I feel a bit jealous

thorsoak

CH27 wrote: »

The OP is now deleting her posts :rotfl:

The thing is, she cannot delete posts wherein some of us (me for one!) have quoted her posts in full - so people can see just how silly she has been!

SmallL

I'l offer another viewpoint.
My partners sister is incredibly 'immature' in several ways you also suggest this other couple is:
1) They have a rough relationship, child at 20, her partner cheated on her.
2)They aren't financially independant, they are in debt with the rent.

This came from getting pregnant 4 weeks into their relationship, engaged and wedding planned for 2012 (never happened due to family death).

Yes i do feel jealous of the fact they 'got off the ground' so quickly, however the future is much less certain for them and i feel very lucky to have such a supportive OH and my finances under control that i don't much care what they do as long as it doesn't affect us. We don't talk to them much as there has been a falling out with the rent issue.

My engagement was at the perfect time and i wouldn't have it any other way. We have been entirely commited for roughly 4/6 years, but felt this year was 'right'.

Pollycat

CH27 wrote: »

The OP is now deleting her posts :rotfl:

Doesn't matter. Most of her posts have been quoted anyway - and they stay in the thread.

Ilovesaving20 wrote: »

You're right, I was wrong to think this was a good sort of place for this. Obviously no one here knows what sort of people they are.

Of course we don't know what sort of people they are - because you've fed information piecemeal.
And now that you've taken your bat and ball home in a fit of pique, you've decided to say a little bit more. :wall:

Here's a clue love - we're not bloody mind-readers.

Originally Posted by Ilovesaving20
Thanks everyone for your views and opinions, even the nasty ones.

I'm going to the leave the thread now.

I feel a little upset over some of the backlash so I'd like to clarify a few things.

I do not feel a sense of superiority over them, I feel a sense of age. Even though I am a similar age to them I have lived away from home since 18, I pay rent, bills, insurance. General everyday 'adult' things - these are not things they do. This is what I mean by maturity. They party, drink and squander money, and then expect more. They do not pay for anything, they expect free holidays, free board etc.

We aren't very close, I used to be very close to the brother (known all my life) but most of his friends fell out with him over the controlling girlfriend, who we felt used him. They are often claiming to have mystery illnesses and everything is always worse for them. It's unbelievable some of the things they've done but I don't want to broadcast that here. Some of the resentment I feel is how they've treated my 'parents in law'

It isn't about me, I was just answering questions.

I will stick with my views - relationship, marriage, children.

Btw, in the country everyone has grounds.

Re the part in bold - you say you don't feel a sense of superiority.
Just read what you've typed - it smacks of a superiority complex.

You know, when I see a thread by a brand new poster and it's not about money-saving, I always wonder exactly how they found their way to this website. :cool:

MakeupAddict_2

thorsoak wrote: »

The thing is, she cannot delete posts wherein some of us (me for one!) have quoted her posts in full - so people can see just how silly she has been!

How very prescient of you, thorsoak :T

I didn't see the original of the post you quoted, but now that thanks to you I have, I have only one thing to say.....

M'lud, I rest my case.

Actually, two things. In the country EVERYONE has grounds ????
:rotfl:

MuAx

Bennifred

Ilovesaving20 wrote: »

Wow, it's so nice to cyber bully someone, pat yourselves on the back!

Grounds are just a garden... Not sure why that's so surprising to everyone. F*ck.

I wouldn't describe my garden as grounds, though - it smacks of delusions of grandeur, unless you live in Blenheim Palace of course! :cool:

Pollycat

Ilovesaving20 wrote: »

Wow, it's so nice to cyber bully someone, pat yourselves on the back!

Grounds are just a garden... Not sure why that's so surprising to everyone. F*ck.

Ilovesaving
When you post details of your life on a pubic forum you need to be prepared to read things that you may not like and opinions that you don't agree with.

That's how it is.

But when you declare that you're leaving a thread and then go back and delete all your posts, that's childish and will result in posters saying just that.

Where I come from, we call our gardens 'gardens', not 'grounds'.
That's what's so surprising. :cool:

kelpie35

OP why don't you just be honest and admit you as so jealous of them and can only wish it was you that had got engaged.

Ilovesaving20

Pollycat wrote: »

Ilovesaving
When you post details of your life on a pubic forum you need to be prepared to read things that you may not like and opinions that you don't agree with.

That's how it is.

But when you declare that you're leaving a thread and then go back and delete all your posts, that's childish and will result in posters saying just that.

Where I come from, we call our gardens 'gardens', not 'grounds'.
That's what's so surprising. :cool:

When you go to a hotel wedding do you have photos taken in the garden or the grounds?

Ilovesaving20

kelpie35 wrote: »

OP why don't you just be honest and admit you as so jealous of them and can only wish it was you that had got engaged.

Because I'm not. If my boyfriend proposed (which he wouldn't) then I'd say no.

Pollycat

Ilovesaving20 wrote: »

When you go to a hotel wedding do you have photos taken in the garden or the grounds?

If I'm having a reception or party in my garden, I will have photographs taken in the garden.

If I'm having a reception or party in a hotel, I will have photographs taken in the grounds (of the hotel).

Nobody mentioned a hotel at all, so your question is irrelevant.

You referred to the garden of your parents as 'grounds'.

That's why people picked up on it.