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The Mad, Bad Menopause Thread

Hi All

I think since there are all sorts of pregnancy and TTC threads that it would be nice to have one for all us ladies who are either approaching, in the throes of or have come out the other end of that taboo menopause.

Lets have a place where we can discuss symptoms, things that alleviate them and invaluable gadgets and gizmos that get us through the days and nights of this not so wonderful time

It is not a thread for medical advice but it can be useful to discuss what works for each of us. It is also a safe place for us to rant and rage and put PMT to shame. It is a follow on from summerof0763's thread http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=4689443

It is a place for us to just be ourselves and to share with others when we think we have been taken over by alien beings that warp our behavior.

Welcome aboard all because it surely is a bumpy ride.


  • kingfisherblue
    kingfisherblue Posts: 9,203 Forumite
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    Hi Mudgekin, it's been a bumpy ride for a while! I was perimenopausal at 38 and am six years in :o. The hot flushes, memory lapses, tiredness, dry skin - all part of everyday life. And the night sweats are all part of everynight life :rotfl:.

    I used to work with a lady who was going through the menopause, and she used to say that it was down to her horror-mones :p
  • Artytarty
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    Count me in! Maybe this should merge with the thread on hot flushes?!
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  • bunbun2
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    Hi Mudgekin, it's been a bumpy ride for a while! I was perimenopausal at 38 and am six years in :o. The hot flushes, memory lapses, tiredness, dry skin - all part of everyday life. And the night sweats are all part of everynight life :rotfl:.

    I used to work with a lady who was going through the menopause, and she used to say that it was down to her horror-mones :p

    do you still get the hot flushes, etc six years on? mine have only just started:eek:
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  • mudgekin
    mudgekin Posts: 514 Forumite
    I used to work with a lady who was going through the menopause, and she used to say that it was down to her horror-mones :p

    That should be the phrase of the year. It certainly is horror-mones. I feel a horror and I am full of moans:p Well according to DH that is :rotfl:

    I am on a low dose of HRT and I still have hot flushes but not nearly as bad. No sheet changes in the middle of the night. I probably have been having flushes now for 15 years. I had my hysterectomy at 28 and I'm now 54. The menopause didn't really hit though untill I was in my early 40s. My mood swings are dreadful and I make hormonal teens look like angels at times. My skin has been taken over and is turning to papery scales and if I didn't apply lashings of moisturiser I am sure you could mistake me for a sheet of paper.

    My best friend is now a notebook to keep track of things and my stock phrase to DH is "remind me to"

    One of the good things about this thread. We can discuss the things that are taboo like libido getting up and leaving, lady part problems, irregularity, and issues like dryness, discomfort and good things like that.

    Lets not forget though for every one of us that has issues, there are others who sail through it and have very few problems at all. It isn't all doom and gloom for everyone and I think that needs stressed
  • lady1964
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    I started going through the menopause aged 34/35, so I'm now 14/15 years in.

    Had terrible mood swings, they were really awful and this was during the time we didn't know it was the menopause. That took two years to diagnose, finally diagnosed thanks to a laparoscopy, which told the gynaecologist my ovaries were all shrunken :(

    I suffered badly with hot flushes but not so much with night sweats. Over the last few years, I've really not been troubled with mood swings or the other symptoms and was put on a low dose HRT around 5 years ago. My gynaecologist told me I would be on HRT until I'm at least 50, which is next year.

    I can't tell you how lovely it is not to have periods anymore, it's a joy, but I've gained weight that is very hard to shift so every silver lining lol

    My concern now is that my dd's will also have an early menopause. At least I had completed my family, it must be the worst feeling to have the menopause and not have had your family...
  • summerof0763
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    ah count me in lol, I need all the help I can get here!! just wakened up from another really bad headache.
    I had a really bad problem with really dry itchy skin down there, eventually plucked up courage to say to my doc as I was drawing blood every night, got a steriid cream that really helped.
    moods lol I suffered bad pmt but menopause is 10x worse can't belive how moosy and teary I am! x
    i came into the world with nothing,and guess what? i still have it!!!:p
  • Mrs_Ryan
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    Helloooooo :) well my menopause started exactly one year ago today after a hysterectomy due to endometrial cancer. I am 32 now and childless but I have to say I've not really suffered. I get the odd hot flush and had a few teary episodes although I do find now I've got a shorter temper than before :rotfl: can't take HRT but I think I've been pretty fortunate *touch wood*
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  • Goldiegirl
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    Hello there!

    I had noticed that there were threads for all possible stages of pre conception, conception, pregnancy, birth and beyond, but nothing about the menopause.

    I had put it down to people not really wanting to talk about it. I mean I don't really want to think about it too much, I don't even like talking about it to myself !

    But my menopause is in full swing at present.

    I'm 53' and my main symptom is forgetfulness. I used to be Mrs Memory woman, but now I have a mind like a sieve. Also I have very dry skin, and I'm always slathering on the moisturiser.

    In better news, I've never had hot flushes, so even in this hot weather I'm quite comfortable.

    My periods have been getting irregular since I hit 50, gradually getting longer between each period. Earlier this year I had a two week long period, then nothing for three months. I was beginning to think that was it, but then I had a period at the start of June. Annoyingly, I've started another period today, after only 6 weeks.

    I'm not on any HRT, bit I do take Evening primrose oil capsules. I don't if that helps, but it feels like I'm doing something!

    I'll certainly be keeping up with this thread.
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  • BitterAndTwisted
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    For anyone reading this who hasn't started the process yet: it doesn't have to be doom and gloom.

    I sailed through mine with nary a symptom bar a bit of short temper from time to time. That's gone for good now and so has my libido. The great thing about that is I just don't care if I never see a naked man ever again. I'm kind of glad that part of my life is over and I'm so relieved to have waved tatty-bye to periods. Eight years later I've got a some grey hairs, have put on a few pounds, am growing a mustache and beard but my skin and hair-texture are no worse than they ever were.

    All things considered life's just grand
  • marmitepotato
    The menopause sucks! Period! ;)
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