Living with parents - am I being unreasonable?

seven-day-weekend

supersaver2 wrote: »

Sorry to say but your Dad sounds a little controlling, what is all this 'my house' business? What about your Mum, does the house not belong to her as well. I feel he is being unreasonable and you should look to move out, can't imagine your siblings will be far behind you if your not allowed your own private space in your rooms, god help him in Grandkids come along and want to pop round, god forbid they might make a mess! Life's to short and mess can always be tidied away!

I have said that to my son, meaning it's my house (and my husband's) as opposed to his.

Person_one

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I have said that to my son, meaning it's my house (and my husband's) as opposed to his.

Not owning a house doesn't mean that house isn't your home, though!

seven-day-weekend

Person_one wrote: »

Not owning a house doesn't mean that house isn't your home, though!

No, it was his home when he lived with us, but it was our house and we were entitled to make the rules.

He now has his own flat he makes his own rules for (which I comply with when I visit him).

janthemum

I think you should move out. Go and pay your rent elsewhere.
At 24 in my belief you should be looking at doing this anyway if you can afford it and it seems you can.
At your age you shouldnt be thinking about what your dad thinks and yes it is his house, not yours. Time to move on.
I moved out at 18.
Due to circumstances I now live in a tiny 1 bed flat. My kids are 19 and 21 and there is no way they can stay here. At the moment there dad has them at hols from term time at Uni but if he moves which is likely and downsizes they will just have to look after themselves and ive told them such and they accept it. They are now grown ups.

KxMx

I agree, where I live is my home but it's my Mother's name on the rent book, so her house her rules.

Person_one

KxMx wrote: »

I agree, where I live is my home but it's my Mother's name on the rent book, so her house her rules.

Well, technically its not even her house, if she's renting it.

I just think its better when people who share a home can compromise a bit, rather than one dictating, regardless of the title deeds or the mortgage arrangements.

KxMx

Person_one wrote: »

Well, technically its not even her house, if she's renting it.

I just think its better when people who share a home can compromise a bit, rather than one dictating, regardless of the title deeds or the mortgage arrangements.

Oh I know that, just saying in general her name on the rent book she sets house rules.

There is a chain of command- Landlord- Mum- KxMx, I know my place

Any

Dunroamin wrote: »

Those are very big assumptions and, unless you know the poster from other threads, may well not be accurate.

I was commenting completely in general terms, not to the poster at all, just saying that sometimes there could be more things to consider.
I was in no way refering to the poster who said about his home set up.

Loz01

I guess it's tidy up or move out - some people's cleaning standards are too much in my opinion. I have a tiny box bedroom which I've been in since age 6 and the moment I put anything on the floor (even a pair of shoes) then it looks messy. But if your dad is set in his ways then you're pretty stuck. Can you ask him what exactly he considers the messiest bit and see if you can compromise?