Neighbours from Hell

shegirl

Vicky123 wrote: »

At what point did we decide this was all about one drunken comment from the friend? When did we drop all the disgraceful language and comments from the original post? It never ceases to amaze me how people twist things, cherry pick to defend the indefensible. If the OP feels they have been hard done by on this thread then I would like to know how she feels trying to get a disabled child evicted from their home should be viewed, lets not forget that was the main thrust of the thread, disabled child making animal noises that disturbs her peace, the rest of it mentioned one disturbed sleep and one run in with a friend. Someone who feels strongly enough to complain to the authorities and try to gather some kind of neighbourhood posse to agree this disability is antisocial behavior shouldn't be looking to enlist complete strangers to justify it.

I agree and I find it sickening that some find it acceptable to suggest lying about the noise to get them evicted!

Nicki

Yep. It's a hard slog to get support with a challenging child. And mainstream activities are often closed to them too even if they could benefit from them because the mainstream providers "aren't insured" or "don't have the right staff ratio" for kids with complex needs and won't let the parents stay and help either. So there is little choice but to sit in your own 4 walls with a noisy child annoying the neighbours.

shegirl

Nicki wrote: »

Yep. It's a hard slog to get support with a challenging child. And mainstream activities are often closed to them too even if they could benefit from them because the mainstream providers "aren't insured" or "don't have the right staff ratio" for kids with complex needs and won't let the parents stay and help either. So there is little choice but to sit in your own 4 walls with a noisy child annoying the neighbours.

Not just mainstream activities either,I booked ds onto an activity group for autistic teens, two months ago,for the summer.He should've had two support workers to go with him too.A little over a week ago they phoned me to tell me he can't go as they don't take autistics who have additional support in school:eek: even with their own support workers.Transpires that this 'autistic sports club' has 14 autistic teens to 2 adults...take it they mean mild aspies and autistic who could actually attend mainstream activities then,no way on earth would that work for a long day,2 adults and that many kids any other way!!!

Nicki

Treevo wrote: »

She's unable to stay in her own home so it's hardly the one night that you're claiming. You're doing the exact same thing that you're accusing others of doing!

I thought she didn't enjoy sitting on her balcony any longer and had been woken ONCE at 1.30 by the child and heard him at 10.40pm last night. If we are going by what she has actually posted that is. Given that I doubt that she is giving this family the benefit of the doubt and would have said if it was a continuous 24 hour racket.

Enterprise_1701C

Cupcake4 - have you started keeping a diary about the noise, including the parties? Perhaps especially the parties, reallly do not think it is suitable to have drunken parties with a disabled kid around, that kid is probably being kept awake at night too!

Good luck, I do know how you feel, have had noisy neighbours before who used the excuse of the kid being disabled, turned out that that kid was being mis-treated and was noisy because he was distressed.

Vicky123

Treevo wrote: »

She's unable to stay in her own home so it's hardly the one night that you're claiming. You're doing the exact same thing that you're accusing others of doing!

She, in her original post said one night, she may be changing that now but that's what she said. I'm defending the rights of a disabled child to live without being compared to an animal, if that's wrong then I'm happy to be wrong. She lives in a council flat for goodness sake, the undisturbed peace she previously enjoyed was fortunate but there is no guarantee that will continue regardless of this family. My post today is just questioning what point we dropped her original complaint and obvious distaste in favour of a more palatable one of drunken neighbour.

Treevo

Vicky123 wrote: »

She, in her original post said one night, she may be changing that now but that's what she said. I'm defending the rights of a disabled child to live without being compared to an animal, if that's wrong then I'm happy to be wrong. She lives in a council flat for goodness sake, the undisturbed peace she previously enjoyed was fortunate but there is no guarantee that will continue regardless of this family. My post today is just questioning what point we dropped her original complaint and obvious distaste in favour of a more palatable one of drunken neighbour.

She also said it in her original post. And actually, she owns her flat - this is also in her original post.

Here's the thing - she said it all in her original post and you're accusing others of ignoring some of it, while you're doing the exact same thing.

Treevo

Nicki wrote: »

I thought she didn't enjoy sitting on her balcony any longer and had been woken ONCE at 1.30 by the child and heard him at 10.40pm last night. If we are going by what she has actually posted that is. Given that I doubt that she is giving this family the benefit of the doubt and would have said if it was a continuous 24 hour racket.

She posted this exact sentence:

I have been driven to stay out of the flat as I cannot stand these noises.

But that's just going on what she actually posted.

sassyblue

Nicki wrote: »

I say again I think some of the posters on here think the UK is a lot better place to live for the disabled than it really is.

There is barely any support for families of disabled children however severe. Certainly not the regular and frequent respite for all that some seem to think is there just for the asking!

I know that too, however, our disabled family member is my husbands aunt she's in her 60's and we are her next of kin now.

I'm not saying for an adult l'm expecting there to be alot of help but l am surprised. And l know help for disabled children is rubbish.

It's hard because we have to work and she is luckily able to look after herself to some extent but she doesn't want to move near us, things work fine at the moment but what if she gets worse?

Nicki

Treevo wrote: »

She posted this exact sentence:

But that's just going on what she actually posted.

The two statements aren't inconsistent though. She stated what had happened and then she stated what her reaction to that was. If you look at other threads this OP has posted on her reaction to life's irritations are not always what others would consider proportionate