To text or not to text? That is the question

MrsE_2

ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

Depends on how long you've been unhappy.
I know for myself I couldn't date anyone that quickly only a day after a partner had moved out. You may not have any baggage but until you start meeting people you may find you have.
Just chat and don't see it as meeting any potential partner.
Spend time thinking about what you want and have man free time.

I'm not going on dates?
Just suggesting to the OP she looks at dating rather than seeking a replacement relationship.

toffee'n'tom

MrsE wrote: »

I'm not going on dates?
Just suggesting to the OP she looks at dating rather than seeking a replacement relationship.

Maybe it's me but I'd love to go on dates. If only it were that easy. I've been separated/divorced for 7 years and had one relationship of 9 months in that time which has ended recently. No dates, no interest, no nothing. I'm probably what you or others would describe as fairly confident, outgoing, funny, sociable. I don't hide myself away. Admittedly I don't deal too well with rejection - but tell me, apart from internet dating - how do I get a date?

MrsE_2

toffeentom wrote: »

Maybe it's me but I'd love to go on dates. If only it were that easy. I've been separated/divorced for 7 years and had one relationship of 9 months in that time which has ended recently. No dates, no interest, no nothing. I'm probably what you or others would describe as fairly confident, outgoing, funny, sociable. I don't hide myself away. Admittedly I don't deal too well with rejection - but tell me, apart from internet dating - how do I get a date?

I met my last boyfriend at work, but I'm not really a fan of workplace romances.
Thankfully (in view of him moving out today) he doesnt work in the same place anymore.
I dont fancy middleaged men who frequent nightclubs & I wouldnt want a boozer either.
I guess the internet is your best bet.

the_pink_panther_2

toffeentom wrote: »

Maybe it's me but I'd love to go on dates. If only it were that easy. I've been separated/divorced for 7 years and had one relationship of 9 months in that time which has ended recently. No dates, no interest, no nothing. I'm probably what you or others would describe as fairly confident, outgoing, funny, sociable. I don't hide myself away. Admittedly I don't deal too well with rejection - but tell me, apart from internet dating - how do I get a date?

You did very well to get 3 contacts in just 3 days. Maybe try another dating site also? There are a few free ones if you're tentative so there's nothing to lose.

toffee'n'tom

MrsE wrote: »

I met my last boyfriend at work, but I'm not really a fan of workplace romances.
Thankfully (in view of him moving out today) he doesnt work in the same place anymore.
I dont fancy middleaged men who frequent nightclubs & I wouldnt want a boozer either.
I guess the internet is your best bet.

No I don't fancy those either. I went out for a meal with my 16 year old daughter last night and caught the bus home. We were both plauged by drunken middle aged men - vile.

Brighton_belle

Well with Sept on the horizon, are their any evening classes that interest you starting?

toffee'n'tom

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Well with Sept on the horizon, are their any evening classes that interest you starting?

Thanks BB - I'm going to check that one out.

[Deleted User]

MrsE wrote: »

I'm not going on dates?
Just suggesting to the OP she looks at dating rather than seeking a replacement relationship.

Sorry, I read the post wrong. Forgive me.:o
I agree, she should go on dates, ive had 3 in 2 weeks.
Get yourself out there OP, just don't look as every man as relationship material, more rather a friend.
It took me a while to get my head around messaging a few and meeting a few, but its the best way to go, rather than messaging one at a time.

toffee'n'tom

ImDoingItForMe wrote: »

Sorry, I read the post wrong. Forgive me.:o
I agree, she should go on dates, ive had 3 in 2 weeks.
Get yourself out there OP, just don't look as every man as relationship material, more rather a friend.
It took me a while to get my head around messaging a few and meeting a few, but its the best way to go, rather than messaging one at a time.

Thanks. Feeling better about it all today. I'm not after a long term relationship particularly. I'd just as t like some male company and friendship.

The one relationship I've had since my divorce just came out of the blue. Not looked for and totally unexpected. But it was good to feel wanted again. I miss that

KxMx

Have you had a scout round for local friendship groups? There may be a local i friends facebook page for instance. My mum joined one and has never looked back. In fact she's recently taken over running their facebook page!