still doesn't give the parents the right to be abusive and rude to others or even to think the world should revolve around them.

The OPs attitude towards them was unpleasant and the comments about the child are inexplicable but maybe the lack of respect was a indication of the way they have behaved towards her. This doesn't excuse it of course.

where does the OP say the parents of the child were abusive and rude to others?

tesuhoha

poet123 wrote: »

The parents weren't (and haven't been afawk) abusive, their friend was. And I am not sure how you have concluded from the OP that the parents feel that way.

The OP herself has made no comment on the attitude of the parents.

I think I probably get that impression from the people on here. Also, if my friend told my neighbour to f off I think I would have something to say about it, but maybe that's not a normal response.

shegirl

tesuhoha wrote: »

I'm sorry but I think it is you who lack perspective and I have to pick up on some of your points. For a start you have labelled the OP the shouting starer. This is an assumption. Where does the shouting feature in 'politely asked them to keep the noise down'? As for staring the woman has as much right to use her balcony as the new neighbours and therefore cannot help but see what is going on below.

Yes it was only once that the people had a drunken friend round who told the OP to f off, on the SECOND night they were there. Therefore, its one night out of two. Good track record so far, don't you think.

As for all hell breaking loose, well I'm not sure about that but what I am sure of is that being told to f..k off by an aggressive drunken man who knows her address would make any middle aged woman living alone feel a bit vulnerable. She evens mentions this in her post.

Goodness knows it must be incredibly difficult and heartbreaking to be bringing up a disabled child but that still doesn't give the parents the right to be abusive and rude to others or even to think the world should revolve around them.

The OPs attitude towards them was unpleasant and the comments about the child are inexplicable but maybe the lack of respect was a indication of the way they have behaved towards her. This doesn't excuse it of course.

Oh for heavens sake.

1. If they were making that much noise, normally and politely saying 'please quieter down/turn the music down' would not have been heard.Would it.

2. It does not matter that it was the second night.It is one night out of ALL the nights they have lived there!

3. The parents have NOT been rude or abusive.A visitor of the parents shouted one 'abusive' comment,while plastered,on one occasion.

tesuhoha

balletshoes wrote: »

where does the OP say the parents of the child were abusive and rude to others?

My comment was aimed at people on here who seem to be defending the abusive remark to the OP.

shegirl

tesuhoha wrote: »

My comment was aimed at people on here who seem to be defending the abusive remark to the OP.

Nobody is defending it,just pointing out that it's not the huge giant enormous thing some people are making of it

poet123

tesuhoha wrote: »

My comment was aimed at people on here who seem to be defending the abusive remark to the OP.

Who has done that?

I haven't seen anyone do that, and yes, you are correct I think most of us would like to think we would have intervened, and perhaps they did tell him about it out of the OP's earshot, who knows? Yes, many of us would have gone round and apologised too but they didn't. They were remiss, and impolite.

I don't think they are guilty of much more than the above though or the OP would surely have mentioned it.