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Husband wants to loan step-brother 600. How to make sure we get it back?
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What's even worse is my mum passed away last week and I have not had a card or even a "are you okay" phone call from any of them0 -
All hell has now broken loose. Despite hubby agreeing not to hand over cash from MY business account (I am a sole trader) the mother in law (mil) just called and he has said she can have the cash today. I phoned back fuming explaining that this is not a good month as 3 of my customers are not paying up and so the whole thing will now go to county court which will take about ten months.
Phone slammed down on me and husband says we are now not going to the funeral.
I know I will get flamed for speaking ill about the dead but I genuinely did not like the guy and considering he punched my husband in the face
And called him the b word I cannot understand why my husband is going out of his way.
I never liked him and I do not like his son who is a young asbo toting thug.
There I have said it. Call me a cow I do not care
You are perfectly entitled to your opinion of the deceased and their family. I actually like your honesty. Most people are thoroughly hypocritical once someone has died.
Families, eh? Can your husband access the money? If he can, I would consider moving it. He seems somewhat duplicitous.0 -
You poor thing. This is just the kind of time you need your Mum too.
You are extra emotional because you are grieving your Mum. And with no one understanding you, you are all alone.
Don't worry about disliking his family so much. Its understandable and many more people feel the same about their families or in-laws. Just keep diplomatic when you are talking to him and them. You're lumbered with them now :-} Keep a distance in future if you can, especially if you don't want them as role models for any children you have.
As you have those 3 clients owing you money, you are either never going to get it from them or its going to take a long time and lot of paperwork & effort to take 3 clients to court so either way £600 is not around the corner.
Your husband is planning to take the £600 out of your business - right? If he's not worried if that pushes the business over the edge so you don't have an income or it means you both have to sell things to re-coup, then that means this issue is more important to him than your own security. Maybe you have to give in on this occasion for the sake of your marriage.
Personally, I don't like that your husband is correctly agreeing one thing with you then doing the complete opposite behind your back, without coming back to you to discuss and jointly agreeing . He's just making you (the sensible one) look bad in front of his step family and creating resentment for the future. He's also making a rod for your backs for future requests. They'll know he's an easy touch if they all keep it quiet from you.
Would a compromise of £300 be any more manageable? But make the decision on knowing you'll never get it back.
Edit: - Why don't you ask hubby what he'd really do if his Mum and step brother weren't pressuring him. Take that answer into account and resolve to both be strong together with your decision. If the family keep splitting you it doesn't bode well for future hurdles in your marriage. Strive for a united front and make sure hubby supports your joint decision, not say he has to do what you say.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
"Any more posts you want to make on something you obviously know very little about?"
Is an actual reaction to my posts, so please don't rely on anything I say.0 -
All hell has now broken loose. Despite hubby agreeing not to hand over cash from MY business account (I am a sole trader) the mother in law (mil) just called and he has said she can have the cash today. I phoned back fuming explaining that this is not a good month as 3 of my customers are not paying up and so the whole thing will now go to county court which will take about ten months.
Phone slammed down on me and husband says we are now not going to the funeral.
I know I will get flamed for speaking ill about the dead but I genuinely did not like the guy and considering he punched my husband in the face
And called him the b word I cannot understand why my husband is going out of his way.
I never liked him and I do not like his son who is a young asbo toting thug.
There I have said it. Call me a cow I do not care
Your husband is in no position to take money out of your business account. If you have paid back £2500 then why can't he take money from that if he really wants to fund the funeral?
If he really does want to pay for it then pay for it but it needs to be out of his account not your business account.Sanctimonious Veggie. GYO-er. Seed Saver. Get in.0 -
He is arguing that because he spent the majority of the 2.5k on joint purchases eg food and a holiday I has not given him the money for himself0
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He is arguing that because he spent the majority of the 2.5k on joint purchases eg food and a holiday I has not given him the money for himself
And any profits from the business surely go on joint purchases like mortgage rent food bills etc. But he can't just take money from a business account where he is not the owner. If the business is lending money then it becomes a different business. When it's business there are different legal statuses involved, and it's not a charity! It's a business...
It could all get very very messy...ESP if you don't get it back.Sanctimonious Veggie. GYO-er. Seed Saver. Get in.0 -
I have now been told if we cough up today we will get every penny back on Monday. I have said if he is so sure he can repay it he can go to the wonga website
My hubby does not seem to understand if we pay this will not be the end of things it will be the beginning . We will be deluged with sob stories off the. And will become the family cash point0 -
Funky it is a sole tradership and I transferred my drawings to him nothing dodgy in that
I know it sounds thick with hindsight but I transferre the drawings to him as I constantly am losing my cash card (I have bipolar that massively effects my concentration) I thought if I transferre it to him he would keep it safe
Oh no he lost 360 on the ppi scam and he had never even bought ppi!0 -
I have now been told if we cough up today we will get every penny back on Monday. I have said if he is so sure he can repay it he can go to the wonga website
My hubby does not seem to understand if we pay this will not be the end of things it will be the beginning . We will be deluged with sob stories off the. And will become the family cash point
Spot on Arnie123~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
"Any more posts you want to make on something you obviously know very little about?"
Is an actual reaction to my posts, so please don't rely on anything I say.0 -
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