Father issues - still - again......

Blackpool_Saver

Some people who are posting on here have no clue what they are talking about

ecgirl07

gtc stop horsewhipping yourself, take off the horsehair shirt, when someone posts something on here your response is basically "yeah that makes me rubbish/wrong/crap" NO IT DOESNT.

Your self language is so negative every wave on your bow re-enforces something negative about yourself so even when people are pointing out a positive way forward it re-enforces something negative about yourself.

this might not help but it was linked on a different forum im on

http://www.actionondepression.org/services/cbt-online

its for people in scotland but you fake a scottish postcode and have a look into it.

GotToChange

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I don't think FBR is being obnoxious, GTC - I think they're just frustrated.

You really need to see a doctor, I believe.

HBS x

Different definitions of obnoxious possibly? The way to avoid frustration is to just stop reading maybe.... or stop just posting one liners that serve very little purpose - in my opinion (which is pretty suspect as I cannot throw stuff away ) - that would be great.... (to quote Office Space).

I will do that very thing though.... pop along to the Doc in a week or two (next available appointment), I know they will understand and help me.
/sarcasm off

x

And of course, I must add how grateful I am for everyone's response. I actually and truly do appreciate everything.
xx

GotToChange

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

Some people who are posting on here have no clue what they are talking about

Can you please expand BS?

GotToChange

ecgirl07 wrote: »

gtc stop horsewhipping yourself, take off the horsehair shirt, when someone posts something on here your response is basically "yeah that makes me rubbish/wrong/crap" NO IT DOESNT.

Your self language is so negative every wave on your bow re-enforces something negative about yourself so even when people are pointing out a positive way forward it re-enforces something negative about yourself.

this might not help but it was linked on a different forum im on

http://www.actionondepression.org/services/cbt-online

its for people in scotland but you fake a scottish postcode and have a look into it.

Why is everyone only seeing - and referring - to my negative remarks....? Why?

I'm sure that not everything I am saying is negative; I just cannot see something that actually isn't very positive in a positive light (and burning everything and forgetting (haha) everything and writing off an aspect of my life does not, sadly, feel oh-so-positive....

I have lost so much lately - attempting to forget a core part of myself/life and write off a hope for the future just feels like one more (big) loss - and yet it is something intangible, ephemeral. Does no-one else think that it might take some doing?

I hoped that clearing the "paperwork" decks might help my mind be calm on the subject; now I am sort of defending myself on here when I really thought that I was already taking small and positive steps in the right direction.

I do beat myself up because I am getting a lot of opinions "thrown" at me and am answering each in my usual over-explaining way I suppose.
(Anyone caring to look closely may see touches of humour and irony in what I say.....)

I was told by my uncle that my father expects humility from me - but when I was humble, I was told to quit the self-deprecation. Maybe I just don't know how to be a fully functioning human being.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

GotToChange wrote: »

The two don't really compare, do they?

Don't they?

I think they exactly compare. Different context but exactly the same. You don't like someone linking to communications from your past but you are on here asking how to preserve and file communications from your past.

But anyway. All the sighs, urghs, quotes, sarcasms ons and \offs aside; nobody is going to win with you because you of the way you react to everything. Good, bad, indifferent; nobody can say 'you are a good person' because you'd come up with some reason you are bad; nobody can say you are bad because you will say that yes, you should never have been born; nobody can pretty much say anything as there is always a 'yes but'.

Even if the man of your dreams rode up and declared undying love you'd find an excuse to turn him away.

And that's why you have got to seek help.

But there will be a reason why not of course...

ecgirl07

GotToChange wrote: »

Why is everyone only seeing - and referring - to my negative remarks....? Why?

I'm sure that not everything I am saying is negative; I just cannot see something that actually isn't very positive in a positive light (and burning everything and fogetting (haha) everything and writing off an aspecty of my life does not, sadly, feel oh-so-positive....

I have lost so much lately - attempting to forget a core part of myself/life and write off a hope for the future just feels like one more (big) loss - and yet it is something intangible, ephemeral. Does no-one else think that it might take some doing?

I hoped that clearing the "paperwork" decks might help my mind be calm on the subject; now I am sort of defending myself on here when I really thought that I was already taking small and positive steps in the right direction.

I do beat myself up because I am getting a lot of opinions "thrown" at me and am answering each in my usual over-explaining way I suppose.
(Anyone caring to look closely may see touches of humour and irony in what I say.....)

I was told by my uncle that my father expects humility from me - but when I was humble, I was told to quit the self-deprecation. Maybe I just don't know how to be a fully functioning human being.

Ive got no earthly idea;)

ecgirl07

facisous (sp) answer aside you are doing great!

you are taking steps to remove this archive from daily life, you are going to talk to doctors, you are getting there!

really you are and you will :beer:

because imagine the response you will get when you post the "my dad ruined my 50th birthday" thread:eek:

GotToChange

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

Don't they?

I think they exactly compare. Different context but exactly the same. You don't like someone linking to communications from your past but you are on here asking how to preserve and file communications from your past.

But anyway. All the sighs, urghs, quotes, sarcasms ons and \offs aside; nobody is going to win with you because you of the way you react to everything. Good, bad, indifferent; nobody can say 'you are a good person' because you'd come up with some reason you are bad; nobody can say you are bad because you will say that yes, you should never have been born; nobody can pretty much say anything as there is always a 'yes but'.

Even if the man of your dreams rode up and declared undying love you'd find an excuse to turn him away.

And that's why you have got to seek help.

But there will be a reason why not of course...

I honestly don't know why you are doing this???

If it frustrates you that I seem to take "you are a good person" with some scepticism and am quick to denegrate myself, that's because no-one on here - and again, yes I am grateful for any and all input and suggestions and do not mean to offend by expressing doubts about my own abilities to follow through - really knows me in real life.

The little additions are just meant to make my posts less serious or to make an emphasis in some way.... you mocking me about them just seems needlessly unkind.

Really, why are you doing this to someone who has admitted how fragile they are? You must know that I will focus on this but am willing to bet that you would say I shouldn't.

And generalisations about what I would do are verging on spiteful (apologies if that's the wrong word, I am very weary now).

GotToChange

ecgirl07 wrote: »

Ive got no earthly idea;)

This one flew right over my head, I'm sorry.....



(Facetious......
the only word - I think, there may be one more - with the vowels in once only in the correct order )