Does my Mum love me? (not respecting fear of stuff)

Calien27

jellyhead wrote: »

What do you think the solution is?

Martin's too busy with financial advice to moderate the discussion boards. If they take up too much resources, he'll just take them away and we'll be left with only financial matters to discuss.

Maybe one solution might be to refuse to let us discuss suicide at all, in the same way that we're not allowed to discuss a certain missing child. But a lot of people have made friends on here over the years and would rather get support from those online friends than a different forum, if they were struggling with depression.

Another forum I go has this rule in place, any threads get locked pdq and the mods talk to the person in crisis via PM.

Yorkie1

Person_one wrote: »

Its shocking really, nearly all of us have the deadly substance dihydrogen monoxide in our homes and even ingest it on a daily basis!

http://www.dhmo.org/facts.html

The penny just dropped :rotfl:

pka_2

Yorkie1 wrote: »

The penny just dropped :rotfl:

Glad it has for you, I must be having a particularly blonde day as i'm still puzzling over that link....:o

pka_2

pka wrote: »

Glad it has for you, I must be having a particularly blonde day as i'm still puzzling over that link....:o

Hmm should have turned to google earlier..:o

thorsoak

The OP has disappeared again so we have no answers to the points you raised. The fact that he says that he works with one other person and was on a course at uni would appear to rule out aspergers, though of course we do not know whether the OP has had serious mental health problems - he refers to seeing a "specialist" but there is no evidence of a mental health team, so all this is conjecture.

lostinrates

Mojisola wrote: »

I haven't used strong smelling things for decades - perfumes, cleaning agents, household sprays, shower gels, etc.

I find it very unpleasant to have to sit close to someone wearing a heavy perfume or strong smelling hairspray. I think if you don't use these things yourself, you notice them all the more.

I also know someone who has multiple chemical sensitivity who has had to live in a very remote, primitive house for years because she gets very ill when exposed to these things so I don't underestimate the problems they can cause.

It isn't the fact they are "chemicals" that's the problem - it's that some people react to some chemicals. The person with MCS is still exposed to "chemicals" every day but she manages to avoid the ones that cause her problems most of the time.

Is she well known for this? There is someone who is a bit if a celebrity for this?

System

herand wrote: »

Yes which is why I asked how the OP coped at school. Being over senstitive to scents whether it be positive or negative can feature some mental health/neurological conditions. So is the "phobia" a fairly recent development maybe a symptom of anxiety related to university or is it something that has been present in their life from say there teenage years when symptoms of anxiety, ocd, aspergers, depression might be more severe.

it started with deodorant and has grown into other things. Only started 2 years ago.

I don't think I have aspergers although not really sure what it is

System

jellymid wrote: »

If people knew the pain it causes, I have no doubt some kind souls would make an effort to avoid them. If the word perfume was replaced by the word chemicals, which is what they are, maybe people would view them differently.

thanks for your support, I appreciate it, glad to find there is someone similar.

and I know everything is made of chemicals, water, skin etc, but these are natural and not man made in a lab (to make money)

barbarawright

Have you talked to your mum, OP and maybe offered to help out with the cleaning more if she uses natural products that you can cope with?

thorsoak

By your own admission, you have not been so adversely physically affected that you've needed to go to hospital - you are suffering panic attacks. What steps are your specialist advising you to take to cope with your problem?