I am not putting my darling kids thorough D.I.V.O.R.C.E

moneysaymoneydo

Yes I half expected a personal attack. Valli you are most correct (again) I do not know how to quote so again apologies. Feel free to make yourself feel better to constantly correct me, spelling, morals etc it is all a good way to build self esteem and make yourself feel better.

Anyway you are a single parent so divorced/separated so I again will point out marriage vows are until death us do part!

I am wondering if your ex cheated hence the animosity towards my thread, but hey speaking of OH that's mine home, I need to go!

Peace and love I think single parents do a marvellous job!

Valli

Try pressing the button which says 'quote'. At NO TIME have I corrected your spelling! Diversionary tactic?

I've already told you why I petitioned for divorce.

My animosity is towards your implied assertion that you are doing the right thing by staying married and yet you are not behaving like a married person should. You had my sympathy (although I personally believe that staying together for the sake of the kids is a foolhardy stance) right up until the point where you confessed to being a serial adulterer.

What about the blokes you have had? Were/are they married? With kids?

Georgiegirl256

I have come to the conclusion that as well as having the morals of an alley cat, the OP is just a teensy bit thick too :rotfl: Don't know how to quote? What about that blue button that says 'Quote'? As for the title of the thread....it sounds more like a Tammy Wynette song!

pops5588

Just to say OP, your kids probably know you cheated. Children aren't dumb, I was the one who sensed something was wrong with my father's behaviour, went rooting around and found evidence he was cheating. Kick-started my parents divorce. I was 12 years old and pretty devastated. But as long as you're happy yeah?

paulineb_2

moneysaymoneydo wrote: »

Yes I half expected a personal attack. Valli you are most correct (again) I do not know how to quote so again apologies. Feel free to make yourself feel better to constantly correct me, spelling, morals etc it is all a good way to build self esteem and make yourself feel better.

Anyway you are a single parent so divorced/separated so I again will point out marriage vows are until death us do part!

I am wondering if your ex cheated hence the animosity towards my thread, but hey speaking of OH that's mine home, I need to go!

Peace and love I think single parents do a marvellous job!

They are until death do us part, but theres also the bit that says forsaking all others.

Theres no part that says, rolling around in the sack with other people.

Also, to the poster who said walk a mile in someones shoes before judging, Im absolutely aware that people can and do make mistakes but the whole underpinning theme of this thread has been, Im better than people who are separated and divorced but despite being asked many times does the OP's husband know she cheated, that hasnt been answered.

Why not? And Id also say once is a mistake, three times is not a mistake, particularly as the Op was at pains to point out that one was a one night stand, so the other two were not?

Come on, who is kidding who here. Im really happy and in a loving relationship yet I had two relationships behind my husbands back and one one night stand?

Who is kidding who here? And whether the reason was anything to do with feeling unfulfilled in the marriage, alcohol, you know the oops my knickers just fell off!!!!!

It still doesnt justify the affairs. Affairs dont make relationships stronger, people just kid themselves on to try and get over their guilt.

If you arent happy, you work things out or you leave and you do it after the first time you have cheated, not the third.

Because your darling children and your darling husband, if they found out what you had been up to, might change their opinion of you a bit.

Id respect someone who actually had the balls to come clean and admit what they had done, deceiving people is just sad. But hey, lots of people do it, so as long as you can justify it to yourself, fair enough eh?

Valli

paulineb wrote: »

Also, to the poster who said walk a mile in someones shoes before judging, Im absolutely aware that people can and do make mistakes but the whole underpinning theme of this thread has been, Im better than people who are separated and divorced but despite being asked many times does the OP's husband know she cheated, that hasnt been answered.

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this is exactly how I'm seeing this thread too. Well-worded post there Pauline.

paulineb_2

I think if your OH doesnt know you have met up and slept with other people and that goes for anyone in that situation, your happiness is based on a big fat lie.

Imagine the scenario. Had a good day year, yes thanks, spent last night with my legs wrapped round someone elses neck.

You cow/!!!!!!!. Im leaving you

Wonder how happy everyone would be feeling then?

blueybug

I walked out 8 months ago because I found out my OH was screwing someone else. Even though HE was the wrong party I left him with the house etc because I wanted out.

I'm going for divorce now as I feel Ive been used and this is from knowing others in the same boat, its always the one that come out with "I hate people that cheat/affairs blar blar blar" that indeed has them.

He had strong views on it and after my mum/dad splitting up because my mum had an affair he couldnt stand her because of it.

Karma............ His 3 yr fling left him last week.........

If you feel you need to screw someone else, have the guts to tell your OH and leave. Its not fair nor is it funny to be on the other end of it.