I am not putting my darling kids thorough D.I.V.O.R.C.E

paulineb_2

moneysaymoneydo wrote: »

Oh don't you worry Padstow I am under no illusions trust me and if he does do the dirty (as I have three times)(well once a 1 night stand) would I leave or forgive for the sake of the kids!

So I never do say - never say never - I say if/when :rotfl:

So how happy is your relationship then, if you have cheated 3 times?

FBaby

Oh don't you worry Padstow I am under no illusions trust me and if he does do the dirty (as I have three times)(well once a 1 night stand) would I leave or forgive for the sake of the kids!

So is it the realisation that your hubby might be staying with you just for the sake of the children that made you post?

Padstow

moneysaymoneydo wrote: »

Oh don't you worry Padstow I am under no illusions trust me and if he does do the dirty (as I have three times)(well once a 1 night stand) would I leave or forgive for the sake of the kids!

So I never do say - never say never - I say if/when :rotfl:

Your poor children!

You do understand, and I take it you don't care, that children absorb everything in the household. By the way, leave off whatever you're imbibing.

paulineb_2

Padstow wrote: »

Your poor children!

You do understand, and I take it you don't care, that children absorb everything in the household. By the way, leave off whatever you're imbibing.

You know, this thread makes me incredibly sad, no divorce for the sake of the kids, but cheating is ok?

meer53

Staying together in an unhappy relationship is the worst thing you can do for your kids. They won't thank you for it when they're older, believe me. They'll just think you were stupid.

Valli

paulineb wrote: »

You know, this thread makes me incredibly sad, no divorce for the sake of the kids, but cheating is ok?

Yep, there's the OP, 'sacrificing' her life to stay married 'for the sake of the kids' and making an even greater sham of the marriage by 'sleeping' around :rotfl:

And implying those of us who are divorced are the 'baddies' arguing with exes and using kids as weapons (which we don't all do; I for one have worked very hard to build and maintain a civil relationship with my ex).



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sweaty_betty

I have no experience of this, so it may be a daft question, however...

If you're "marking time" in a relationship waiting for the kids to grow up and are not at the stage of hating each other / can't bear to be in the same room, why don't you acknowledge your problems and go to marriage counselling or something to try to repair your relationship? Surely that would be a better use of the time instead of letting bad feelings and resentment build up?

moneysaymoneydo

As I have already said I am actually in a happy marriage, I appreciate there are the regulars looking and picking at holes, and as Padstow very kindly pointed out I am under no illusion things could change, I have read some positive feedback in divorce where both parents are amicable whereas most published on this website are negative. IE one of the parents refusing to let other see kids etc or parents no longer communicating and one short of money etc. I have no intention of leaving my darling other half and if they leave me then there loss :rotfl:

Padstow I will crack open the white wine now and raise one just for you :T

Valli

If you were in a happy marriage you would be happily staying at home and not sleeping around.
Happily married people don't stray. Unhappily married people do.

I, for one, am not 'picking at holes'; I'm responding to your shameless claim that you have had two relationships and a one-night stand while attempting to criticise people who don't stay married for the sake of the children. Since, when making your marriage promise you presumably claimed to 'forsake all others' you can hardly claim to have kept to it, can you?

And yet you are implying that those of us who have chosen to separate are somehow not as 'worthy' as yourself as we have not 'sacrificed' our lives for the sake of our children?

Shame on you!

**professor~yaffle**

Some people are not monogamous.

In which case they shouldn't be married, but it often doesn't work out that way for one reason or other. One reason often being that there's a child or children involved.