Those who are waiting to TTC (New Thread)

ilovelondontown

Hello Ladies,

It has been a bit quiet round here, (well quiet if you compare it to the ttc/pregnancy threads that move at lightning pace )

Hope everybody is ok?

Cookiee, that's good news about the baby fund! Any sign of AF yet?

It's starting to get exciting this end, I now only have one more cycle to go until DH and I officially start ttc :j getting so close to the starting line is making me feel a lot of emotion, absolute delight, nervousness, anticipation and wondering how this will unfold for us.

And it seems that the question of my baby making status is on everyones lips, I've been getting noticably more comments from people about when we'll start to try. In the last week alone my mother, best friend, SMIL and paternal 96 year old grandmother are all seprately asking when I'm going to be gracing them with "good news..." it seems in their eyes we've nearly had a year post-wedding to enjoy ourselves and it's now time to get down to business!

I have to keep things vague whenever anyone asks, I usually say, "one day" "soon" "when the time is right" and what I really want to say is "sooner than you know"

So now I'm about 52 days out until our ttc month is upon us, and I'm just trying to occupy my mind with other things!

Roll on December indeed

daisiegg

I have been a bit worried because I have no period yet. Really, it is silly early days to worry - this is day 38 of my 'cycle' (began counting on the first day of the 'period'/withdrawal bleed I got after coming off the pill). I mentioned it to my sister who is a student doctor and she said oh it's probably because of your weight. This REALLY upset me because yes I am overweight (though not enormous!) and I am trying really hard to lose weight. It is horrifying to thing my weight (which is not even that bad really!) might make it hard to conceive

Anyway on the other hand I think I may have ovulated....had a temp spike for three days running and some ewcm (sorry ladies but if we plan to move over to the TTC thread we need to get used to it, they seem to be all about the mucus ) I will just have to see what happens and if I get a period in a week or so.

Am now kicking myself for not coming off the pill earlier in preparation for TTC in January. I kept saying to my husband that maybe I should come off it in April after the wedding, as it takes some people a long time to get back to normal, but he really was not keen. Now I just have horrid visions of it taking ages and it being a year or more before we can even start trying and me needing to lose half my body weight or something boo

Also, about to admit something that might make me absolutely horrid. Have just found out that a colleague is pregnant with twins. She is an older mum and already has one child and has been off sick for a couple of months with no one knowing why....now we know why. Now of course I am thrilled for her particularly as she has struggled I think and had some miscarriages. I absolutely am, don't get me wrong. But a tiny, horrid, evil part of me is thinking....way to steal my thunder! It is absolutely mental and I feel like an utter cow even voicing that deep down thought. Not least because she'll have her babies probably before I am even pregnant! I suppose I am the youngest in my department by quite a bit and we all get on very well and the others are all mums and grandmas, so I was looking forward to them being sort of clucky and motherly over me and so on. Which will still happen, so I am just being ridiculous.

Don't know whether to delete that paragraph?!

Watched two episodes of that BBC midwives programme last night. It partly terrified me about birth but also made me feel very broody. I am looking forward not only to a baby but in a weird way I am also looking forward to being pregnant (though I know it is by no means guaranteed to be a walk in the park). Does anyone else feel that way?

daisiegg

Sethisis wrote: »

They accepted our offer on the house! On the condition that it's a quick sale, which is perfectly fine by me! Hopefully having a new home to focus on will make the waiting a little easier to bear.

I missed this, sorry! CONGRATULATIONS? :T:j:beer:

ilovelondontown

Ah Daisygg, I'd be lying if I said I hadn't got a bit green eyed about other people's pregnancies while I've been waiting... it's been tough as it included my own sister- who had an "oops" baby. I used to beat myself up about feeling so jealous but I've learnt to shrug it off and when all else fails I do the one thing they can't, have a nice glass of vino

It's FAR to early in the day to be worrying about your cycles, you've just come off the pill, it can take its time and it can spring back, but the point is you should take this time to relax and work on how to be in the best place physically and emotionally before January. Nobody (not even your sister) can tell you if you're going to have trouble ttc, it something g'teed to nobody until you try. You mentioned your weight might be an issue, do you mind asking what your current stats are? If- and only if- there is a problem between weight issues and ttc, loosing just 10% of your total body weight can do wonders for kicking things back into action again, so prehapes that somthing for you to focus on while you wait for your cycles to come back to "normal".

Paige_Turner

I haven't really posted I here much, mainly because I still have 6 months til we are ttc... Feels like there's not much to say while we wait.

We both really want to start trying now, but I think it makes better sense to wait until he is home permanently. I don't want to be pregnant and him miss that part of it...

Jonesy88

Daisiegg - i watch the Midwives program too! The Welsh lady who had a 40min induced labour scared me a bit.

I understand watch you mean about the green-eyed monster, wttc/ttc does tend to bring out your selfish side but just because someone has a baby doesnt mean 1 less for someone else or we wouldnt be in a baby boom! I get the occasional pang of jealousy as my sister-in-law is due to give birth in 3 weeks - however they have been trying for 5 years so this baby is so wanted and very much deserved. It is her turn and im genuinely happy for her.

ILLT: wooo 52 days isnt long at all!!

laurabllue

Daisy, I didn't have a period at all after coming off the pill. I mentioned it to my friend who's a doctor and also to my own doctor and they both said it's completely normal. My doctor suggested if hadn't turned up after 3-4 months then he'd get some blood tests done. As it was we were incredibly lucky and I got pregnant straight away (H keeps on going on about his 'super sperm') and as I'm now 15 weeks I actually haven't had a period since April!

I honestly doubt it's a reflection on your weight, give it another month or so at least before you start even thinking about worrying. It's not really fair for your sister to say that to you. And showing signs of ovulating is good, your cycles might just be longer than 'average' I don't think hardly anyone seems to have perfect 28-day cycles.

Sethisis

Daisyegg Stop stressing - you've only just come off the pill, things will be fine. I think being in the wttc period makes you naturally more time conscious, we spend way too much time thinking about how much time everything's going to take. Like, ILLT, I bet even though in just 1 and half month's time you're going to start work on becoming a mother (For life) it still feels like it's ages away :rotfl:

Also the jealousy thing is completely normal, it's not evil or anything - but when you really want a baby, seeing other people get there before you always hurts a bit.

Cookiee

Hey lovely ladies x Hope your having a fab weekend x

Well AF has arrived and so far I am coping not too bad. I have only thrown up once and the extra strength painkillers my consultant prescribed seem to be working.

OH and I have also sat down and worked out the money and maternity fund etc etc and we have worked out we can start trying from the end of this month!!! OMG I am scared as hell but know this is the next chapter in our lives x

So I will be moving over to the TTC board and hope to see you all there soon x Love Cookiee x

Jonesy88

Oooo Cookiee good luck! What a fantastic Christmas present a BFP would be!