The Mad, Bad Menopause Thread

summerof0763

I have been advised by doc to go on hrt, so giving it a try, the sage tablets lessend the flushes, but not my aching bones, and mood swings especially weepiness, I seem to be crying about everything, so am praying this helps me a little as feel drained and exhausted x

rickeeee

I'm in

Got the healthspan sage last week

No difference yet :mad:

Will report back

Over and out

red_devil

Judi wrote: »

Can I join you please?

Well i'm not sure i'm in the menopause. At the age of 51 I ought to be but i'm not so sure.

I thought i'd gone through it without a question 18 months ago after an absence of periods that lasted 13 months. Then out of the blue I had two periods in February and March of this year. Ive had nothing since.

I remember my Mother going through hot flushes but ive not experienced anything like them as yet. My memory is pretty shocking but I think that's down to the medication I take.

Apart from that I am symptom free. Im going to ask the doctor to test my hormones when I am due my next blood test. I might know where I stand.

similar to me i have a blod test tomorow!

ibizafan_2

Does anyone think that the later you go through the menopause, the fewer the symptoms? Only asking because my Mum went through it at 55 and said that the only symptoms she got were feeling "a bit warm" on a few occasions. Fast forward to me, and I stopped having regular periods at 58 and like her, had no problems at all. If I do (60 now) feel "a bit warm" on occasion, I tend to put it down to other factors. Maybe it's just being lucky, but anyone else got any similar experiences?

summerof0763

ibizafan wrote: »

Does anyone think that the later you go through the menopause, the fewer the symptoms? Only asking because my Mum went through it at 55 and said that the only symptoms she got were feeling "a bit warm" on a few occasions. Fast forward to me, and I stopped having regular periods at 58 and like her, had no problems at all. If I do (60 now) feel "a bit warm" on occasion, I tend to put it down to other factors. Maybe it's just being lucky, but anyone else got any similar experiences?

you may have a theory there as I started going through menopause at 48, but its this year its really kicked in bad am 50 now, and my mum was mid 50's when she sailed through hers, hence the fact she has been totally unsympathetic to me x

meritaten

I was diagnosed with Endometriosis in my late forties, I had a thermal ablation and was warned that if my menopause started early (like my mothers did) then I would only know by the 'symptoms' and hormone tests. tbh - mum had a dreadful time with menopause. and I was expecting the same. I am one year off sixty now and I can honestly say that I have no idea if I have gone through the menopause or not! I may have had hot flushes - or they may been because the house was too hot!
Dr offered me HRT and I refused - I didn't see the point.
I tend to think now that mum was a world class worrier - and her mental state made her symptoms worse.
I totally forgot about the menopause - it didn't cross my mind as I got so used to not having periods!
I was told that the thermal ablation would last about ten years before the body started to 'repair' itself. well its past 10 years and it will be interesting to see what happens!
perhaps we 'invite' the symptoms in if we are told we 'should' be having hot flushes etc.

summerof0763

meritaten wrote: »

I was diagnosed with Endometriosis in my late forties, I had a thermal ablation and was warned that if my menopause started early (like my mothers did) then I would only know by the 'symptoms' and hormone tests. tbh - mum had a dreadful time with menopause. and I was expecting the same. I am one year off sixty now and I can honestly say that I have no idea if I have gone through the menopause or not! I may have had hot flushes - or they may been because the house was too hot!
Dr offered me HRT and I refused - I didn't see the point.
I tend to think now that mum was a world class worrier - and her mental state made her symptoms worse.
I totally forgot about the menopause - it didn't cross my mind as I got so used to not having periods!
I was told that the thermal ablation would last about ten years before the body started to 'repair' itself. well its past 10 years and it will be interesting to see what happens!
perhaps we 'invite' the symptoms in if we are told we 'should' be having hot flushes etc.

I totally disagree with you tbh, so we are a bunch of moaning minnies are we.
just like with periods some people sail through them, others have a bad time.
its the same with the menopause! none of us "invite" the menopause

meritaten

summerof0763 wrote: »

I totally disagree with you tbh, so we are a bunch of moaning minnies are we.
just like with periods some people sail through them, others have a bad time.
its the same with the menopause! none of us "invite" the menopause

No, I am not saying that, but its really strange that only in western countries women seem to have problems with the menopause. and of course for thousands of years women took the menopause to be a matter of course (if they lived long enough).
Could that be because drug companies spent billions on drug research to delay menopause? because what HRT does is delay it - at some point you will have to FACE UP to the menopause!
your own doctor tells you to expect hot flushes, palpitations, and other unpleasant symptoms, so does the internet. do you expect the menopause to be a time of freedom or do you expect problems? because if you expect problems then your mind will manufacture them. without you being consciously aware of this!

if you have nasty symptoms then go to your GP and DONT be fobbed off with 'oh its the time of life or menopause'. too many illnesses have been overlooked this way.

summerof0763

meritaten wrote: »

No, I am not saying that, but its really strange that only in western countries women seem to have problems with the menopause. and of course for thousands of years women took the menopause to be a matter of course (if they lived long enough).
Could that be because drug companies spent billions on drug research to delay menopause? because what HRT does is delay it - at some point you will have to FACE UP to the menopause!
your own doctor tells you to expect hot flushes, palpitations, and other unpleasant symptoms, so does the internet. do you expect the menopause to be a time of freedom or do you expect problems? because if you expect problems then your mind will manufacture them. without you being consciously aware of this!

if you have nasty symptoms then go to your GP and DONT be fobbed off with 'oh its the time of life or menopause'. too many illnesses have been overlooked this way.

sorry I apologize, I agree to certain extent about hrt but honest I was having horrendous nightmares, hot flushes constantly, really painful bones etc, don't get me wrong I have a debilitating illness anyway, but I really can't cope with all the symptoms x

mudgekin

I have to disagree on this one also. My late mum had very little in the way of menopause symptoms as I said before therefore I wasn't swayed by her ideas. I had a hysterectomy and partial oopherectomy at 28 and 7 years later my remaining ovary packed in. That was in the days of before t'internet so I wasn't inundated with information.

I knew about hot flushes as my aunt had dreadful flushes but I wasn't expecting the myriad of other symptoms like the memory issues, behavioural changes and becoming a monster. I certainly wasn't expecting my libido to get up and go never to return as I had always been highly sexed before.

I genuinely expected to sail through it and for women who are having a dreadful time it is reassuring to find not that you are not alone and that the raging hormones of adolescence can seem mild in comparison for some people. I think the reason that it was never spoken about was because it was one of those hush hush things that fell under the category of "womens' troubles" never to be mentioned in polite company.