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Husband wants to loan step-brother 600. How to make sure we get it back?
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she asked him for the pin. I think hubby has mild learning difficulties as it runs in the family.0
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she asked him for the pin. I think hubby has mild learning difficulties as it runs in the family.
Arnie - has she still got the PIN and does he have the card?
You really need to separate business from personal - if either have access to your business account at the current moment, call the bank now and tell them you have lost your card, to put a stop on the account, to issue a new card and PIN immediately.Sanctimonious Veggie. GYO-er. Seed Saver. Get in.0 -
You're not going to get a funeral for £600.
Where is the rest coming from?0 -
It was an old post office account be no longer has access to.
Can I just honestly ask people here, do you think she has a blinking cheek even asking?
Husband now says he agrees with me and they should not have a penny however I am not sure if he genuinely believes this or I have worn him down nagging!0 -
The sister of the deceased is paying 450 and the deceased had 300 savings. Interestingly his son has not sold his x box and my mother in law who is now not talking to me has contributed nada even though she can afford to smoke 40 cigs a day0
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It was an old post office account be no longer has access to.
Can I just honestly ask people here, do you think she has a blinking cheek even asking?
Husband now says he agrees with me and they should not have a penny however I am not sure if he genuinely believes this or I have worn him down nagging!
She's not got a cheek asking you or other relatives. She does have a cheek putting pressure on your husband after you've both said no for good reasons. She's manipulating his good nature knowing he can't say no to her.
Take your husband out this afternoon for a walk in the sun and a cup of tea. You both deserve a bit of peace and quiet for a while. Give him a cuddle. Show your husband you appreciate his change of heart for both your benefit. He'll be feeling guilty for going against his Mum. In his mind he can't win.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
"Any more posts you want to make on something you obviously know very little about?"
Is an actual reaction to my posts, so please don't rely on anything I say.0 -
ok getting away from the fact that your hubby is a soft touch. Do you love him if so chill out over the money issues. however take charge of the families money.
now are all the dead step fathers near family on the dole if not then the social won't pay out.
personally find out how much the funeral is my mums was in the region of 3 thousand for a simple crem job.
divide the sum minus any social payment by the number of near relatives and pay the same to the undertaker. they won't mind it being paid in bits. however to save the arguments this should be a gift to the family. as your not going to get it back.
please try and remember that its his family don't make it a choice between your family and his.0 -
They are all on benefits not one job between them0
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Sorry to hear about the loss of your mum
Sounds like your hubby is easily led/taken advantage of, and by what you've said about MIL, I can well imagine her throwing a massive strop if she doesn't get her own way.
Hubby sounds very sweet. But I agree with you in that the family shouldn't get a penny the way they're acting, and as mentioned the DWP in some way or another will foot/help with the expenses (my own step-dad passed away a year ago this week, and my mum, a pensioner, got most of the expenses paid).
I don't think you're a cow at all, as mentioned you seem very sensible and streetwise.
Anyway, keep standing strong and don't let hubby's family take the pizz. Just follow the excellent advice given already0 -
Arachne my husband is the most lovely generous sweet person you could meet. I love him dearly and he is a great dad to our toddler.0
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